"When are you due?" Seriously??

got ask that at a check out line and im male "groans"

It's amazing to me that people still do that! That happened to me years ago...wish I would have been brave enough to respond like maria!

Kuddos on the 18lb loss!! You're almost in the hundreds!

I did that. ONCE

I was so sure I could tell the difference between a baby and overweight.
The next time I was sure, I stayed quiet. As it turned out, she wasn't pregnant either :ohwell:

It happens, don't take it personally.

Congrats on your 18lb loss :flowerforyou:

I was 14 and a size 8 the first time I was asked that. So embarrassing. I've always carried my weight in my belly. One of my clients asks me regularly if I have a baby in my belly. He's 6 though, so I let it slide. I'm pretty certain it will take me a long time to lose the belly. My mom says even when I was little, I was tiny with a protruding belly. I didn't gain much on my thighs and backside until I got pregnant.

I quit alcohol for a month in January and obviously when a woman is suddenly not drinking, she must be pregnant. Especially when she has a tummy like I do. So I would get a lot of questioning looks but I always averted the awful question by just saying "nope, not pregnant, just fat". That shut them up real good.

Im so relieved to be honest that Im not the only one who gets these stupid comments! I worked as a temp last year at a law firm and one of the female lawyers there came over to me said hi, patted my stomach and said "Oooh when are you due?" I replied "Err no Im not pregnant, I just like cake." She practically ran away from me and avoided me for the rest of the time that I was there lol. Damn it these people need to learn some tact and hold true to the adage of unless someone tells you they're pregnant keep your mouth shut!

More than once I was standing on a crowded Metro train and asked by someone seated in the handicapped/special needs seats if I wanted to sit (as they eyeballed my belly). Usually a "no, thanks" would suffice, but one guy was really insistent to the point where I said "I know you're trying to be kind, but I am not pregnant."

I was asked that once. My response was "about three years ago" (youngest nearing his 3rd birthday at the time).

Definitely not a good question to ask, people!!! Hang in there OP. You're doing great!!

ShellyBell999 wrote: »

I did that. ONCE

I was so sure I could tell the difference between a baby and overweight.
The next time I was sure, I stayed quiet. As it turned out, she wasn't pregnant either :ohwell:

It happens, don't take it personally.

Congrats on your 18lb loss :flowerforyou:

I did that too, but she had on a maternity suit jacket, complete with the tie in the BACK and she kept shifting her purse from one side to the other just like pregnant people do because they're backs are killing them.

I would have felt bad, but she was a TOTAL B****, she earned it five times over.

I made the mistake of asking a girl that when I was a naive 20-year old, and she immediately,vigorously, and vehemently schooled me in the inappropriateness of my inquiry.

Well done on an awesome loss so far! You have every reason to feel good.

It actually baffles me that anyone would dare say something like that to a woman when they don't absolutely know for sure that she pregnant, and even then, a stranger's due date has sod all to do with them anyway. It's like how people think they have the right to manhandle a woman's bump, which is one reason that I'm glad I'm not having any children, I don't cope well with strangers forcing physical contact on me and I would seriously freak out at randomers thinking they have the right to feel my stomach just because there's a baby in there. People are so infuriating and inconsiderate sometimes. I second the notion of quickly replying with 'no baby, just fat', it embarasses people and seeing them backtrack with a mortified look on their face is pretty entertaining.

Well first off - It's none of their darn business whether a woman is pregnant or not or when her due date is!
Secondly - why the heck would anyone ask that questions even of their best friend if that friend didn't specifically tell them they were pregnant.
The rudeness of some people just never ceases to amaze!
The question, "When are you due," is always rude under any circumstance because it always insinuates a big belly!

A good friend of mine is overweight. However her stomach looks to be about 8 months pregnant not due to her weight issue. She had breast cancer, and from the chemo, she now has a very enlarged liver. Well .... one time she was flying to FL with a connecting hub in Atlanta. The queue was very long. She was in line, when someone from the airline came up to her and took her to another line to the side. They made a comment that they didn't want her standing too long. She realized that they thought she was VERY pregnant, so wanted to get her out of the line. She was too mortified to say anything. On her way home, she had a connecting flight through Detroit. The weather was horrible and she wasn't able to fly out, so they were all given rooms in a hotel. Of course, long line to check in. Sure enuf ... same thing. She was whisked to the front of the line, again, becuz they didn't want her standing on her feet that long. Again, she was terrified to say anything to the contrary. But at the same time, she thought she was all that and then some, because she was about 47 at the time. So thought, wow, for them to think SHE could be pregnant? Outstanding !!