Help with determining fiances calorie intake
xsqueakme85
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Hello,
My fiancé is 5'9 and 256. He wants to get down to about 200-220 depending on how he looks. I was curious to know what any of you males at this height and close to this weight are eating, and if you are losing weight. I currently have him eating 1800 calories per day. But don't want him to starve. Please let me know what you as males are eating and losing.
Please note that he has a some what sedentary job, and doesn't work out.
Thanks,
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xsqueakme85
My fiancé is 5'9 and 256. He wants to get down to about 200-220 depending on how he looks. I was curious to know what any of you males at this height and close to this weight are eating, and if you are losing weight. I currently have him eating 1800 calories per day. But don't want him to starve. Please let me know what you as males are eating and losing.
Please note that he has a some what sedentary job, and doesn't work out.
Thanks,
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xsqueakme85
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Do you bathe and dress him, too?0
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Does he have a MFP account of his own? It will recommend what he should be eating. My husband is 5'11", 215 and MFP recommended 1500 for him (at 2 lb/week).0
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My husband is about that height/weight and he eats 2200, sometimes more if he's active. He loses 1 lb per week on that amount.
But why are you figuring it out, not him? I do a lot of stuff for my husband so I get that, but it needs to be something he really wants to do and is committed to, not just something you want for him.0 -
Dang, lady, give him his pants back.0
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he is very commited. He logs everything I just want to make sure its enough.0
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xsqueakme85 wrote: »he is very commited. He logs everything I just want to make sure its enough.
then.... he clearly would have gone through the entire process of setting up his account and being walked through picking a weight loss goal and thus picking a calorie intake goal. And assuming he's been logging for at least a few months he can verify whether his intake is hgih enough by comparing his losses to his weekly goal.0 -
It's on the low side for a guy but not dangerously so. Most people underestimate their intake anyway. He should track for 4 weeks and then reevaluate.0
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There are a number of good articles in the forums and on the blog side that detail how to calculate your target calories. Here is one that's a good place for both of you to startyou can both start:
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/819055/setting-your-calorie-and-macro-targets/p10 -
xsqueakme85 wrote: »he is very commited. He logs everything I just want to make sure its enough.
then.... he clearly would have gone through the entire process of setting up his account and being walked through picking a weight loss goal and thus picking a calorie intake goal. And assuming he's been logging for at least a few months he can verify whether his intake is hgih enough by comparing his losses to his weekly goal.
Again, he did. I am asking as a concerned fiancé that is all. I weight 137 and eat 1200 a day to lose weight and I run. It seems low to me that is why I ask.
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AllOutof_Bubblegum wrote: »Dang, lady, give him his pants back.
Again, asking as a concerned fiancé that is all. Please people stop reading into this so much!
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There are a number of good articles in the forums and on the blog side that detail how to calculate your target calories. Here is one that's a good place for both of you to startyou can both start:
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/819055/setting-your-calorie-and-macro-targets/p1
Thank you!0 -
xsqueakme85 wrote: »xsqueakme85 wrote: »he is very commited. He logs everything I just want to make sure its enough.
then.... he clearly would have gone through the entire process of setting up his account and being walked through picking a weight loss goal and thus picking a calorie intake goal. And assuming he's been logging for at least a few months he can verify whether his intake is hgih enough by comparing his losses to his weekly goal.
Again, he did. I am asking as a concerned fiancé that is all. I weight 137 and eat 1200 a day to lose weight and I run. It seems low to me that is why I ask.
I'm surprised that he did considering you said that you have him eating 1800. Let him figure it out himself. You're clearly not eating enough either (I'm guessing 1200 without eating back your exercise calories?) so maybe concern yourself with your intake and let him concern himself with his intake? Let him set up his goals and account and intake. Let him come and ask the forums.0 -
xsqueakme85 wrote: »xsqueakme85 wrote: »he is very commited. He logs everything I just want to make sure its enough.
then.... he clearly would have gone through the entire process of setting up his account and being walked through picking a weight loss goal and thus picking a calorie intake goal. And assuming he's been logging for at least a few months he can verify whether his intake is hgih enough by comparing his losses to his weekly goal.
Again, he did. I am asking as a concerned fiancé that is all. I weight 137 and eat 1200 a day to lose weight and I run. It seems low to me that is why I ask.
I'm surprised that he did considering you said that you have him eating 1800. Let him figure it out himself. You're clearly not eating enough either (I'm guessing 1200 without eating back your exercise calories?) so maybe concern yourself with your intake and let him concern himself with his intake? Let him set up his goals and account and intake. Let him come and ask the forums.
