Im that girl

Tesstax_43085
Tesstax_43085 Posts: 12 Member
in Introduce Yourself
I'm the girl who eats as much if not more than her husband. I'm that girl that feels full, but keeps shoveling in the food. The girl who weighs herself and pigs out on food because Heck I haven't gained any weight so lets celebrate. I'm tired of being the over eater. I'm tired of being the fat girl. I'm tired of looking at smaller clothes and wishing I could fit into them. Most of all, I'm tired of being unhealthy. I want a new me, a new start to this new year. I need help.
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  • hotjodels
    hotjodels Posts: 118 Member
    this sounds so much like me a little over a year ago. I'm not going to say I'm perfect now, but I don't gorge myself every day like I used to. its a process getting out of old habits and I'd love to be your friend on here to help motivate you. I'm going to send you a friend request. : ]
  • Tesstax_43085
    Tesstax_43085 Posts: 12 Member
    Thanks. I need the motivation and encouragement helps. My husband likes to say I'm beautiful the way I am but truthfully I need someone to say, look your unhealthy get it together. Friends while doing this I believe will help tremendously. Thanks for the friend invite.
  • Acacia2India
    Acacia2India Posts: 446 Member
    You said it! Feel free to add me :)
  • DianePK
    DianePK Posts: 122 Member
    I think you are surrounded by like minded gals : ) - I too am that girl girl, working on being an "it girl" or at least a smaller version of me... it's possible if you set your mind to it.
  • Cassmarie28
    Cassmarie28 Posts: 23
    Honestly while reading your post I was honestly thinking " I'm that girl too" if you'd like to add me it would be great if we could encoursge each other.
  • Tesstax_43085
    Tesstax_43085 Posts: 12 Member
    Thanks you guys. From some reason I can't click on names and add people. So I will try and add as soon as I can.
  • Sued0nim
    Sued0nim Posts: 17,456 Member
    I was that girl...the girl who had resigned herself to being just me, to being invisible. The girl who convinced herself when she looked in a mirror she looked ok and that she simply hated clothes shopping. I was that girl who was a mother so it didn't matter that I no longer felt like I was a big part of life,that I was the supportive sidelines

    7 months later and I'm not ...I'm fit, strong and happy; I don't get panic or asthma attacks; I don't avoid doing anything and I kinda like clothes shopping

    Calorie defecit ...weighing and logging works
    Exercise helps with the mindset and getting to eat more
    Slow and steady

    You can do it ...just don't leave it the 15 years of complacent acceptance it took me
  • housenoob
    housenoob Posts: 34 Member
    if i could like your post I would. beautifully said.
  • Tesstax_43085
    Tesstax_43085 Posts: 12 Member
    Thanks for the insight. I too try and tell myself that I'm okay, that my husband is happy with me, and that I won't be that person that has a heart attack at 40. The truth is I'm slowly killing myself by being so unhealthy and I want to see my son grow. I want so much, and I am the only person that can get off my butt and do something. Im depressed but darnnit, doing something about it is my first step.
  • Cassmarie28
    Cassmarie28 Posts: 23
    You've already taken the first steps, you made an account here and you introduced yourself. We all know that those are not easy steps.
  • Tesstax_43085
    Tesstax_43085 Posts: 12 Member
    Thanks Cassmarie. :)
  • cdiponio87
    cdiponio87 Posts: 15 Member
    Drink water, lots of water, especially 20 mins before eating a meal. You will feel fuller while keeping hydrated.
  • emblu
    emblu Posts: 272 Member
    rabbitjb wrote: »
    I was that girl...the girl who had resigned herself to being just me, to being invisible. The girl who convinced herself when she looked in a mirror she looked ok and that she simply hated clothes shopping. I was that girl who was a mother so it didn't matter that I no longer felt like I was a big part of life,that I was the supportive sidelines

    7 months later and I'm not ...I'm fit, strong and happy; I don't get panic or asthma attacks; I don't avoid doing anything and I kinda like clothes shopping

    Calorie defecit ...weighing and logging works
    Exercise helps with the mindset and getting to eat more
    Slow and steady

    You can do it ...just don't leave it the 15 years of complacent acceptance it took me

    Yes :) beautifully put hunni and the exercise really does alter your mindset to eat properly x
  • allierat84
    allierat84 Posts: 73 Member
    Tesstax_43085 wrote: »
    Thanks. I need the motivation and encouragement helps. My husband likes to say I'm beautiful the way I am but truthfully I need someone to say, look your unhealthy get it together. Friends while doing this I believe will help tremendously. Thanks for the friend invite.

