Feel like eating crap! Emotional Eating. :(

I feel for you. My boyfriend is the same way sometimes. I just have to brush it off, and remember that I am doing this for me. And if he can't hang with that, too bad for him. You are doing a great job, and you deserve a reward. Just last night I walked to the local ice cream shop, had some ice cream, and walked back home. I think my two miles cancels out my ice cream. Sometimes, we need to treat ourselves, and there isn't ANYTHING wrong with that. Keep your chin up!

Don't let other people get you down! You've made such a big change and done great work - just keep up what you've beenn doing! Having an ice cream when you have all those extra calories isn't bad; if you deprive yourself, you'll just end up binging. Just keep focused on all the good you've done and don't worry about anyone else!

NO!!!!! DONT do it you have to remember that most men are not quite as sensitive as we are (notice I said most for you guys reading this) about things just block it out and continue doing the wonderful job you have been doing. Many people make remarks without thinking through how the other person will feel so its best just to close your ears and only listen to the positive instead of the negative. Dont let it get you down :flowerforyou:

feel for u! and when u work out, that allows u extra cals. ur supposed to be as close to ur net as possible! so tell him f off and that u got this! dont pig out bc it will make u feel worse. trust me. i too am an emotional eater and sum crap set me off earlier, and i went to mcdonalds and maxed. now, im sitting here feeling like an overgrown sloth wishing i hadnt done it! dont do it! ur better then that!

He said "well, it did seem counter-productive if you are trying to live a healthy lifestyle."
Yes, I understand some people think that you are never supposed to have junk food ever again if you say you want to be thin and healthy, but I just don't want to live like that. I don't want to forbid myself from sweats and treats. And he isn't all healthy either...not that it matters.

I don't blame you for wanting ice cream. We all want treats sometimes and you deserved it.

You're obviously doing well with your weight loss so try not to let other people's comments get you down. :flowerforyou:

I get that way too when people (especially important people in my life) make idiodic comments like that. If diets forbid foods that were enjoyable FOREVER there would only be a handful of people in the world that could be skinny. Tell him in the nicest way possible to shove it lol ^_~ you're doing great and DON'T ever EVER let them get to you. I know that's impossible because you love him and you can't just ignore him (though that'd be nice...) do like you did and come to us! We are here and will ALWAYS be supportive of you!!!! *hug*

I don't think being thin and healthy means you're never supposed to eat ice cream. I don't think it's useful to label foods as good and bad either. Ice cream isn't "bad", it's just ice cream. And, if you earned the extra calories to enjoy some, so be it.

Don't give your power away to junk food or your husband. You're doing a fantastic job. It's obvious by the results you're posting.

Here's my snarky advice: tell your husband to be a know-enough. No one likes a know-it-all.

I see it that way too. How can you change your lifestyle when you can't even have the things that you want, even if its portioned correctly or not? If you had that many cals left, then damn, use them !

Maybe he doesn't know the art of calorie counting?

Hello there
As a one of those "men" I post this reply with some trepidation:). To me a bunch of different thoughts came to mind. First of all the negative comments you received from your significant other. While it is possible that he meant his statement as one of those "cooly logical, analytical, no harm intended remarks", it comes across as insensitive indeed. So the issue (hate using that word but oh well) is understanding how our comments affect others. I would suggest that you directly ask for a positive comment from him (a long the lines of: " Hi Hubby, I have been working hard on my weightloss/fitness. I have been doing amazing thus far but now I need to hear from you that you realize this also. I gets so hard sometimes to do this all alone") This leaves no doubt in our (sometimes dim) minds that all you really want is support (and clearly deserve it). (The alternative of course is to tell him to mind his own business with the end result that he still has no clue what you need and maybe even figures you for one of those "sensitive" types).
My second thought relates to this view of ice cream as a treat, which of course harks back to the distant past when a rich combination of fat and sugar was so unattainable and our physiology is finely attuned to craving this (these days of course that are available in overabundance but our bodies are still programmed for stone age conditions. So we have to realize that ultimately we are not designed to handle these in great or constant abundance (no matter how often our bodies say YES:)). I started thinking about ice cream as a "Mistreat", instead now use mostly fresh fruits as a better alternative. (of course my tongue still loves the taste, but my mind is slowly gaining some control back.
Lastly, the last thought relates to feeling really low when we are critizised by others (esp. our loved ones). It is sooo difficult to be open and sensitive, empathic to the needs of others on the one hand, yet be able to fend off negative emotions and remain unaffected on the other hand. Positive self talk (along the lines of: "Amazing how awesome I really am"; "How lucky for humanity that I am around" type self talk:) works. There is a well known saying that goes: The difference between heaven and hell is not one of altitude but one of attitude". I know this to be true for myself. So, young lady, It is time to remember: You are awesome, you are the keeper of your soul, the captain of your ship, let no one tell you otherwise". Be well, Life is good.

tha must be super frustrating. emotional eating is super hard to come over too i wish you the bet. try to remember why you're doing this and that you know what you're doing is best for you