I do eat back my calories from running 3 miles a day. Its just what MFP sets me at. I apologize if this seems to be an issue. He works two jobs and I am usually the one who makes dinner for him, so I want to make sure I am doing it right on his part too for the dinner portion. I use a HR monitor the FT7 and eat back what it says I lost as I ran
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He weighs about 120 more than me that's why I was concerned about the amount of calories he was eating being as it is only 600 calories more than what MFP puts us at w/out including workouts0
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TDEE method is easier to figure out and usually lets people eat more. I think information about it is in that link. With that method, you don't eat back your exercise calories, though, they're figured into the target. If he likes to eat (who doesn't), I would suggest he try TDEE-10% to start and if no weight's lost, then cut it by 15%.
(and you log your exercise as 1 minute, just for you to keep track.)0 -
TDEE method is easier to figure out and usually lets people eat more. I think information about it is in that link. With that method, you don't eat back your exercise calories, though, they're figured into the target. If he likes to eat (who doesn't), I would suggest he try TDEE-10% to start and if no weight's lost, then cut it by 15%.
(and you log your exercise as 1 minute, just for you to keep track.)
Thank you!
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xsqueakme85 wrote: »xsqueakme85 wrote: »xsqueakme85 wrote: »he is very commited. He logs everything I just want to make sure its enough.
then.... he clearly would have gone through the entire process of setting up his account and being walked through picking a weight loss goal and thus picking a calorie intake goal. And assuming he's been logging for at least a few months he can verify whether his intake is hgih enough by comparing his losses to his weekly goal.
Again, he did. I am asking as a concerned fiancé that is all. I weight 137 and eat 1200 a day to lose weight and I run. It seems low to me that is why I ask.
I'm surprised that he did considering you said that you have him eating 1800. Let him figure it out himself. You're clearly not eating enough either (I'm guessing 1200 without eating back your exercise calories?) so maybe concern yourself with your intake and let him concern himself with his intake? Let him set up his goals and account and intake. Let him come and ask the forums.
I do eat back my calories from running 3 miles a day. Its just what MFP sets me at. I apologize if this seems to be an issue. He works two jobs and I am usually the one who makes dinner for him, so I want to make sure I am doing it right on his part too for the dinner portion. I use a HR monitor the FT7 and eat back what it says I lost as I ran
I don't see how yuo making dinner means you need to monitor his intake needs. Create the recipe and figure out portions on MFP, then either recreate the recipe on his account so he can add it to his profile or just share it with him (not sure how that is done, though). Then he can take what fits into his needs and goals. He needs to be the one figuring out if his intake is enough or not, or he at least needs to be the one asking for advice unless you are his caretaker.0 -
xsqueakme85 wrote: »xsqueakme85 wrote: »xsqueakme85 wrote: »he is very commited. He logs everything I just want to make sure its enough.
then.... he clearly would have gone through the entire process of setting up his account and being walked through picking a weight loss goal and thus picking a calorie intake goal. And assuming he's been logging for at least a few months he can verify whether his intake is hgih enough by comparing his losses to his weekly goal.
Again, he did. I am asking as a concerned fiancé that is all. I weight 137 and eat 1200 a day to lose weight and I run. It seems low to me that is why I ask.
I'm surprised that he did considering you said that you have him eating 1800. Let him figure it out himself. You're clearly not eating enough either (I'm guessing 1200 without eating back your exercise calories?) so maybe concern yourself with your intake and let him concern himself with his intake? Let him set up his goals and account and intake. Let him come and ask the forums.
I do eat back my calories from running 3 miles a day. Its just what MFP sets me at. I apologize if this seems to be an issue. He works two jobs and I am usually the one who makes dinner for him, so I want to make sure I am doing it right on his part too for the dinner portion. I use a HR monitor the FT7 and eat back what it says I lost as I ran
I don't see how yuo making dinner means you need to monitor his intake needs. Create the recipe and figure out portions on MFP, then either recreate the recipe on his account so he can add it to his profile or just share it with him (not sure how that is done, though). Then he can take what fits into his needs and goals. He needs to be the one figuring out if his intake is enough or not, or he at least needs to be the one asking for advice unless you are his caretaker.
Answer the question, then let it go. you are obviously reading way too far into this. Thanks for your concern though!0 -
Please understand that it was meant as a light hearted way to tell you that this looks like an unhealthy relationship. A man shouldn't need a woman to tell him what to eat and when to eat it. What a man needs from a woman is respect. A man who doesn't feel like the people around him respect him is a man who feels like a dead man.
If he would like to come on here and ask the question for himself, I'm sure that some of us would be happy to give him an answer.0 -
TimothyFish wrote: »
Please understand that it was meant as a light hearted way to tell you that this looks like an unhealthy relationship. A man shouldn't need a woman to tell him what to eat and when to eat it. What a man needs from a woman is respect. A man who doesn't feel like the people around him respect him is a man who feels like a dead man.
If he would like to come on here and ask the question for himself, I'm sure that some of us would be happy to give him an answer.
