How do you stop overeating/binging?

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  • Alligator423
    Alligator423 Posts: 87 Member
    I usually eat dinner around 7-8 pm but don't usually sleep until after midnight, at which point I generally feel hungry again. I actually kind of like it, though. It's sort of like feeling sore after the gym for me--you know you're working hard!

    I am also a big proponent of nothing being off limits. If you want a cookie, eat a cookie! But just one or two. Along those lines, sometimes I'll take an "event" off. For example, if I know I am going out for drinks or to a party, I will eat a little less during the day but then stop logging at the party (still trying to not go crazy with it). This helps me from feeling like I've failed which would initiate even MORE eating.

  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    I see this a lot when people are too restrictive in terms of calories consumed and in terms of labeling foods as "good" or "bad" and trying not to eat anything they've categorized in the latter category.

    Eat an appropriate level of calories and hit your goals...eat a balanced and nutritious diet...but enjoy a slice or two of pizza every once in awhile or have a little ice cream for desert. Allow yourself some freedom.
  • tinascar2015
    tinascar2015 Posts: 413 Member
    Referring to what Ana said way up there, that's me, too. I grew up with a mom who obsessed over every bite I ate, and it messed me up emotionally. Many foods were totally off limits to me, so of course, my response was to eat them -- and LOTS of them, a pattern that has continued my entire adult life. I often wonder if well-meaning parents have any idea how they screw up their kids' relationship with food.

    I can't explain why a month ago, seeing my weight on that scale flipped a switch in my head that told me it was time to shed the girth again, but the compulsive eating and bingeing stopped cold. I had gained 60 pounds since I last stepped on a scale, and I needed to lose 50 pounds even then!! I'm grateful for the wakeup call.

    So now, nothing is off limits. It's the only way I can do it. But the difference now is, if I fall off the wagon one day (which I've only done once), I don't get all defeatest and think I'm back to Square One. I get back on the wagon the very next day. I also make sure to log every single thing I eat on days like that. I must be honest with myself in order to be in control.

    Water doesn't do a thing to stop the empty feeling and compulsion to eat the brownies my husband has stashed in the pantry. But for me, a banana with one tablespoon of peanut butter works a miracle. I make sure to have one or two snacks during the day. We have pizza once every couple weeks, my own recipe, and as good a pizza as you will EVER eat -- with my own homemade pork sausage, pepperoni and everything. Two slices and a big dinner salad are totally satisfying, physically and emotionally, and that dinner fits into my daily intake just fine.
  • ryanp_942
    ryanp_942 Posts: 44 Member
    edited February 2015
    I used to do the same thing by having a nearly full week of A+ eating/exercise and then binging on the weekend. I found it was because I simply wasn't eating enough through the week and decided to lower my goals to just losing 1lb a week instead of 2. (I should note here that even this is unsustainable weight loss and is more of a short term goal for me.)

    I try to not have too many 'rules' because restraining myself from any treats at all inevitably leads me to repeat the cycle. However my absolute rule is no eating past 8pm. I understand not everyone can do this due to work hours etc. but scheduling meals and sticking to them is one of the more useful methods of controlling weight.

    Part of the reason is to do with how hormone levels (especially cortisol) interact with your innate body clock - eating at irregular hours disrupts the natural rhythms and there is a wealth of evidence suggesting this causes weight gain and increases incidence of T2 diabetes. Similarly try and establish a healthy sleeping pattern - exercising in the late afternoon rather than late evening has been shown to help in this & avoiding computers at night helps too. [Source for anyone interested; "How to fix a broken clock" in Trends in Pharmacological Sciences November 2013, Vol. 34, No. 11.]

    TL;DR - don't starve yourself, have the occasional treat, think in the long term and couple your weight loss regime with a healthy sleeping pattern and meal times.
  • loveby30
    loveby30 Posts: 76 Member
    I can't explain why a month ago, seeing my weight on that scale flipped a switch in my head that told me it was time to shed the girth again, but the compulsive eating and bingeing stopped cold..

