People keep telling me either to stop losing weight or that I'm too skinny!

Well maybe u should post before nd after pics , i know when i lost weight the first time that it took me gaining it all back to realize how small i had gotten before ( i still looked huge to myself) or it really could be, ther bein ugly and jealous idk!

Haters gonna hate. A lot of people try to drag you down just out of jealousy or because they feel threatened, or because you're making them have think about their own lifestyles, which makes them feel uncomfortable. I've had people make similar remarks to me, and I'm your same height and weigh 160! I'm still *overweight* according to the charts, and quite obviously so, and yet I have received negative feedback from some people, similar to what you describe. (I'm a size 10 on a good day, hardly too skinny!) They're called haters. They're everywhere, and everyone deals with them. Ignore them.

JourneyingJessica wrote: »

I get that too. I'm 5'5" and 150lbs. I've been told you don't need to lose weight, go eat a hamburger, you need to stop losing weight etc. at 150, I'm at the high end of healthy bmi range & I'm far from where I'd like to be for my body. I just smile and ignore.

I think people get so used to seeing you one way they have trouble adjusting to you other ways.

This! Especially that last sentence. People don't adjust to change very well.

MoiAussi93 wrote: »

If is also possible that some people truly feel you would look better a few pounds heavier...at the high end of healthy instead of in the middle of the range. We all have different tastes. But the only opinion that really matters on aesthetics is yours...and your partner's to some extent. So ignore everyone else.

That too. Unfortunately I've received some harsh comments from men who prefer larger women. Well, good for them. But I'm not here to satisfy anyone's fat fetish. I'm not here to be skinny for anyone else, I'm not here to be chubby for anyone else. I'm doing this for me. And I'm in no danger of ever being underweight. I'm having to learn to just let these things slide off my back. Don't worry about other people. You did such a great job, you should be so proud!

I got the same reaction from loved ones when I first lost weight. I think it was just a little alarming for them to see me suddenly noticeably smaller than I'd ever been since knowing them. And yeah, there is that "gaunt" look when you first lose weight that takes a little while to go away. I just smiled and assured them I wasn't planning to lose much more, that I was happy with my weight, etc.

It's been a few years since I dropped that weight, and now I'm losing more. People have had a chance to get used to me being smaller, and now everyone says I'm looking great with my recent weight loss. I'm 10-15 pounds lighter than I was when they said I needed to stop losing. It seems to me like their initial reaction was just due to them not being used to the new size. Their reaction was genuine concern, definitely not jealousy or anything like that, for me at least.

I think everyone is right it is usually haters that just try and bring you down because you did something about your weight. I am actually the same height working for the same goal and I think you are an inspiration.

"Opinions are like buttholes... We all have one"

I have lost 85 lbs in about a year, I get this a lot. When it comes from people whose opinion I care about, ( wife, close friends) I try to have a real conversation about bmi, healthy weights, etc. With my wife, I spend a lot of time reminding her that I still weigh 20 lbs more than I did when we married. I am at the heavy end of normal, and it does bother me a little when people i care about say i look bad, or tell me to eat something. I truly think it's because we are a heavy society, we are not used to thin people, and I was overweight for 10-12 years.
For everyone else, I either say "I feel great" or "I'm about done"

Congrats on your loss! I am getting that too and I am still 11 pounds away from hitting the upper end of my bmi and there is no doubt I still have some to lose.

I am not sure if people are used to seeing me heavy or what the deal is. I take it as a compliment and keep moving forward .

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Congratulations on hitting your goal! I've noticed that it seems like right after a person loses a good bit of weight, the face shows it most, and people sometimes make those "gaunt" comments. But then after a little while, it's like the body adjusts, almost redistributes?, and the face loses that extra-thin look. I'd just shrug off their comments and enjoy your victory!

I used to find mean and concerned comments from those close to me quite hurtful but I tried to brush off their comments knowing that I'd find my happy weight. Once I told them I was eating 1700-1800 calories a day and showed them my little muscles they usually shut up. I did end up a little underweight but I knew I'd gone too far and the problem was easily fixed (lol) and now I'm back to drop a few lbs back down to where I was most comfortable. I've told a few people that I'm trying to lose 10-15lbs this time and they don't seem concerned so I think they must have gotten used to me as a smaller person now.