Why am I scared

the first step is admitting it.... YOU DID IT!! and you CAN lost that 100lbs in a healthy way. we will all support you!!

Don't be shy! I mean, you don't need to start shouting from the rooftops but tell the ones you love around you. They'll be supportive and make it even easier to do. When I started dieting the first time around I kept it to myself and it didn't go so well. But the second time around (now) I have told a lot of my friends and family and not only are they supportive but they also help hold me accountable.

And hey, you just told a bunch of strangers. The confidence you had to possess to do that is astounding. Now go kick some butt!

If you need to lose 100 lbs., you need to lose 100 lbs. It's like balking over a particular dress size, or your age -- there's not really a point in denying the truth of it, is there?

For what it's worth, I also need to lose 100 pounds. I've been trying to think of it as losing 10 pounds 10 times. (Just not the same 10 pounds, thanks.)

Why am I scared to say I really want to lose 100lbs?

I started saying I want to lose 60lbs, that wouldn't even take me out of the obese category. Then I said ok well I really want to lose 85lbs. Now the thing is I REALLY want to lose 100lbs, it will bring me right into the healthy category for my height and I've been there before and it looked great!

I think part of me doesn’t want to admit I need to lose that much, I think part of me thinks it's not possible to do in a healthy way(the last time I was there I was starving myself) or maybe I just think I'm never destined to be thin.

Then I realize maybe just maybe this is why I always gain it back, because I won't admit to myself I really need to 100lbs!

it CAN be done. it won't be easy, but you have the strength withing you to accomplish the task. don't think long term, set mini-goals. 10 or 20 lbs at a time. also don't worry about an aerbitrary number, the ultimate goal of any fitness routine should be to get and stay healthy. The weightloss is just a side effect of maintaining a healthy and active lifestyle. if 100lbs seems to duanting try setting a work out goal instead. some times i have to ignore the scale for a bit and just set a goal of working out for x amount of time in x days.

It's called setting "mini" goals and that's fine and works for alot of people. If losing 100 pounds is intimidating, just focus on the 40lbs at a time. I used to buy new workout music for every mini goal I reached and it made losing tons of weight more bearable. Before you know it, the majority of the weigh loss will be behind you, not in front of you!

The 100 lb mark scares me too! I think it just seems so overwhelming, and I think my commitment won't last the whole year (the max time I have set to lose it). Maybe setting smaller short term goals along with the long term 100lb goal will make it seem less daunting.

But it is possible and you CAN do it! There are lots of people on here who will help with support and encouragement. Add me as a friend if you like.

You DID just admit it! I had to admit that to myself too...and I know it will be a long road ahead of me. I think for this to work we need to be honest to ourselves. Honest about how much we weigh and honest about what we did to get ourselves here. Honest about everything we put into our mouths and the exercise we do (or need to do). Too many times I would rationalize to myself why it was ok to eat half a pan of brownies, or a package of cookies or whatever. I got pretty good at coming up with excuses about how it didn't really matter. It does matter, and lying to ourselves is only hurting us...and by extension our families.

Good for you for taking that first step and admitting what need to be done!

What does having lose to 100 pounds means? That you're a bad person? Are you a better person if you "only" have to lose 65?

It sounds silly when you think of it that way, doesn't it? Your weight is just a number. It tells us nothing about who You are. It's just information. Data. A statistic.

I started with 90 pounds to lose. It doesn't make me 10% more fabulous than you. And you are not 50% more awesome than someone who has to lose 200.

You're beautiful, lovable, and imperfectly wonderful right here and now. Who cares what you weigh or how much you have to lose? Weight is something you can change. That all of us can change. When you can get objective about it--and stop believing that having extra weight makes you less-than in any way--you are free.

So, get real. Get free.

I thought I needed to lose more and at my current weight I am happy. I am at 138lbs. But for my height - all the charts and articles suggest I be more around 115-120. Screw that! I am healthy, I am fit and I look good.

So if 100 lbs is what it takes for you to feel/look good then so be it. But often times I find that I end up losing much less but physically being where i want to be