    ^^This happened to me like two years ago and I lost around 20 KGs about 10 of them without really "trying". I was super strict from about May until September of last year to lose the last 5-10KGs and then went to a kinda "meh I eat good/whole/real/healthy food it can't be that bad" attitude toward eating. I have been trying to get back on track since January.

    However after years of not struggling with binging and overeating, I am back to having crazy binge episodes (I used to over eat like crazy). It's the weirdest thing, and none of the coping mechanisms I used to use seem to be working (drink water, refocus on goals, etc). All that happens is that I work myself up into a panic attack for even having the cravings in the first place. For the most part I am not eating "poorly" per say (no fast food, no "junk" food, just a lot of "healthy whole foods" like an entire thing of hummus and carrots in 5 min :( or a entire ball of fresh organic mozzarella with a package of spinach, or an entire carten of berries in one mouthful ) I think a change in work schedule and living location (with a LOT more temptation near by) is partly to blame. I am thinking signing up for a meal delivery service just for a month to kick my body into gear. I just need to snap out of it!!!
  • xmarye
    xmarye Posts: 385 Member
    999tigger wrote: »
    Im just focused. If I want to binge or eat over then thats fine, but I work hard in the gym which gives me that insurance. By having the freedom to binge if I want to and having focus, then it means I dont.

    I dont do hunger its a stupid and undermining thing to go through.

    You are probably either too aggressive which is a path to bingeing or you arent focused enough so when that binge time comes you dont have a strategy in place to bypass the bingeing and do soemthing else non food related to get you past it. Ofc if you arent eating enough in the first place then you are going to be going to the fridge etc and by that time you will eat whats there.

    Solution.
    1. Eat enough calories in the first place.
    2. Look at what you eat, so you eat stuff that will satisfy your hunger.
    3. Allocate more calories to late night.
    4. Work on dealing with stress, which might divert you from emotional eating.

    You are very wise! I agree with everything and I couldn't have said it any better, really!
  • xmarye
    xmarye Posts: 385 Member
    This is my first post here at MFP. I battle binge eating cravings every night. I also have dealt with anxiety attacks as a result of PTSD. Both are very similar. Once I start to eat, it is all over. I have talked with a lot of people and over the years I have realized that the mechanics of binge eating is much like problems alcoholics face. The only thing that works is to deal with the urges without eating. Much like learning how to work thru panic attacks you must become aware that these urges are a result of a temporary chemical surge in your body. You must accept that you will never be able to stop the urges. Therefore you must learn how to "Weather the Storm". There are multiple coping mechanisms. For some people working out helps, others drink water, but for the most part, (and most successful for me) is to take a moment and consciously recognize these cravings for what they are. Chemical surges in your body that will pass and that you have to consciously control. Like panic attacks, most of these urges will last about 20 minutes. Hang in there for that time. Most importantly, You must not start eating. Like panic attacks, once you give in to the attack or in the case of urges you start to eat, you have lost the battle. Body chemistry takes over and the chemicals that started the urges increase. If your urges come late at night, the best thing you can do is just go to bed. Another tactic if your serious about beating them is to log your cravings. Note when and why they occur. You will be able to develop a pattern and learn what your triggers really are. One of the cruelest and probably best bits of advise that my doctor told me is to, "Make hunger your friend".
    takes over.

    This is mainly what helped me overcome my BED. Everybody else advises to find a distraction, when what really worked was to stop running away and just facing it. I did really well for about a month, and then when the cravings came back I ''forgot'' what to do. Happily, I took back control and faced those cravings again. The first few days are the hardest. After a while, it just feels so good to be in control that it keeps me from letting myself slip in that dark place again.

    But then again, whatever works! Distraction might help some people, but if you tried everything else maybe it's time to just face it to overcome it.