Sounds to me like ya'll are looking too far into the question I had. Thank you though. He is actually still working at 10 pm on his own business. Just stop reading so far into it is all.0 -
The forums don't sleep at 10pm. If he is concerned then he can ask at whatever time he wants. Or he can ask you to post his specific concerns on his behalf. You're clearly not posting on his behalf.xsqueakme85 wrote: »TimothyFish wrote: »xsqueakme85 wrote: »TimothyFish wrote: »
Thank you for answering the question I had... Glad to see you actually read the text and answered the question at hand. Thank you for being such a good reader. OMG you must have a lot to do. Please don't spend it on being a smart *kitten*. k? Thanks!!!
Please understand that it was meant as a light hearted way to tell you that this looks like an unhealthy relationship. A man shouldn't need a woman to tell him what to eat and when to eat it. What a man needs from a woman is respect. A man who doesn't feel like the people around him respect him is a man who feels like a dead man.
If he would like to come on here and ask the question for himself, I'm sure that some of us would be happy to give him an answer.
Sounds to me like ya'll are looking too far into the question I had. Thank you though. He is actually still working at 10 pm on his own business. Just stop reading so far into it is all.
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xsqueakme85 wrote: »xsqueakme85 wrote: »xsqueakme85 wrote: »xsqueakme85 wrote: »he is very commited. He logs everything I just want to make sure its enough.
then.... he clearly would have gone through the entire process of setting up his account and being walked through picking a weight loss goal and thus picking a calorie intake goal. And assuming he's been logging for at least a few months he can verify whether his intake is hgih enough by comparing his losses to his weekly goal.
Again, he did. I am asking as a concerned fiancé that is all. I weight 137 and eat 1200 a day to lose weight and I run. It seems low to me that is why I ask.
I'm surprised that he did considering you said that you have him eating 1800. Let him figure it out himself. You're clearly not eating enough either (I'm guessing 1200 without eating back your exercise calories?) so maybe concern yourself with your intake and let him concern himself with his intake? Let him set up his goals and account and intake. Let him come and ask the forums.
I do eat back my calories from running 3 miles a day. Its just what MFP sets me at. I apologize if this seems to be an issue. He works two jobs and I am usually the one who makes dinner for him, so I want to make sure I am doing it right on his part too for the dinner portion. I use a HR monitor the FT7 and eat back what it says I lost as I ran
I don't see how yuo making dinner means you need to monitor his intake needs. Create the recipe and figure out portions on MFP, then either recreate the recipe on his account so he can add it to his profile or just share it with him (not sure how that is done, though). Then he can take what fits into his needs and goals. He needs to be the one figuring out if his intake is enough or not, or he at least needs to be the one asking for advice unless you are his caretaker.
Answer the question, then let it go. you are obviously reading way too far into this. Thanks for your concern though!
I cannot answer the question because you are not your fiance. Unless you are his appointed caretaker, the only way I can actually help him is if I am speaking with him.0 -
xsqueakme85 wrote: »xsqueakme85 wrote: »xsqueakme85 wrote: »xsqueakme85 wrote: »he is very commited. He logs everything I just want to make sure its enough.
then.... he clearly would have gone through the entire process of setting up his account and being walked through picking a weight loss goal and thus picking a calorie intake goal. And assuming he's been logging for at least a few months he can verify whether his intake is hgih enough by comparing his losses to his weekly goal.
Again, he did. I am asking as a concerned fiancé that is all. I weight 137 and eat 1200 a day to lose weight and I run. It seems low to me that is why I ask.
I'm surprised that he did considering you said that you have him eating 1800. Let him figure it out himself. You're clearly not eating enough either (I'm guessing 1200 without eating back your exercise calories?) so maybe concern yourself with your intake and let him concern himself with his intake? Let him set up his goals and account and intake. Let him come and ask the forums.
I do eat back my calories from running 3 miles a day. Its just what MFP sets me at. I apologize if this seems to be an issue. He works two jobs and I am usually the one who makes dinner for him, so I want to make sure I am doing it right on his part too for the dinner portion. I use a HR monitor the FT7 and eat back what it says I lost as I ran
I don't see how yuo making dinner means you need to monitor his intake needs. Create the recipe and figure out portions on MFP, then either recreate the recipe on his account so he can add it to his profile or just share it with him (not sure how that is done, though). Then he can take what fits into his needs and goals. He needs to be the one figuring out if his intake is enough or not, or he at least needs to be the one asking for advice unless you are his caretaker.
Answer the question, then let it go. you are obviously reading way too far into this. Thanks for your concern though!
I cannot answer the question because you are not your fiance. Unless you are his appointed caretaker, the only way I can actually help him is if I am speaking with him.
