No wonder you arent losing anything

I'm sorry for what happened.
It's hard being put down like that, especially from a family member.

Keep your chin up and keep working towards your goals.

I know it is hard when people aren't supportive but you have to keep going and keep your goals in mind. Everyone has the odd slip, don't beat yourself up about it, just continue working hard and it'll happen. YOu've done so well already!

Focus on the good. x

That can be difficult to handle. I'm sorry he made you feel so upset but you must keep your head up! I have no idea what a pot noodle is nor do I know what a stone weighs :embarassed: but your ticker shows wonderful losses that you should be proud of. You just keep doing what you're doing because it must be working...good luck sweetie!!! :flowerforyou:

You know that saying, "If it's not one thing, it's your mother"? Family can dig at you like nobody else sometimes. I'm so sorry he said such a rotten thing to you. Keep up the good work and don't dwell on it. And next time, maybe you can turn to him and say, "Pot, meet Kettle!"

I have had similiar experiences with my parents, you just have to take it with a grain of salt. You also should know that sometimes when people seeing you lose a lot of weight, they get envious and will say hurtful things out of spite. You keep working hard and know that you are doing this for you and no one else.

It can be very hard when you have such condescending comments from family members...let alone family members who are heavy themselves and do nothing to change their lifestyles. I do think their hearts are in the right place but the way they come off is very hurtful. People don't tread lightly when approaching others when it comes to the way "it should be done". Did you tell him how hurt your feelings are after his comment? I think maybe instead of punishing yourself (because that's really what you're doing by not eating) you should go to the kitchen and make yourself a very healthy dinner and it eat it while he eats his fried fish and fried chips. That stance in and of itself will make you feel better and will also make him think about the meal he is eating (at least we hope)

*hugs* Don't let it get you down, don't let it stop you from achieving your goals and keep pushing forward.

I'm sorry that happened to you!

Just remember, we're all so funny about weight. VERY rarely even from mature and kind people when you talk about your weight is it ever about JUST your weight. It's about their weight too, and their vision of themselves and how you and your weight make them feel. We all have our weight/body issues and it is extrmely difficult NOT to project them onto others.

That doesn't make what he said okay, but it helps for me when I think someone isn't being supportive, etc.

We are all in the same boat together here. The people right here are your family and we're all helping each other become smaller, healthier people! Show him what you've got! Prove to yourself that you've got exactly what it takes!

I can't say what I would tell you to say to your dad, but it wouldn't be nice. But I'm a little older so I understand your restraint.
When I was younger, I could never get any positive feedback from my folks. I swear if I turned water into wine they'd say I was an alcoholic.

In time, you will learn not to let it affect you so deeply. It hurts, but know that HE feels threatened by the changing you. Not only are you physically changing, but I would gather you are gaining confidence and style. You are becoming the beautiful woman that you have always known you were. That's why you're here. So that we can support you in those times when those closet to you cannot or don't.

Don't let it get to you. You're doing a fantastic job!


C

I feel like if my own family can't support me which hope do i have!
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First things first: Inspiration comes from others, but motivation comes from within. "Don't be dependent on others to meet your needs. They'll let you down every time. And that's because meeting your needs is not their job - that's yours." ~ Robert Mack

You have made great progress in spite of your support system (or lack thereof). That proves you can do this for you. At the end of the day, that is who you have to do it for. Yes, there will be those who are unsupportive, relationships will change and people will tell you that you'll never succeed or suddenly develop "concerns" about your progress that they didn't have before. You see, this journey isn't about just losing weight. It is about learning to treat ourselves well, in spite of other's approval or disapproval.

I'll leave you with this: You are beautiful, you are strong and you are determined.

"Not everyone will agree with how you change your eating strategy. Some friends, family co-workers and even neighbors will suddenly develop "concerns" they insist you should have. What I find interesting is that MOST people who bring up these concerns never batted even an eye lash when you were eating wheat, corn, soy, GUZZLING soda, MSG, hot dogs, chips, veggie oil which caused you to get allergies, headaches, IBS, arthritis, autoimmune disorders, etc... which may have led to you taking meds and/or become unhealthy and FAT. BUT, as soon as you start to make a move, BAM, they suddenly have "concerns" to remind you of." ~ FitRichWoman

all too familiar a situation... idk what to say... it's one of those things we just have to buckle up & tell em to shut the F7897987 up if need be. times like these teach us to grow a set & worry about creating ourselves!! Stop worrying what others think, say, or do... even those we love... when they see you pushing harder & harder... maybe it will inspire them...

You have us! Don't skip eating, just eat healthy! I am a stubborn girl who will loose the weight just to shove it in someones face!

Men, especially overweight men, generally have a pretty skewed idea of what the female body should look like. Ignore him. Though you did right to say no to the fish and chips.

My dad, who is really quite sensible in other ways, is so guilty of this. I've seen him refer to lovely, perfectly healthy women well within the correct weight range for their age and height as "that chubby girl." In his mind healthy means perfectly flat tummy with a sharply defined six-pack.

The thing about asking if you want fish and chips right after putting down your eating habits - my mom (who is not so sensible) does the same thing. It's like they don't realize the contradiction in what they're saying?