just a rant not about dieting

VixFit2011
VixFit2011 Posts: 663 Member
edited September 27 in Chit-Chat
I'm very grouchy this morning and I guess this is a good place to rant. I just can't deal with people who are what I consider passive aggressive with their comments or attitudes or body language. Here's one example for today: I have wonderful housemates who I dearly love, a married couple in their 50's. The male part of this couple has made a lot of little comments here and there that I take personally and don't know if I'm just taking it too personally. Here it is.....I'm out of work due to my boss dying and the business closed.....I'm on unemployment, get social security, both very low amounts and I sell clothing on Ebay to help me struggle by. I pay my rent and utilities to them always early and I make a lot of meals to share (so do they) and I keep the house tidy. This morning he said to his wife loud enough for me to hear while I'm doing my computer work...."Well it's Friday....at least for some of us". There's been other comments now and then and I'm so sensitive that I just brush it off or try too but today it didn't sit well with me. Don't get me wrong...these people are like family to me and never have been mean in any way.

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  • catcrazy
    catcrazy Posts: 1,740 Member
    Well its Friday to you too so not sure what that comment was about.

    What other comments has he made
  • plagirl227
    plagirl227 Posts: 134
    Maybe in a weird way it's a little jealousy. While most of us NEED our jobs, there's that part that envies those that don't have to deal with the hustle and bustle everyday. If you're keeping up with your responsibilities, I wouldn't worry much...
  • Shannon023
    Shannon023 Posts: 14,529 Member
    What was his tone of voice like? Kidding or snarky??? :flowerforyou:
  • Mommaof3Boys2011
    Mommaof3Boys2011 Posts: 32
    hmmm.... i wonder what thats suppose to mean
  • VixFit2011
    VixFit2011 Posts: 663 Member
    That comment has been said about Fridays or the weekend quite a few times. He was off work for a while too but does carpentry for people. I can't remember many of the comments because I usually brush them off and do my best to be positive but today pushed a button. One other on recently was regarding his wife's mother (in her 80s) who is on a lot of medication and doesn't take it right and we were discussing her age vs meds and I said I thought the meds were having some effect on her and he snapped...."It's nothing but her age...everyone's titled to their own opinion".
    Maybe it's just me feeling guilty and stressed about not working at this time. Believe me ....I job search and at 65 years old it is not the time in life to be unemployed, very hard to find anyone to hire you.
  • VixFit2011
    VixFit2011 Posts: 663 Member
    just to add to this (I'm on a roll with this rant now...LOL) The "work at home" ebay I do requires a lot of work. Pics, measuring, cleaning clothing, writing up listings, packing and shipping, customer inquiries and more. So I'm not being a lazy couch potato and I am very good at keeping up my responsibilities as a housemate.
  • VixFit2011
    VixFit2011 Posts: 663 Member
    What was his tone of voice like? Kidding or snarky??? :flowerforyou:



    Snarky
  • pcteck2
    pcteck2 Posts: 184 Member
    You really have a lot to deal with right now. Health, work, weight issues. Try not to let it snow ball you. You seem like a positive, upbeat individual. Brush it off again if you can.
    It is usually the women who say catty things. Interesting that these remarks come from a man.
  • marci355
    marci355 Posts: 292
    [ Maybe it's just me feeling guilty and stressed about not working at this time. Believe me ....I job search and at 65 years old it is not the time in life to be unemployed, very hard to find anyone to hire you.
    [/quote]
    Don't feel bad. I can't find anyone to hire me either. I'm only 56, but I guess that too old too.LOL I'm in California and there's just no jobs to be had!
  • mawhite717
    mawhite717 Posts: 202 Member
    well, i think you're awesome! dont let buttholes like that bring you down. it'll come back on him... karma will bite you right in the butt, so he better stop being an *kitten*.
  • WVBayouGal
    WVBayouGal Posts: 45
    I believe he may be jealous of you not having to 'go out' to work, and he does not understand that your eBay job IS work. I wouldn't take it too serious unless he continues, then I'd ask him, politely, why he continues to make those comments. I lost my job last Sept and have a very limited income....not even unemployment now. I'm sure no one really knows the struggles I have due to very limited finances, so when people do make comments like.."it must be nice not to have to work"....I just let it roll off my back and tell them I'd trade places with them if they'd like. I say it nicely, in a 'ha ha' funny way. They usually don't want to take me up on the deal...LOL It's not like I haven't been looking for a job....I just can't find one. I think it's due to my age and limited mobility problems.
    Anyway.....don't take it too personal....it may be HIS way of VENTING his frustrations about his job:smile:
  • ratkins811
    ratkins811 Posts: 190 Member
    I think you need to tell him how these comments make you feel. I can be very sarcastic and say things in a "joking" manner at times. I has been a true eye opener when someone calls me out on my comments to say that that what ever I said hurts them. I have learned over time that what may be funny to me isnt to whomever. If you are close to him then he needs to know so that the air can be cleared. Hopefully it will be received well. good luck!
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