I am sorry for being so angry that you only have 15 punds to

i feel that way every now and then, i just started and have 92 pounds to loose for my goal!!!!! what i hate is when skinny people say they are fat or when skinny people in my family or people around town make fun of me or other bigger people cuz im a bigger girl or they are bigger people and they are the size of a twig and have been all their life and can eat twice as much as me and not gain anything then they tell me oh its easy to loose the weight or its easy to not put it on its like EXCUSE ME but everyone is different and i happen to be someone who gains weight and you happen to be some one that weight avoids like the frickin plague... but keep your chin up we will all reach our goals one day and then when we see someone who is bigger we wont ridicule them or make fun of them or laugh cuz we know what its like to be them and how much it hurts

Totally normal to feel that way! The journey through weight loss can do a number of things to you on the inside too...

Just know that some of us are at different stages in our journey. All of our bodies are different and need different systems to get us where we want to be. I've been on the larger side and now I'm slowly making it onto the smaller side. It's amazing how for me it's just gotten more difficult. I feel some of my old ways calling me back after I've been so strong for so long. I feel discouraged that the scale moves slower the closer that I am to my goal and over time have grown so aware of the way I look - or the way I don't want to look. We're all trying to make it through the same struggle together. We'll get there! It helps to have people to talk to who know how you feel and can relate. We've all been unhappy with our weight - We're all working on a better "me"

I completely understand. The road ahead may be long and rough but let me tell you...once you get there, you will be grateful that you stuck in there and pushed through. I may only have 18 pounds left to lose but no matter where you are at, whether you have 100 pounds to lose or 10, the road is going to look long. It took me a year to get to this point it was both the longest and shortest year of my life. I'm excited that I'm so close but I am also so far away at times. Hang in there! You've got this!

I get totally jealous of the people who post about not being able to eat all their calories. I'm like really? I could eat double that if I was allowed. I WISH I didn't have this HUGE appetite. *sighs*

THIS THIS THIS THIS.

I especially get this when people's goal calories are 1200 and they've already burned an extra like 800 calories that day doing some awesome class, and they can't even eat 1200, much less their exercise calories. They agonize and eventually eat, like, three cups of spinach and five carrots to try and hit their minimum calories. Psh! I could eat that many calories and not even NOTICE if I weren't logging! I'm like, GIVE ME YOUR TINY TUMMY, GIVE IT TO ME NAAOOO!!! Hahahaha. :laugh:

I know how you feel, even though I am one who has 15 to go. I have been on the other end. Although I didn't grow up with a weight issue, I gained 80 pounds after my kids were born when I lost a job and depression kicked in. I had joined LA Weight Loss at 265 pounds in October of 2005. I looked at my thinner friends and family and hated them, too! It's like they were shoving it in my face how much thinner they were... So, long story short, I joined LA, spend a TON of money and lost 80 pounds in 5 months. I felt so much better! Then I fell off the diet, and gained back 30. I floated there for several years before I finally found the motivation again to continue with my weight loss. I have lost almost 40 now with MFP since New Years.

My sister in law recently started a diet at a center, and was jealous of my smaller jeans and lack of the "obese" arrow on the weight/height charts. I dug out the pair of jeans that I loved when I was at my heaviest. Jeans that were getting tight on me. Jeans that I can now pull up to my arm pits or fit both legs in one leg. I did this because I knew those big jeans are too big for her where she is now. (By one size, I was a 22W and she's in 20, but still.)

I waved them in her face and said, 'don't tell me I we're so different, because we're not! We're just in different stages!' So, I will tell you. I was jealous of those weight loss success stories. At first. Then they started to empower me. I knew I wasn't in no man's land, this was territory travelled by many souls before me. Now, I know a lot of my friends and family are looking at me like I once looked at many of them. Once the weight starts moving, you'll feel compelled to keep going until once day, you'll look back on where you came from with a sense of pride.

Some day you'll be the one that others use to motivate themselves to start their weight loss journey! No regrets, keeping moving and don't give up! I wish you the best on your journey to a healthier you!

Trish

SW: 265 LAWL 10/05
LW: 185 LAWL 3/06

(got up to 223 somewhere in between and bounced around a little)

SW: 214 MFP 1/3/11
CW: 175
GW: 160 ??

Those people you feel jealous of. Befriend them. Learn what you can. That's what I do. When I see someone who has lost more weight then me I like to peek into their food diary (if able) and get some ideas.

I think it's totally normal.

I get jealous when I see the 2 pounds to go, or even the 84 pounds lost!

Then I stop and think that I only have 50 to go, and there are other people who have much more and probably feel the same way about me.

Jealousy is part of human nature, don't beat yourself up over it. For instance I get jealous of people that have better careers than me, ha ha .. .people get jealous over anything.

Also, I don't think we should think in terms of pounds. I think in terms of percentage, what percentage of your body weight have you lost, etc. Some people are on here for maintenance too, so you're going to see people who don't have to lose any weight (now) but maybe have had to. Some people want to build a lot more muscle. Some people might have been a lot heavier even before they joined MFP but you won't know it because they lost a lot of weight before they entered their biggest size on MFP. You never know.

Maybe it would make you feel better to ask for friends that are in a similar time in your struggle. I've seen posts that say "Wanted: friends that need to lose X amount of weight". There's no harm in asking for specific types of MFP buddies. I asked for low carb or Paleo Diet friends, for instance. If it makes you feel you're amongst your piers, put a post asking for people you feel are in your same situation.

I have found that the more I work on my emotional health the less jealous of people I become. I was brought up in a family of women who have been resentful and envious of others their whole lives, so it is a difficult adjustment.

So when we work on being happy every day no matter what, practice gratitude and being aware of our gifts, we do not focus so much on what others have that we don't.

BTW I do have a little pang when people whinge about their partners not being supportive - being a widow sure puts that in perspective.

GG

I had joined WW with my sister-in-law and watched her meet goal in six months why I continued to lose and gain, lose and gain, having no idea what the heck I was doing wrong! I HATED her!! Then I realized that I just needed to focus on me, I quit WW, started running, (she does little form of exercise) and joined MFP and haven't looked back! Soon, you will be at a place where you will think "I can't believe how far I have come!"......hang in there! :flowerforyou: