my wife read online that people get fit to look good in bed for others outside the relationship ouch

If you look then you can find almost any opinion on the internet, whilst am sure some people will get fit to look good, then am not sure on what basis whatever she was reading has decided its for people outside a relationship? What was the article based on and how does it reach that conclusion? Did they just make it up? Does your wife believe it?

They are the worst obviously, all looking to cheat with other athletes at all those meets around the world. They are just faster and have more endurance though.

newmeadow wrote: »

What in the word are people doing in bed with others when they're already bound to an existing relationship?

I don't think they have to worry about how they look, if they're already bedding some dillweed who will do them when they're already spoken for. Once you talk someone into bed to indulge in an adulterous fling, appearances don't matter so much anymore.

Sheesh. What is the world coming to?

Only single people should be doing sit ups and yoga and kickboxing and diets and stuff. And even then, it's really only inviting trouble since most single people have a defective social filter. They'll open the door to any moron carrying an FTD bouquet.

hehehehe @999tigger. Damn athletes!

Everyone has their own reasons to become fit. Health should be the number one reason, but sadly, there are those who take their partners for granted and will invite or accept sexual attention from others outside the relationship. Clearly their heart isn't in the right place if they are willing to do that. That's when you pack their things and leave it at the gym for them!

Uh....maybe if they're unhappy in their relationship, they feel they need to look better to be on the hunt again. On my end, losing weight has just boosted my sex drive for my current husband. Whom I love. I guess it goes both ways.
Its probably just insecurity on the part of someone who would say this to you.

lacroyx wrote: »

newmeadow wrote: »

What in the word are people doing in bed with others when they're already bound to an existing relationship?

I don't think they have to worry about how they look, if they're already bedding some dillweed who will do them when they're already spoken for. Once you talk someone into bed to indulge in an adulterous fling, appearances don't matter so much anymore.

Sheesh. What is the world coming to?

Only single people should be doing sit ups and yoga and kickboxing and diets and stuff. And even then, it's really only inviting trouble since most single people have a defective social filter. They'll open the door to any moron carrying an FTD bouquet.

^^LOL - my sentiments exactly!! this person's post...has GOTT to be in jest....

I've never had a relationship so... I do it to feel good. Literally so I'm not asphyxiating on my own belly when I tie my shoes.

sono_master wrote: »

Definitely true in my case. My husband too. We work out together though, so it's all good.

the title is to look good in bed for others outside the relationship - I presume you're swingers then?

Phrick wrote: »

sono_master wrote: »

Definitely true in my case. My husband too. We work out together though, so it's all good.

the title is to look good in bed for others outside the relationship - I presume you're swingers then?

Lolol, I have the best friends!!

I can't speak for others but that wasn't what I was thinking when I started my fitness journey! I wanted to lose weight to look better in my clothes and feel better about myself! I didn't do it for other people..I did it for ME and my long term health.
My husband thought I looked fab even when I was fat, when someone loves you unconditionally they love you no matter how you look.

How about this: is there anyhing wrong with wanting to look more attractive to the opposite sex - and nothing more - yet being committed to your relationship? There's something quite empowering about knowing you're "wanted" as long as you have the strength and integrity to maintain appropriate boundaries and stay faithful.

Looking is looking; if someone wants to cheat, they'll find a way to do it wheher they're in shape or not...

newmeadow wrote: »

What in the word are people doing in bed with others when they're already bound to an existing relationship?

Only single people should be doing sit ups and yoga and kickboxing and diets and stuff. And even then, it's really only inviting trouble since most single people have a defective social filter. They'll open the door to any moron carrying an FTD bouquet.

So... Because I choose to be single at this point in my life, I have a defective social filter? When I started my workout journey, I was with a man who supported me 100%. He never told me I had to be in the gym to get in better shape, it was a choice I made. I now workout because of how I feel with it, without that man in my life. I feel better about myself. I workout to increase my self happiness - not to attract others to me. I workout to be healthy. I workout to combat the effects of an autoimmune disease I've had since I was 12.
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- Question for you, Newmeadow. If single people are the only ones who should be working out, and if that's still inviting trouble - why are you on MFP? Or, have I just read your post to be wrong?

if your post would have being- my wife read online that people get fit to look good for others outside the relationship ouch- i would agree 100% although it's not my case but the -in bed thing is what got me confuse-

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