I have tried to be nice. Are you married or in a committed relationship? If so then please talk away other wise he pays ALL The bills the lease I can do is make his damn dinner and make sure it is healthy for him! I go to school and that is all. So please continue if you feel somehow I am working too hard for a man who bought me a brand new house, a brand new car brand new clothing and everything else, including a 6 thousand dollar mattress and bed set and takes care of our son equally as I do while working two full time jobs. Please tell me I am wrong for taking care of my man nutritionally?0 -
xsqueakme85 wrote: »
razberitaxsqueakme85 wrote: »xsqueakme85 wrote: »xsqueakme85 wrote: »he is very commited. He logs everything I just want to make sure its enough.
then.... he clearly would have gone through the entire process of setting up his account and being walked through picking a weight loss goal and thus picking a calorie intake goal. And assuming he's been logging for at least a few months he can verify whether his intake is hgih enough by comparing his losses to his weekly goal.
Again, he did. I am asking as a concerned fiancé that is all. I weight 137 and eat 1200 a day to lose weight and I run. It seems low to me that is why I ask.
I'm surprised that he did considering you said that you have him eating 1800. Let him figure it out himself. You're clearly not eating enough either (I'm guessing 1200 without eating back your exercise calories?) so maybe concern yourself with your intake and let him concern himself with his intake? Let him set up his goals and account and intake. Let him come and ask the forums.
I do eat back my calories from running 3 miles a day. Its just what MFP sets me at. I apologize if this seems to be an issue. He works two jobs and I am usually the one who makes dinner for him, so I want to make sure I am doing it right on his part too for the dinner portion. I use a HR monitor the FT7 and eat back what it says I lost as I ran
I don't see how yuo making dinner means you need to monitor his intake needs. Create the recipe and figure out portions on MFP, then either recreate the recipe on his account so he can add it to his profile or just share it with him (not sure how that is done, though). Then he can take what fits into his needs and goals. He needs to be the one figuring out if his intake is enough or not, or he at least needs to be the one asking for advice unless you are his caretaker.
Answer the question, then let it go. you are obviously reading way too far into this. Thanks for your concern though!
I cannot answer the question because you are not your fiance. Unless you are his appointed caretaker, the only way I can actually help him is if I am speaking with him.
Other than being on my fitness pal, what other kind of qualifications do you have have to actually help him, or me? Just cause you have a little bump on your arm on MPF? Or do you have some other certificates? If you do, don't you think you would be helping and not being a compete *kitten*?-1 -
Seriously, some of you need to check yourselves and hop off your high horses.
xsqueakme85, you really should encourage him to get involved in the forums.
The best way for him to really get a handle of his own nutrition, intake and fitness is to take it into his own hands and learn. Good luck! 0 -
I think you're getting some pushback because, if you want your husband to lose weight and keep it off, he needs to understand how much food to eat and when it works best for him to eat it.
I get that you may have an arrangement that you will track stuff for him, feed him reasonable meals, etc., but unless he internalizes it, what's likely to happen when he reaches his goal weight is that he'll go back to his old habits—at work, if not at home—and gain it back.
To answer the question: as a 5' 10", 44-year-old male, who weighed 215 lb. at the beginning of my weight loss 2 years ago, I ate 1570 calories (plus exercise) and lost 1.1 pounds a week. I'm now at 150 pounds and eat 1800 for maintenance. 1800 seems reasonable, but really, the only thing to do is wait for 4 weeks, compare his actual loss against what he was projecting, and then adjust as necessary. A lot of people forget that your actual results are the best way to tell whether you're doing things right.0 -
Oh, and by the way, I have been married for nearly 20 years, and in a committed relationship for 24. My wife and I are deeply committed to one another's success. But I wouldn't presume to ask for advice on her behalf unless she had explicitly told me to do so, or if I wanted to surprise her with a gift (like the new bicycle that I have in mind). She has a computer and Internet access, too!0
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KrissyMuree wrote: »Seriously, some of you need to check yourselves and hop off your high horses.
xsqueakme85, you really should encourage him to get involved in the forums. The best way for him to really get a handle of his own nutrition, intake and fitness is to take it into his own hands and learn. Good luck!
It's not being on a high horse, it's simply being unable to help someone who isn't actually asking for help. She does not know the intricacies of how he feels during the day, how his intake makes him feel, whether certain macro ratios work better or not, if there are any issues with his intake messing up his general or more specific goals.. it'd be like if my mom went to the doctor for me to get me diagnosed for something. How can the doctor actually know what to say or suggest without me actually providing any thorough information? And it already seems clear that she is not speaking on his behalf, in which case she'd be able to provide many many details and could relay things we ask back to him. If that was happening due to his scheduling conflicts, then it'd be a bit awkward but still fine to answer through her. This is not what is happening, she is being the mom who leashes her 4 year old child while grocery shopping.0
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