    Good luck to anybody facing BED, it is possible to get better!
  • juganaut
    juganaut Posts: 79 Member
    Thanks for all these great responses. I will use your tips and hopefully get this under control.
  • Hungrydesperado
    Hungrydesperado Posts: 5 Member
    Plenty of water and sip on black coffee. But mainly its about getting your mind right, everything is about your mind-set. If you can do it for 5 days you can do it for 7 days.
  • bkyingst
    bkyingst Posts: 7 Member
    I keep the stuff out of the house so I am not tempted. And I pack my lunch for work so I don't go buy junk food.. If you have to over eat or eat more, do fruits or vegetables... If I eat an apple, orange, and banana for snacks I feel way better than having had eaten chips or a snack food.. Once you get used to fruits and vegetables, your body craves them! So hopefully find a few that you like!
  • AlciaMode
    AlciaMode Posts: 421 Member
    I keep telling myself that whatever it is that I want right now is not worth giving up what I want in the long run. Then I look at the fattest picture of myself that is on my phone and I put down the junk and pick up an apple.
  • Sheyanne0747
    Sheyanne0747 Posts: 9 Member
    I need help with this too!
  • MickeyCastello
    MickeyCastello Posts: 269
    edited February 2015
    It's kinda hard to help, because your diary is private, so we can't make suggestions as to what and how much you are eating. Some of the things I did to get to goal, and still do in maintenance:
    1.) Ate anything I wanted, as long as if fit into my calorie limits.
    2.) I didn't buy snacks to keep in the house. This way if I wanted something, I would have to cook and do dishes.
    3.) Drink about 16 oz. of water about 20 - 30 minutes before I ate, including my snack time.
    4.) Changed my meal times to 9AM/1PM/6PM and a snack in the 8:30 - 9:30 range.
    5.) Made my dinner where I got most of my protein. This keeps me feeling full longer.
    6.) Set my weigh-in day as a cheat day, but only if I lost weight, and I didn't go over what would be maintenance limits for that day. I think that was a big reason I got there.
    If you want more suggestions, just PM me.
    Good luck!
  • alicaramik2
    alicaramik2 Posts: 71 Member
    Yeah, I would do that too. I would generally eat healthy and then blow it with crazy binges. Like an entire pizza or three huge bowls of mac and cheese. For me, it was an emotional issue and plain boredom. I'm getting better with distracting myself. Especially finding things to do that occupy my hands and mind, like crossword puzzles. Sometimes, I have to get up and leave the room. I'll go sit on my bed, close my eyes and try to concentrate on what is actually bothering me. Then take a few deep breaths and remind myself why I need to lose the weight and what I hope to be able to do once I'm healthy again.
  • neaneacc
    neaneacc Posts: 224 Member
    Eating 5 to 6 meal/snacks should prevent you from being too hungry to control yourself. However, it might be worth it to start a journal/diary of what triggers you to want to eat. I know it sounds weird, but taking the time to write down helps to allow you to face an emotions that may be forcing you to binge. Then you can work on your high stress issues: working late, no sleep, long commutes and so on all contribute to stress which ruins diets.
    I hope this helps!

    Renee
  • BlxckSwan
    BlxckSwan Posts: 8 Member
    Get rid of any distractions nearby and eat very slowly.
  • LavenderLeaves
    LavenderLeaves Posts: 195 Member
    Like others have already said in this thread, if you're truly binging, there's an underlying reason. Restrictions will only make it worse. Don't think this is something you can turn off like a faucet - accept it will happen again, and that the goal is to figure out how to decrease how much it happens until it's not anymore. Try not to let the next binge be this terrifying, ominous thing hanging over your head, as it can end up contributing to restriction, which just further increases a chance of binging.

    Do not beat yourself up or let yourself feel guilty when it does happen. Binge eating isn't just a case of overeating occasionally, and there's a lot of stuff that goes along with it. There's usually reasons and triggers. If your eating cycles are particularly damaged right now, simply being hungry or having an upset stomach for the day could be triggering in and of itself.

