People telling you, you lost enough weight

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  • lswatson111304
    lswatson111304 Posts: 80 Member
    I get this a lot too
  • MamaRiss
    MamaRiss Posts: 481 Member
    I heard this a lot over Thanksgiving. "You're thin enough", "you'll blow away in the breeze", "it's time for maintenance", "you're making the rest of us look fat". But only from my husbands extended family, the people that saw me the most while overweight. My side of the family, most of whom hadn't seen me in 10 years or more were very encouraging, because I was back to what they remember me being as a teenager. I'll keep going until I'm happy; right now I'm smack dab in the middle of "healthy" BMI range, so 5-10 more pounds would be nice
  • KimofTas
    KimofTas Posts: 48 Member
    Maybe they mean it as a compliment? Mum used to say to people that they'll "fade away to a shadow" and she never meant it meanly, just out of concern and a compliment that they look great just as they are now.
  • gabrielleelliott90
    gabrielleelliott90 Posts: 854 Member
    Tell them to get a clue. I'm 5'4, I only reached normal bmi at 143lb I think? And I'm 140lb now. No one has told me I'm thin enough, yet, but I am thin. But I plan on keeping on going until I feel I'm thin enough.
  • rbfdac
    rbfdac Posts: 1,057 Member
    Nope, can't say I have experienced this. I have lost 33 pounds and people probably wonder when the hell I'm going to start a diet and stop being so overweight.

    Can't help but feel like the OP is "bragplaining"
    "People are telling me I'm already skinny and I don't need to be skinnier! Who else feels like this!!!???"

    But, maybe I'm just in a mood.
  • dswolverine
    dswolverine Posts: 246 Member
    Yea, I got that from my mom and sister at my lowest, 147ish and 5'9". I was hardly wasting away, or remotely close to it. They kept insisting I was "too thin." Hardly. Just ignore and move on!
  • redheaddee
    redheaddee Posts: 2,005 Member
    Opinions are like *kitten*: everyone has one, and they all stink.
  • squeakybuttcheeks
    squeakybuttcheeks Posts: 54 Member
    I get this all the time! Just do what makes you happy and ignore them. <3 good job with what you have lost so far!
  • jan3h
    jan3h Posts: 55 Member
    Yes, all the time (I've lost 30kg) and I am still 5 kg (11lbs) off the top of the weight range for my height! My theory is that because the general tendency in the population is to overweight, people have forgotten what healthy looks like. Ignore the saboteurs and do what you think is right for you :smile:
  • lemurcat12
    lemurcat12 Posts: 30,886 Member
    empireman85 wrote: »
    Personally I would consider that a NSV. But then again I'm a long way from anyone making that comment.

    I'm at a point where I get that comment (the first time was when I was still above my normal weight BMI range, although not by much) and I still consider it an NSV and also don't take it too seriously. I think it's largely just one of those things people say. I usually just smile and say thanks or if asked about my plans say "oh, I'll probably lose a bit more."

    People are kind of awkward around weight stuff in general. Someone I haven't seen in ages saw me today and said "you look amazing, you lost like 300 lbs." Pretty sure that just came out wrong, but I thought it was funny and hope she doesn't think about it later and feel weird. (I never actually had 300 lbs to lose, but I've lost 88, so close enough.)
  • lyttlewon
    lyttlewon Posts: 1,118 Member
    It's a backhanded compliment if you want to qualify it as a complement. Yes I've been getting a lot of body shaming comments and up front sabotage. From my healthy weight friends I've learned it's something they hear too. I've been given more negative statements at a healthy weight than I heard heavy. I try to keep in mind my success might reflect their own body issues back at them. When I stop to think about it, this helps. I have enough of a struggle with my weight I don't need other people projecting their insecurities on me.
  • numinousnymph
    numinousnymph Posts: 249 Member
    Francl27 wrote: »
    Yes. Always tempted to say 'but you haven't seen me naked'.
    ^^^ this lol. OP i have gotten this more than a few times and i just want to tell them that my clothes hide the fat i still have that i'm still trying to lose. i tell them i'm not going to go to an unhealthy weight, and i'm still at a healthy weight now. it's frustrating when they say things like "you'll blow away! you'll disappear!" etc. urgh >.< it doesn't make me change my stance on what i want to do, i just let it be "water off a duck's back".
  • MirrorMe33
    MirrorMe33 Posts: 35 Member
    This happens to me all the time. I'll shed a decent amount of weight and have family tell me I'm getting too skinny. Each time this happens I've been on the borderline of being overweight (and certainly had plenty of extra fat hanging off the sides). It's interesting how people react when they see you achieving and want the same without the effort!
  • lewispwest
    lewispwest Posts: 498 Member
    Yep, get told this a lot. I don't argue with the person since I'm sure they'll start getting in to the whole "body dysmorphia" crap so I just say "oh yeah I've stopped, just toning up now" to keep them quiet.
  • lemurcat12
    lemurcat12 Posts: 30,886 Member
    lyttlewon wrote: »
    I've been given more negative statements at a healthy weight than I heard heavy.

    This is SO not my experience. Most people don't say anything either way, although they might say something negative about overweight and then seem awkward when they remember you are fat. So I was lucky enough not to get anything more than rare concerned comments when I was fat (you'd be so pretty if...), but get nothing but positive comments for being thinner. But then I guess I take "you are SO skinny" or "skinny minny" (neither yet this time) or "you don't need to lose more weight" or "you don't need to worry about it" as anything but positive comments, even if silly or wrong. Many of the positive comments make it obvious that the fat was seen as a very bad thing, although no one said anything before (and that would be silly to be bothered by, IMO, because of course it's so).

    I often wonder if I just live surrounded by much politer people or if it's some weird subculture difference. I do know that many of those in my particular surroundings/subculture are less likely to be overweight than in the US in general, so maybe that makes a difference.
  • lyttlewon
    lyttlewon Posts: 1,118 Member
    edited December 2014
    lemurcat12 wrote: »
    lyttlewon wrote: »
    I've been given more negative statements at a healthy weight than I heard heavy.

    This is SO not my experience. Most people don't say anything either way, although they might say something negative about overweight and then seem awkward when they remember you are fat. So I was lucky enough not to get anything more than rare concerned comments when I was fat (you'd be so pretty if...), but get nothing but positive comments for being thinner. But then I guess I take "you are SO skinny" or "skinny minny" (neither yet this time) or "you don't need to lose more weight" or "you don't need to worry about it" as anything but positive comments, even if silly or wrong. Many of the positive comments make it obvious that the fat was seen as a very bad thing, although no one said anything before (and that would be silly to be bothered by, IMO, because of course it's so).

    I often wonder if I just live surrounded by much politer people or if it's some weird subculture difference. I do know that many of those in my particular surroundings/subculture are less likely to be overweight than in the US in general, so maybe that makes a difference.

    I don't take skinny minny as a negative comment. Comments like "wasting away" or that I'm "going crazy with this fitness thing" or "taking things too far" are a lot of what I hear. I'm still a high BF%, so it's not like I am actually wasting away. I work in an office so I refuse the chocolate cup or the cake and get an eye roll, or I plan my life around my work out schedule. It really rubs some people the wrong way.
  • GrammyPeachy
    GrammyPeachy Posts: 1,723 Member
    In my experience, it's always overweight people who have these concerns about others being too thin. Why don't they worry more about themselves being too heavy. Hmmmm?

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