Needing support

Add me as a friend. We can keep each other accountable and stay on this path to a healthier life and not just a minimal weight loss. I am currently down 31lbs and have about 80 to go.

I'd love to help you out. Feel free to add me for support. You've got this.

Southeastern NC here I'm new to this too - add me! I'll help to keep you accountable as well, I need the support too!

Hi

The best place to begin is at the beginning.

All you have to do is lose 1 pound 40 times. Not 40 pounds, all at once.

That kick to get it done comes from inside....

The fact you are reaching out and being honest about your struggle is a sign of growth and progress, for which you should be commended. Take comfort in that.

The difference between MFP and everything else? If you adopt the mindset that its a lifestyle change & not a diet, the rest will fall into place.

The past is done. The future will be here soon enough. Try and focus on today & today only. Its all we have to work with.

7 months ago, I weighed 312 pounds. I woulda been dead in 5 years if I hadn't made this commitment. All signs were pointing that way.

Just a few things the MFP tribe and common sense has taught me:

1) This is a thing you DO, not a definition of who you ARE. Just like laundry. Take the emotion out of it wherever possible. I cannot stress this enough.

2) My approach? This is a lifestyle change, not a diet. So there is no finite number of days that I am trying to get to. I will be logging in and logging food for the rest of my life, because:

a) This program works
b) I don't want to die young and I was headed that direction

3) Try to remember - We are the results of the choices we make every day, whether those choices are good or bad. Make as many good choices as you can, and the ship will stay steady. At the end of the day, we are the man in the mirror. We are accountable to ourselves and no one else. We can help you with getting there, but the doing is up to you. Leave rationalizing at the door, and continue to be honest with yourself. Its the only path to long term success

Cal tracking is considered a good choice (whether boring or not) because it tells you where you really are (just like your check register tells you your balance) - remember to be honest with yourself all the time. Ultimately, you will achieve that which you are seeking much sooner.

Knowing that plus the support I get from my MFP buds make enough difference that Ive lost 51 in 245 days without doing anything stupid. You just find what works and then hammer the crap out of it, staying in the present while doing so.

If you will stay committed to this, your MFP tribe will commit to helping. Why? Because that's what we do. And we have ALL been there.

You only get one chance to live your life.

FR on the way

Fsunami

What part of eastern NC do you live in? I live Washington ... I to have a difficult time finding someone to workout with, or someone to have support me in this endeavor. I to need to lose no less than 40 pounds. I am at the heaviest I have ever been at in my life and not enjoying it at all. Hoping maybe we are close by...

add me to list as well. I am trying to loose the baby weight from second child. I need to stay on track. I am halfway to my goal

I've been on MFP for a while but I have only just recently really started taking it seriously. I also started doing Weight Watchers online. I use WW with MFP to compare points to calories. Last week was my first week and it was hard but doable. Give yourself credit for asking questions, looking for support, and for being active in the gym.

Here's my best advice from my own experience. I worked out with a trainer for about 4 months. I did strength training with him and did a day or two of cardio on my own. In those 4 months I did not lose weight. Unfortunately I fell into a trap of believing that I could eat more because of working out. I can't be certain but I strongly believe I overestimated what I was burning during my workout sessions. I was relaxed on my diet and here I am thinking that I wasted money those months of paying for a trainer.

Being in the gym is a great start and if you have a routine going now and it's easier for you to make it part of your life each week it's a great start. I think it's really hard for most people to go from being sedentary and eating poorly to changing eating habits and being in the gym all at once. Our bodies get accustomed to things and changing up everything at once can be hard. You've got the gym part down and now it's time to really look at your eating habits.

Lastly, remember that muscle weighs more than fat. If you are going to weight train and you have gotten heavier it might be that. I would try putting on some clothing items that haven't fit well and see how they are fitting. If they are fitting better then you are getting smaller and don't worry about the number on the scale.

Best of luck!

yoovie wrote: »

Have you done any research about what happens to your body biologically the first 4-6 weeks that you are working out? Do you understand why this happens and how?

^^If you truly want answers to your problems, these are the kind of replies you need to pay special attention to.

Are you on medications that could prevent weight loss? Are you sleeping? Are you stressed? Also I heard that weight loss is 80% diet. Could you be gaining some muscle and losing fat, causing weight to stay the same or go up? I am currently experiencing some weight gain and am unsure why too. Very frustrating.

Just remember, you can't out exercise a bad diet. I exercised all through the holidays, like 5 days a week. I also was on the cookie diet. Cookies for breakfast, cookies for lunch, and a sensible dinner. lol. I lost nothing.

lacye7 wrote: »

I am at my heaviest. I need to lose 40lbs. I have been in the gym for the last few weeks. I am doing cardio and weights. It seems the longer I do this, the higher my weight goes.

Also, I can't find a workout partner for the gym. It's hard to find someone near by with a similar schedule and goals.

Any advice is welcome!

Eastern NC

Consistency and hard work will prevail. It is great that you have started to go the gym and by doing both weight training and cardio workouts you will see results.. Just do not expect it to happen over night. Remember it took a long time to put on the weight and it should and will take a long time to take off the weight as well.
Do not starve yourself.. make sure you are eating healthy meals throughout the day and snacking on healthy foods.
As far as a gym partner goes.. meh.. not really necessary but I guess some people need someone to push them.
I just find most people that workout together are usually doing more talking than working out.. I prefer to put on my headphones some really good motivating music and go to it. 1 hour at the gym for me and I am soaked with sweat compared to the ones that are there together working out and talking.. they never seem to break out in a sweat.