When health isn't enough reason

jrose1982
jrose1982 Posts: 366 Member
edited December 2014 in Motivation and Support
Every now and then I read a post that says, basically, "why don't you just do it?" (referring to somebody else's lack of weight loss effort). I often think that they just don't have a good enough reason. To many people, getting healthier is good enough reason. They start because their doctor told them to, or because they don't want to get diabetes. For others, social pressure does the trick: they simply want to look better, or they're ashamed of their current weight.

For me, it's none of these reasons. When I was an obese teenager, I wanted to look better. But that wasn't enough. When I was in college, my parents were diagnosed with diabetes. I became very aware of my risk, but it still wasn't enough. I hit 200 lbs, and became ashamed, but that wasn't enough either. I had nieces and nephews that I love playing with, but I couldn't keep up with them, or play for very long with my lack of energy. Still, it wasn't enough.

What inspired me get serious? Doctor Who.
As I approached my 30's I became acutely aware of a strong desire for adventure. I deeply enjoy books and shows that involve adventures - and there's plenty in Doctor Who. I held some silly fantasies about accompanying Doctor Who around the universe, or walking into Mordor, or dodging a dragon on a broomstick. But I also had more realistic fantasies: backpacking through Europe, hiking in the mountains, building infrastructure with the Peace Corp.

One day I saw a show in which the show host interviewed Whovians at a convention and asked "If you were the Doctor's companion, do you think you would survive?" Giving this some serious thought, I had to say no, I wouldn't. I couldn't possibly keep up with all the running. And then, if I did, my brain seems to shut down when heart rate goes up so I wouldn't be able to rely on my cleverness either.

Silly as it sounds, this was a tough reality for me. Because I also had to face the reality that if I went back-packing around Europe, I would have to sit down every 30 minutes. I could never hike anything longer than a mile. And if I did I would be holding up anybody else that goes with me. I've got a good head on my shoulders, and I'm good when things don't go as planned. But the reality is that any kind of adventure that requires me to move could quite possibly kill me. I crave adventure, not suicide. That's when I got serious.

So I found my motivation in something that matters to me more than all the rest. Health: no. Beauty: no. Social pressure: no. Family time: No. Long life: No. Adventure: yes. Freedom: yes.

The more common motivations just don't cut it for everybody. Do you have a less conventional motivation? Please share it.

Replies

  • Kalikel
    Kalikel Posts: 9,603 Member
    Your post is very touching and the honesty and sincerity are so refreshing. I had to crack up a little at the "I crave adventure, not suicide," lol.

    I had special circumstances and never had a Come To Jesus moment that resulted in weight loss, but I so give everyone who does all the props in the world.

    Good for you!!! Seriously. Way to go. :)
  • jrose1982
    jrose1982 Posts: 366 Member
    Kalikel wrote: »
    Your post is very touching and the honesty and sincerity are so refreshing. I had to crack up a little at the "I crave adventure, not suicide," lol.

    I had special circumstances and never had a Come To Jesus moment that resulted in weight loss, but I so give everyone who does all the props in the world.

    Good for you!!! Seriously. Way to go. :)

    Thanks :smile:
  • MamaRiss
    MamaRiss Posts: 481 Member
    Love me some Doctor Who. But I would need advance warning if he chose me as a companion. I need my cingulair and inhaler to keep up with all the running
  • llUndecidedll
    llUndecidedll Posts: 724 Member
    edited December 2014
    I just want to try to be happy or at least satisfied with my life.
  • brissie71
    brissie71 Posts: 13 Member
    I totally agree. I'm not sure I've found my 'reason' for losing weight yet - I have a whole host of reasons why I 'should', but nothing's pushed me over the brink yet. However, this happened for me when I decided to give up smoking. I discovered a new hobby and couldn't afford to buy the tools I needed as well as buy cigarettes. The cigarettes had to go. That was 12 years ago and I haven't had a single craving since. I'm still looking for my weight loss equivalent. Sewing my own clothes - and wanting to look good in them - is sort of getting there, but not quite.
  • oh my gosh, yes. DOCTOR WHO. I think about this all the time. I wouldn't last as a companion because I can't run for 10 seconds without feeling like I'm completely worn out. ahahaha.
  • solongsugar
    solongsugar Posts: 4 Member
    While browser-shopping for workout clothes, I came across a few slogans that made me smile: "Train like you've just been picked for the Hunger Games", "Magical Girl Training" (w/ Sailor Moon motif), "Fight Like a Girl" (Samus Aran/Chun Li). Not a fan of any of those series, but I find the shirts cute and empowering.
  • 47Jacqueline
    47Jacqueline Posts: 6,993 Member
    I have a friend who smoked for 30 years and really didn't want to quit even though it affected her health. At one point she needed to get false teeth and the dentist wouldn't do it unless she stopped smoking. That seemed to make sense to her and she actually quit. Now she's also in rehab 3x a week because of all the problems that the smoking caused and she's doing cardio workouts for an hour each time.

    My health is enough motivation for me, but it's good to know that an extrinsic motivation can work as well. I do think, and most research shows, that a switch to instrinsic motivation is necessary for a continue adherence to getting/staying fit.
  • 3laine75
    3laine75 Posts: 3,069 Member
    Fabulous motivation.

    I just like my clothes to fit nice but a great bonus point for getting fit and strong is that I'm confident I'd now survive the zombie apocalypse :)
  • lemurcat12
    lemurcat12 Posts: 30,886 Member
    Great post! Love the Doctor Who motivation and it really can be things like that that crystalize everything, IME.
  • clarion_r
    clarion_r Posts: 53 Member
    That is the BEST op - that is the most kick *kitten* motivation ever!

    I wanted to lift weights and be strong! Finding something I enjoy doing at the gym is really motivating and it changed how I eat, because I need to eat to make sure I have enough fuel to do what I want. Realising food is fuel (although it never will be JUST fuel!) was really a turning point for me I think.
  • NikonPal
    NikonPal Posts: 1,346 Member
    jrose1982 wrote: »
    Every now and then I read a post that says, basically, "why don't you just do it?" (referring to somebody else's lack of weight loss effort). I often think that they just don't have a good enough reason. To many people, getting healthier is good enough reason.

    So I found my motivation in something that matters to me more than all the rest. Health: no. Beauty: no. Social pressure: no. Family time: No. Long life: No. Adventure: yes. Freedom: yes.

    The more common motivations just don't cut it for everybody. Do you have a less conventional motivation? Please share it.

    I think the best was your bottom-line: "...So I found my motivation in something that matters to me more than all the rest. Health: no. Beauty: no. Social pressure: no. Family time: No. Long life: No. Adventure: yes. Freedom: yes..."

    Everyone is different and needs to find his or her own motivation and plan. Nice job!