Tis the season to be jolly :0/

HealthyDreamy
HealthyDreamy Posts: 42 Member
edited November 8 in Health and Weight Loss
Hello,

So I am on a journey to lose about 2 stone having lost 1 stone. I am excercising with the C25K and may I say that I am really enjoying it! I feel very determined and although I am determined I am an all or nothing kinda gal. I cannot have one drink, I cannot have one chocolate but I am ok with that. Maybe when I get to where I want to be I will be able to have that one drink etc, but I am not there yet.

So I have been invited to quite a few chirstmas dinners etc, I have planned my meals accordingly ahead of dining out, I have decided to drink sparkling water rather than diet coke (it makes me feel groggy as I never usually drink fizzy pop).

So getting to the point, I am a bit annoyed with my friend as she knows I am on this journey and yet after booking a restaurant she actively texts me on my return to the office to ask if I would be drinking the evening we went out but no worries if not. If its no worries then why ask? Its just irked me a lot. I replied oh yeah I may have a couple but I feel its rude for her to ask, as if I am boring without a drink, also I have work the next day and she doesnt and I do not feel dinner with her is worth falling off track.

I feel on the day I will say ahh just the thought of alcohol is not tempting right now so I will stick with fizzy h2o. If she then doesnt want to come out with me anymore then so be it. My husbands parents are the same too, I may add both my friend and my husbands parents like good drink more than the average...do you think they think im above them, you know what some people are like when they drink lots of alcohol and then you dont.

Does anyone else have this issue with people?

What do you drink on a night out other than H2o and diet coke, nothing seems to be generally healthy?

How are you going to cope with the upcoming social events of the season?

I am writing off Christmas eve, Christmas day and NYE and NY Day and thats it haha! :smiley:

Thanks for reading and sorry if this has been posted before :blush:

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  • ahoy_m8
    ahoy_m8 Posts: 3,053 Member
    edited November 2014
    I don't blame you for being annoyed. Not all messages merit a response.

    I budget a few glasses of wine on weekends in my calories for the week, and holiday gatherings present opportunities for more wine than usual. My fav non-alcoholic drink is sparkling water with a few drops of bitters. There are some really interesting bitters on the market now, too.

    Stay with your plan. Maybe get better friends. Cheers!
  • RodaRose
    RodaRose Posts: 9,562 Member
    You are going out to be with your people. If you are not drinking alcohol, fizzy h2o, or diet coke, order anything else. Regular coke at 12 ounces for 140 calories will work.
  • concordancia
    concordancia Posts: 5,320 Member
    Perhaps she wanted you to be the designated driver? That is why my friends always ask.

    The first thing you can do is change your attitude. You are "an all or nothing gal," because you believe that you are. Set a limit for yourself and spend the between now and each dinner picturing yourself sticking to that limit. Maybe one dinner it is nothing and for another it is two drinks.
  • aloranger7708
    aloranger7708 Posts: 422 Member
    I understand how you are feeling. I too used to be an all or nothing girl, so I'm not gonna say anything to make you change your eating habits! It worked for me so if it works for you to then that's great.

    Anyway, I'm not a big drinker either. I drink maybe twice per year but all my friends and family think something's "wrong" if you don't drink. I would just tell them to shove off, it's not their business. Another good alternative is unsweetened iced tea with a lemon or a flavored water.

    Good luck!
  • esjones12
    esjones12 Posts: 1,363 Member
    Drinking packs a TON of calories. Plus if you are like me the more you drink the more you eat. I've cut back a ton on my drinking....and I've lost some friends over it. Their loss. I don't like going out in big crazy drinking scenarios anymore. But I still enjoy getting tipsy here and there.

    Embrace the people that support you. Ignore the ones that don't. People will always find something to judge you for. I got looks for turning down free pizza in the office today. I don't care.....I have goals and priorities and pizza is not one of them.

    You have to find what is right for you and do it. People will try to derail you, make you feel guilty, etc. That is in all aspects of life! You are the only one who controls what goes into your body. You are the only one who can make change happen.

    Good luck!!!!!!
  • HealthyDreamy
    HealthyDreamy Posts: 42 Member
    WOW thank you all so much for your great comments and your right, she is the one with the problem not me and if I dont like to drink (like we say I cant stop at one and then I will eat naughty and then recover the next by eating naughty plus I have work the next day and she doesnt) so it is just not worth it! I will purely say ahh yeah I just cant face alcohol tonight, and can even sya my boss wants me in for an early meeting - i feel so much better thanks lovelies :smiley:
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