Holy FB Picture Tag...Mortified!

I think I would feel worse later to look back on these years with family and not have any photos. Even though I don't look as I'd like, I always take pics, especially with my kids.

Why do you care so much about how others feel about you? Also, wouldn't it be better to focus on where you going to be versus where you're currently at?

You can change your settings so photos do not show up on your wall without you approving it. I think you can also prevent yourself from being tagged in photos as well.

Also, echoing all the good advice above; you've made great progress, don't get deterred!

Use as motivation to look better next year. That's what I am doing. I also agree that someday your family will be happy to have these photos because they show your life at this point in time. When my father passed we had a tough time finding photos and I would have given anything to have even unflattering ones if that's all there were.

I am the same way. I have it set so I have to approve all tags. But, once in a while, like when it is an event that involves my kids... I let those pics through because that is who I am right now. That is me. I am a person that is a bit overweight. There are so many other things I could be that are much worse!! I am a good person though, so if all I have going against me is that I could stand to lose a few pounds, then those that love me most need to accept me as I am. And so do I!! Doesn't mean I want unflattering pictures of me out there for everyone to see, but it does mean that I can bend that rule once in awhile to show my family that I am proud to be in their company!!

I personally don't do facebook. I rarely post any "current" picture of myself because I feel ugly in pictures. It's like the camera hates me lol because in person Im acrually decent. lol The picture Ihave up now is from this august/september, see not that recent.

But you look beautiful!!

I couldn't agree more about the FB thing. I highly control what gets published on my name.
Two things:
1- go to settings/privacy, you'll find an option that makes everyone ask for your consent before they tag you. It doesn't keep the pictures to get published but you won't be linked to them.

2- Congrats on starting your weightloss. You don't know this yet, but in a few weeks/months you'll be happy those pictures have been taken. They'll make awesome before/after posts!!!!
A lot of people regret not having before pictures. They show, more than anything else, the progress.

Here's a silver lining!!!!

Ugh, Facebook. I absolutely HATE FB for this reason. Some of my friends are professional photographers and others are amateurs, so there's always a camera around and a quick upload to Facebook. It's embarrassing. I've gained a lot of weight since high school and even more since college and grad school. I kind of don't want people to see how I've ballooned up, that's why I avoid uploading pictures of myself on my own page.

And it makes me feel like a party pooper when I plead to not be in photos. I ask them not to tag me and sometimes they'll remember and other times they'll forget. I'm not a photogenic person. I don't mean that in a self-loathing, poor me kind of way, I mean it in the literal sense that it's almost impossible to get a good photo of me. I wish I could switch my thinking on this and use seeing an unflattering picture of me to motivate me rather than let it get me depressed.

AllOutof_Bubblegum wrote: »

I understand not liking public documentation of your appearance being posted online, but here's the thing:

Your friends already know you're overweight. It's not some big secret. So while it may make you uncomfortable, your friends are not going to see what you are seeing. You might see nothing but all your flaws, but all anyone else is seeing is their dear friend having fun and enjoying herself with people she loves.

This is so so so true!!! You are your own worst critic, OP. I know the feeling well though, and admit to being so distraught over the CONSTANT workplace candid shots at a previous job that I seriously considered changing jobs over it.

Use it as motivation!

This might sound nuts to some people but just throwing it out there...maybe this week you could dress up in something that makes you feel amazing, and have a very close friend or SO take a few photos of you, yeah slightly posed, and in a setting that makes you happy. I am betting you would feel much better seeing those photos...and in a few months you could retake them and feel better still!!

I totally get it as this happened to me after Thanksgiving. A really unflattering pic of me was posted but now I use it as motivation and think about it when I have a craving for something unhealthy. It usually works to kill the craving. I like the idea of using it as my "before" pic.