Sorry for the sad post

So sorry to hear about the bad time you are going through.

For me, being outside (when it's not so friggin' cold) always tends to boost my mood, especially if it's sunny. Music, both listening and playing. And working out, especially some kind of dance, always seems to help. And animals, like the adorable cat in your photo. My kitty never fails to make me smile, even when I want to kill her.

I"m so sorry for your loss. And your breakup. I think it's just going to take some time. In the meantime, call on your friends and spend time with people who love you. Work out to reduce stress. Forgive yourself for the bad days.

It lost a bit... Im very sorry for your loss... friend me if want to chat.

Exercise gives you endorphins and endorphins make you happy! Anyone who watched Legally Blonde knows this

In all seriousness I am sorry for your loss. Since you asked how to get your mind off it and feel better for a short time, exercise WILL help

Again, I'm so sorry for your losses. I think it's important to give yourself time to grieve, and 'permission' to find normal things hard and to need your own space.

Things I do when I'm hurt or feel down include:

- Exercising. This releases endorphins, alleviates nervous energy and promotes better sleep.
- Keep myself busy, and try to see someone close to me every day. Sometimes I find that hard as my tendency is to wallow and tuck myself away, but social contact really does make me feel better.
- Treat myself nicely! Think of kind gestures you might make to a friend who was sad, and do them for yourself. So I might buy myself a new DVD/book, make my favourite pudding, treat myself to a massage... Anything that makes me feel good about myself.
- Positive self talk. Remind yourself of your good points, of your achievements, of your good relationships, even if just for a few minutes a day.
- I eat properly, dress as if I have someone important to see, and play energetic music loudly!

I'm sorry if these don't help - I've suffered my fair share of break ups but bereavement is something I have been lucky enough to escape so far. But I hope you find something useful in this thread, and that you feel more like your usual self again soon.

I'm very sorry for your loss and break-up *Hugs*. I wish there was something - anything - I could say to ease your pain. When I'm down I like to run; long slow distances really help clear my head. I've even cried on runs before. It feels good to release those emotions. Lifting heavy is also a great way to release stress. I wish you the best of luck, Boston.

My condolences to you and your family for your lose it is never easy to lose a loved one and then to add a break up, that can be a lot to handle. The first thing you should do, is to talk about it with someone, they don’t even have to be someone that is in your direct family. Someone that knows you and cares and that will listen is what is most important, you need to talk about the pain and not hold it inside.
For me Music and a good comedy really help lift my spirits. I like the classics for both, for me Dean Martin’s “When You’re Smiling” or Nat King Coles “Smile” are two songs that lift me. But any song that makes you happy when you hear it will work.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S8m7phKd1nw
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H-WqFUnqhSc
And what I also have found that works for me is that I believe that our family and friends that have left this world are still around us every day and that they never truly leave us. The live on in us and how we live.
I wish you the best and remember to “smile.”

Allow yourself to be sad for a while.

Honor your mom somehow with a project of some sort.

To mourn the loss of something like a relationship, I find a ritual helpful. The Unitarian church has a burning ceremony where the griefs and regrets from the past year are ritually burned in a brazier. I found that tremendously freeing.

If you are cheerful by default like me, you will find it again. In the meantime, allow sadness to do it's work.

I am sorry for your loss. These are two very hard experiences to go through. Allow yourself time to heal and try no to be to hard on yourself during this time of healing.

For me I use running and gym time to clear my head. I have also found that I really like Body Combat (kick boxing type of class) when I am having an overly stressful day. There is something about kicking and punching the air that makes me feel better. Some days just going to a long run will help clear my mind and take me out of my own head for a little while. I have been known to even sit down during a run and cry a little.