    I have the same with my partner, he tells me I'm beautiful as I am and it gives me chance to rationalise eating badly as "well he thinks I look great anyway...". He also likes to buy me chocolate, I need to retrain him as much as myself! :)
  • PLATINUM59
    PLATINUM59 Posts: 2
    You sound soooo like me. I have lost 2 stone this year but have stayed the same for last 2 months. My problem is food and I need to start controlling what I eat again.
  • Turtlesrcool
    Turtlesrcool Posts: 7
    I have a similar problem. I think if nobody can see me eating then it does not count. You can do this and so can I!
  • mrsKOrtiz
    mrsKOrtiz Posts: 949 Member
    I eat as much as my husband and if not more then I hate myself for it. Its just a vicious cycle that we are doing to ourselves. We are our worst self critic!! I am just so tired of me being so negative. That it is no longer a choice. I will not be negative because then I am sabotaging myself and I am not giving myself some hope.

    Feel free to add me if you will be an active user of MFP. :) And very much good luck on your journey!
  • JLoRuthie
    JLoRuthie Posts: 375 Member
    Me, too. I am that girl. For the first time, I read something from someone on here that really resonates with me. I am not familiar with all mfp has to offer but is there a way we could set up a small group from this thread to connect with each other daily?
  • Lazz5k
    Lazz5k Posts: 251 Member
    I'm that girl that starts going to the gym January 1st.. and quits like the second week in February.. I don't want to be THAT girl anymore
  • FatMama_33
    FatMama_33 Posts: 16 Member
    First I think it's awesome your husband loves you for who you are. And I also understand the internal struggle with that. Bottom line is you need to be happy with the skin you're in and you are lucky to have a partner who will support you.


  • Dgangaware
    Dgangaware Posts: 24 Member
    Great post and so well said. I know how you feel. It was so bad I don't think I even knew what it felt like to be hungry. When I felt tired - I ate. When I felt happy - I ate. When I felt stressed - I ate. You can do this and retrain your mind and body! Please feel free to add me. This is a great place with lots of solid advice and support. Best to you!
  • WWflunky999
    WWflunky999 Posts: 1 Member
    Ditto! i'm that girl too!
  • DemetraDawn
    DemetraDawn Posts: 60 Member
    I hear you! Anyone here, feel free to add me :) We can do this!
  • Eire228
    Eire228 Posts: 238 Member
    You are all amazing! I think the first step is being determined to make a change, and it sounds like you are.

    I've always had a food obsession, and although I'm at a healthy weight, it's not easy. And it's frustrating (but understandable) when other people don't get it, and tell you that you look great and not to worry about it. When I mention food struggles, I get an eye roll and a "ugh but you're skinny" response. But what those people don't get is how hard it was to get here, and how hard it is to stay here. Constantly thinking about your next meal, even while you're eating, and wondering when you get to eat more, and why you can't have a burger and fries instead of a salad, gets exhausting. But I have to say, being at my goal weight, which I NEVER thought I'd reach, feels GREAT. And it doesn't even matter anymore that the number is what I want it to be, it feels great just to be in shape and feel good about myself (despite the recent gain because of the holidays...). I feel strong and healthy now, and it's amazing.

    It's a long journey ahead, but there's an amazing support system here, and if you set your mind to it, you can do it!!!! The food struggles may never go away (they sure haven't for me), but you can get them under control, and the outcome is worth it! :)
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    Thank you for being so honest.

    Now tell me all about the girl you want to be, in as many or more words as you just introduced yourself.
  • NotGuiltylawyer
    NotGuiltylawyer Posts: 39 Member
    Hi i am new to this, first week of diet and excercice. Worked out 3 times in a row, feeling tired but i am going on my lunch hour. Hoping this works, and works for good. Tired of being tired.
  • mimismommy11
    mimismommy11 Posts: 80 Member
    Ditto to so many things that were said in this thread! I seem to have lost my way the last couple of months and have struggled to get going again. I'm ready to do this! Friend request sent. :smiley:
  • stormbornkraken
    stormbornkraken Posts: 302 Member
    I agree with all that was said. I too was (am) that girl! When I first was dating my husband he was so excited he had found a girl who didn't order water and salad during her date. Instead, I ordered the steak and potatoes as well as dessert. He never cared but many years later never considered that my desk job doesn't allow it like his physically demanding career. So now I still order steak with dessert occasionally but I am at least mindful of my behavior. It takes time to change a behavior. Just keep in mind the ABCs...
    Antecedent - Behavior - Consequence
    Boredom - Mindless snacking - weigh gain
    If you start to recognize it you can avoid the antecedent or create a non compatible behavior that helps you avoid over eating, etc.

    I am always open to new friends and wish you all the best!

    Cheers!
  • johnnylakis
    johnnylakis Posts: 812 Member
    It's the lack of nutrition in food. Try eating organic and see if your appetite changes significantly
  • m1chandler
    m1chandler Posts: 1
    I'm that girl, You said it exactly and nailed it for how I am afraid of putting it out there for myself. Thank you! I would love it if you added me as well :)

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