Finding love?

47Jacqueline
47Jacqueline Posts: 6,993 Member
edited November 9 in Chit-Chat
I'm sure this can go anywhere in this forum and that's fine. Just looking for conversation. ;)

I'm over 60, in good shape, smart, reasonably attractive, active. I joined a couple of dating sites about 4 months ago and have only been on 2 dates. Most men my age are looking for women at least 10 years younger, if not more and those that are open don't seem interested in meeting.

I am stumped!

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  • salembambi
    salembambi Posts: 5,585 Member
    have you joined that dating site ourtime ?? its more aimed for your age group and would probably be awesome
  • mrsKOrtiz
    mrsKOrtiz Posts: 949 Member
    salembambi wrote: »
    have you joined that dating site ourtime ?? its more aimed for your age group and would probably be awesome

    Yea because you are beautiful so it shouldn't be hard to pick a lucky guy up!
  • CooperSprings
    CooperSprings Posts: 754 Member
    Girl, you do NOT look your age.
    I vote trying our time.
    A man worthy of your time will show up eventually. :p

    It must be tough, even though you're gorgeous.
    I hope you find a good one! :)
  • markiend
    markiend Posts: 461 Member
    It might be worth looking at your profile and ask youself " am I putting out there that I am looking for Love ?? " or am i just wanting to date and see what happens ?

    It's great that you are trying and willing to ask for help, but from a singletons ( and very happy about it ) , I would be wary of anybody who seems to be looking for love, when all I want to do is go on dates..

    hope you catch my drift. Don't risk spooking the herd with the L word

  • 47Jacqueline
    47Jacqueline Posts: 6,993 Member
    I have a couple of months more on the three I signed up with, but I think I'll check it out and see if I want to replace it with that one.

    To the guy who's happily single - don't change; and definitely don't sign up on a dating site. :)
  • 47Jacqueline
    47Jacqueline Posts: 6,993 Member
    buckshot500 wrote: »
    If I were single and looking, I would try my luck right here on MFP chitchat. There are some very sexy and interesting people here for real. At least from a guy's standpoint.

    Well, if there's anyone around, I am on the forum regularly. ;-)
  • 47Jacqueline
    47Jacqueline Posts: 6,993 Member
    Batting my eyelashes. o:)
  • swole_elsa
    swole_elsa Posts: 247 Member
    My mom is in the exact same boat. She's 51, breathtakingly beautiful, intelligent, and very active. She hasn't been able to get a date in years! She tried dating sites and only attracted the scary people. I'm chalking it up to her being very intimidating. I think the right one is probably going to take some time to find, and openness (not lower standards, but openness!) is key. My mom's very picky, so I try to tell her this often ;)
  • apparations
    apparations Posts: 264 Member
    edited December 2014
    bettering_madison wrote: »
    My mom is in the exact same boat. She's 51, breathtakingly beautiful, intelligent, and very active. She hasn't been able to get a date in years! She tried dating sites and only attracted the scary people. I'm chalking it up to her being very intimidating. I think the right one is probably going to take some time to find, and openness (not lower standards, but openness!) is key. My mom's very picky, so I try to tell her this often ;)

    My dad as well. He's over 60 and has been single for almost 10 years now, barely dating! He's tried online dating but he has a hard time because apparently it's slim pickings... and also he is quite picky. According to him the ladies are always misrepresenting themselves and look much older or more overweight than they appear in their profiles-- and he is very young looking for his age and keeps very fit. And the ones that don't he thinks are just boring. Lol. I would like to see him find someone though!
  • swole_elsa
    swole_elsa Posts: 247 Member
    apparations wrote: »
    bettering_madison wrote: »
    My mom is in the exact same boat. She's 51, breathtakingly beautiful, intelligent, and very active. She hasn't been able to get a date in years! She tried dating sites and only attracted the scary people. I'm chalking it up to her being very intimidating. I think the right one is probably going to take some time to find, and openness (not lower standards, but openness!) is key. My mom's very picky, so I try to tell her this often ;)

    My dad as well. He's over 60 and has been single for almost 10 years now, barely dating! He's tried online dating but he has a hard time because apparently it's slim pickings... and also he is quite picky. According to him the ladies are always misrepresenting themselves and look much older or more overweight than they appear in their profiles-- and he is very young looking for his age and keeps very fit. And the ones that don't he thinks are just boring. Lol. I would like to see him find someone though!

    I would like to photo swap and see if we can play matchmaker perhaps;-)
  • 47Jacqueline
    47Jacqueline Posts: 6,993 Member
    Ahh, another reason to have had kids. B)
  • rock127
    rock127 Posts: 369 Member
    Good luck!
  • Noogynoogs
    Noogynoogs Posts: 1,028 Member
    I don't think that's true Jacqueline. I have a few friends in their 40s , 50s and 60s with younger men and they have been with them along while. They met them on plenty of fish dating site. I don't know if you have this site near you. It just takes time, anyway you are gorgeous - maybe they are just a little scared of your sassiest and class.
  • 47Jacqueline
    47Jacqueline Posts: 6,993 Member
    I've heard of Plenty of Fish. I googled OurTime and the reviews aren't great.
  • LouLouStBijou
    LouLouStBijou Posts: 987 Member
    All the dating sites take a lot of work if you want to find someone who is actually representing themselves truthfully....I have friends who have tried online dating with no success at all and friends who have had date after date...it all depends on how picky you are. One of my friends has been single for a decade or more, she had tried all the sites and hated the way they worked, she had given up and then one night went to a neighbourhood potluck and fell in love with the guy who lives across the street from her.... My husband and I met on Lavalife just over ten years ago now. You're really beautiful, don't be afraid to be picky.
  • Nicegurl51
    Nicegurl51 Posts: 14
    Not sure about the dating sites. Have you tried meeting folks by doing different activities, perhaps frequent museums, art shows, marathons, sports events. Just a thought. I have not dated in over 24 years so i am no expert. Have fun today.
  • Noogynoogs
    Noogynoogs Posts: 1,028 Member
    Plenty of Fish seems okay to me. It worked for my friends
  • 47Jacqueline
    47Jacqueline Posts: 6,993 Member
    edited December 2014
    I signed up on OurTime. The first 5 guys that got in touch were in their 40s. ;-/

    I have a bunch of helpful information from a dating coach - Evan Mark Katz, that's been useful in keeping perspective. I don't expect immediate results. I've heard a lot of people complain that it doesn't work, but they usually try for a few months and give up. This dating coach said it took him 10 years to find his now wife, but that there were periods when he was involved with other women in the meantime. That would be fine with me - I'd just like a few first dates ;-) to feel I'm getting somewhere.

    I don't need an army, just the right one. I'm also pretty friendly with anyone I come in contact with.
  • sexymonicat
    sexymonicat Posts: 111
    Id date those 40 year olds. Men do it so why cant we.
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