    I'd really suggest looking into self-help books (there's a handful of exceptionally wonderful books aimed at binge eating disorder,) and actively trying to figure out what the root of the reason for the behaviours are.

    I will say that having other people to feel you can share your struggles with helps A LOT. People who will reassure you that a binge isn't the end of the world, and remind you not to give up and your goals can still be achieved. People who you feel very comfortable with and won't make you feel strange or guilty/shamed by what you eat when you binge.

    Eating regularly, satisfying meals imo, is one of the first major steps for curbing any ravenous hunger borne of not eating for the whole day. I know at my worst, I would not eat a thing until well after 5pm, often because my stomach was still sore from a binge the previous night. I kept telling myself I would start eating well the next day, but I was still oddly terrified of food and what I perceived as the power it held over me. Trying to no longer see food as good or bad has helped me immensely.

    If your hunger cues are extremely difficult to recognize, that's something that eating 3-4 times a day will help with A LOT. It took me nearly 3 weeks to fully be able to recognize when I was hungry. I'm still learning to recognize when I'm truly full, and that I don't need to finish everything on my plate.

    I am always open to new friends on here who are actively dealing with BED, or have dealt with it. If any of what I've said rings remotely with you, please feel free to send me an invite or message me if you want to talk about anything.
  • jazzy550
    jazzy550 Posts: 264 Member
    juganaut wrote: »
    I'm stuck in a terrible cycle of eating really well for 4-5 days then BAM - a mindless zombified eating session that sets me back to the start.

    I would be grateful for any tips on how to make this stop!

    The is a billboard here in the town I live in that says, binge eating is real. And then it gives a number. I have on and off went on an eating binder and it feels awful after! I am sorry you are going through that.

  • loriehager
    loriehager Posts: 5 Member
    The book by Kathryn Hansen, Brain over Binge. This book really helped me get a grip on my bingeing, think it may have even cured it for me.
  • loriehager
    loriehager Posts: 5 Member
    ana3067 wrote: »
    I did it by not trying to "eat well." I just... you know, eat. Any food I like. So no foods are off limits. Because of this I actually on average eat the lower nutritious foods less frequently, or at least in smaller quantity. I haven't binged the entire 7 months I've logged.

  • loriehager
    loriehager Posts: 5 Member
    Great advice ana3067, this is the same way that I've been overcoming my bingeing as well.
  • juganaut wrote: »
    I'm stuck in a terrible cycle of eating really well for 4-5 days then BAM - a mindless zombified eating session that sets me back to the start.

    I would be grateful for any tips on how to make this stop!

    I don't restrict myself other than reducing my calorie intake. If I want a burrito, I go and build a burrito bowl instead. I make the rest of my day work around it. I also have opted to skip on eating breakfast other than coffee in the morning. I prefer to less frequently, but eat a larger amount during my meals.

    I still occasionally have my "just stay fat" days, but they are a lot less frequent because I'm not missing out on anything.

  • lynn1643
    lynn1643 Posts: 36 Member
    Try looking up Josie Mai on youtube or vm fitness. She has some great ideas about intuitive eating, balance, eating what you love in moderatiin and iifym. I also found a new blog called, "can you stay for dinner" that is helpful. Lots of people like the book "brain over binge" by katherine hansen too. Definately eating enough calories, nourishing your body, honoring cravings, and making healthy foods appealing are helpful. For me, managing stress and feelings are the tough part!
  • brianpperkins
    brianpperkins Posts: 6,124 Member
    juganaut wrote: »
    To be honest, I do have some fairly low calorie days and I do workout 6 days a week. I assume there is also an emotional aspect to it as I have been fairly stressed out with irregular hours at work.

    I've already decided to quit my job in the next week or two - this will allow me total unemployed control of my daily routine and eating habits. It will also keep me away from the footlong subs.

    However, quitting my job does not stop me from visiting the fridge a dozen times at night. I might have to start embracing that feeling of hunger at nights and do intermittent fasting again.

    How low are your "fairly low calorie days" and what do you do for your workouts?