Need advice, what am I doing wrong?

Stop relying on alcohol to give you liquid courage. If you wanna talk to a girl, take to her. The worst she can do is tell you she's not interested. Also, if you act like a horny, drunk pig no girl is going to want to go home with you.

A nice appearance is great, don't get me wrong, but there needs to be something fun and interesting behind it. It's crucial to the vibe you put out. Aside from your looks, who are you? Let people know in a light and approachable way.

RedPillAlpha wrote: »

But I want women to approach me and show me their personalities, why should it be my job to impress someone who is below me? I went clubbing witha guy a few nights ago who was the same height as me but had a better physique and an 8/10 face, girls were practically grabbing out of him but he had a girlfriend

Are you playing a character or do you actually think this way?

RedPillAlpha wrote: »

I am being serious

Ah, then I can't help ya bud because I can't relate. Good luck, though.

If you are playing the game of trying to impress people to get sex, insecurity is an integral part of it. Maybe it is time for you to have some more mature goals.

If what you're doing isn't working, do something different. Maybe stop clubbing and start trying to meet girls in different ways. Take up a unisex sport. Volunteer. Go out with friends (to places other than clubs). Work on your personality issues (see quote:)

But I want women to approach me and show me their personalities, why should it be my job to impress someone who is below me?

Maybe instead of trying to hook up, work on dating skills and relationship skills.

Physique is a good start because physical attraction is important but if you haven't got anything to back it up with girls will soon realise and lose interest. Why not work on becoming a more interesting person. Pursue some interests or hobbies that you like and start taking an interest in current affairs etc. At least then you'll have something to talk about with them. Bonus points if you can somehow meet a girl while pursuing your interests because then you'll have something in common.

Are you serious with the women are below you? That might be your problem, not your looks.

As a clubbing girl with an insight into these things, I’m gonna tell it to you straight.
There are (generally) three reasons girls go to clubs.
- Just there to dance/with friends (they aren’t interested in you, or anyone. Respect them and leave them alone.)

- Looking for love (grabbing her and making out with her is going to give her the VERY CORRECT impression that she and you aren’t looking for the same thing)

- Looking to get laid.
I assume that’s the type you’re looking for. But that doesn’t mean they’re not going to go home with any guy who expresses interest. Some certified ways to turn girls off include:

- Being too drunk. It’s just not attractive. When you get drunk, you get sloppy, which in turn is gross and off-putting, and gives the impression that you can’t control yourself and don’t know your limits.

- Touching us without making sure it’s okay first. I can’t count the number of times some random has walked up to me without a word and started thrusting his crotch at various parts of my body. Would you do that to a stranger in public? No? Well, just because you’re in a club doesn’t stop it from being sexual harassment. DON’T DO IT.

- Guys with unattractive personalities. Some girls who just want a one-night stand can overlook this, but generally, personality is important to us even outside of a relationship.
Personality is not only conveyed through speech, it’s about your atmosphere, body language and the way you behave. If your only hobbies are drinking, working on your muscles and trying to bed girls you met in clubs? Sorry to be blunt, but that’s pretty shallow.
If the only personality you’re conveying to these girls is shallow and insecure, then most of the time they won’t be interested. If you have no people skills? Doesn't matter how great your body is.

RedPillAlpha wrote: »

But I want women to approach me

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Not going to happen unless you are approaching MM aesthetics and high SMV.

Stop drinking to approach girls. This isn't the way to get over approach anxiety, it is just a crutch. By the end of the night you are a probably a drunk mess.

Clubs are the worst place to meet girls (srs). Go to have fun with your friends, but if you go with the pickup mindset you already put yourself in a position of disadvantage by basing your night on having to pick up/get laid = desperation and validation seeking.

Binge drinking is not a good way to overcome this struggle. You have outlined that yourself in your post. However, you have noticed that changing your outside didn't change how you feel inside. Congratulations on identifying the underlying issue, which is that you lack confidence. I suggest that you watch the following TED talk by Amy Cuddy: http://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes_who_you_are?language=en
In short, you can fake your mind into believing that you are confident by using your body. If you do it enough you will actually become more confident as a person. This is based on science and research even though it sounds like BS it actually works.
Additionally, understand that women are not a one size fits crowd is key. Confidence is sexy, but being drunk and overly touchy screams that your a jerk. Try to remember that girls will give you lots of non-verbal ques that should help you decide if she likes you or not. Smiling, prolonged eye contact, and anytime a girl goes out of her way to initiate touching you is a green light. If in anyway she looks pissed off or seems to inviting her friends to act as a buffer to keep you away understand she is telling you politely to get lost. I hope this helps!