Sabotage from within!

This happens a lot from what I read and hear. In my own life my significant other feels threatened by my weight loss. She suggests I do it to become more attractive to other women. Simply not true. I just feel so much better being fit.

You have to put your health first and deal with any consequences. Without health nothing else matters. He may or may not come around. You need to be prepared for that.

You don't need to make a choice between health or husband. At some point there can be a balance.

My BF loves to bring me candy bars and goodies. I'm talking like 3 king sized candy bars and a monster energy drink at one time. If i tell him it won't fit in my day he always replies "yeah but tomorrow you can make it right" I just have to keep repeating myself to him... "Tomorrow is today"

Last night he kept trying to get me to take a couple shots with him. First i told him it won't fit into my day, then i had to tell him i simply didn't want to. He pouted and got over it eventually. It's a PITA but it doesn't last forever.

My BF is insecure. He is another one that thinks when i lose weight suddenly i will become another person. I just have to keep repeating myself to him about everything. Being healthier wont make me do something i wouldn't do now, you're just going to have to be patient and see for yourself.

As far as checking up on you, i've been through that too. I have nothing to hide and so i have that attitude that anyone can check up on me whenever they want. I won't do something that i don't want to be seen or known about or that i am not willing to take responsibility for.

Stress to him all of the reasons being healthy is important to you. Tell him every day. If Tell him every day how he could be helping you. The redundancy gets quite annoying but it's something that could help you get where you need to go.

As time goes by my BF understands more and more. I noticed he reduced the amount of sugar in his coffee even though he won't admit it. He also increased his veggie serving at dinner. He is starting to pick up on some of my new habits.

Another thing i noticed. People can eat whatever they want in front of me and it is getting easier to not be so tempted. Once the ball is rolling it's easier to stay with it.

The best thing i can suggest is to stay strong and keep working towards your goal. Hopefully he will get on board soon. You aren't alone in this.

Have you tried discussing this in depth with your husband? Communication is key in a marriage.

Francl27 wrote: »

You don't have to have salad when he's having pizza. Have a slice of pizza. It doesn't have to be all or nothing.

+1

Or less than a typical amount and a small salad.

Sabotage would be offering something that it's not. I would put this more on the line of temptation, enticement, etc.
It happens ALL THE TIME and not only with your spouse, but friends, family, and co workers. The great thing is you still get to make the choices.
I'm not one to cut anything out of anyone's diet. I just try to teach them how not to go overboard because let's face it, one can lose weight abstaining from foods they actually enjoy, but reintroduction to them is why weight regain happens to 90% of dieters.
So don't be afraid to say no, but also don't be afraid to a some of something you like to eat.

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You also need to have a good talk with him! Good luck!

many times people change and relationships cannot be salvaged. If he cares about you more than himself, you'll see effort on his part.

As for the salad instead of pizza.. I don't know what diet you're following, but as a ketogenic I opt for HOT WINGS!!