Need advice, what am I doing wrong?

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  • RedPillAlpha
    RedPillAlpha Posts: 23
    WishesOnTheStar wrote: »
    RedPillAlpha wrote: »
    But I want women to approach me
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    Not going to happen unless you are approaching MM aesthetics and high SMV.

    Stop drinking to approach girls. This isn't the way to get over approach anxiety, it is just a crutch. By the end of the night you are a probably a drunk mess.

    Clubs are the worst place to meet girls (srs). Go to have fun with your friends, but if you go with the pickup mindset you already put yourself in a position of disadvantage by basing your night on having to pick up/get laid = desperation and validation seeking.

    I don't even like nightclubs but I have to go to socialize with the people from college or I'll end up as a loner again. I try to pickup girls at clubs because I think if I am going to waste my money I might as well try to get laid. When I go to music events I don't even think about women I just go to enjoy myself, I have spoken to women at these events but I never try to get with them

  • jenncornelsen
    jenncornelsen Posts: 969 Member
    So... how old are u now? Have u ever had a real relationship?
  • pechepanda
    pechepanda Posts: 7,939 Member
    Practice without the alcohol. And be a good person with something to offer beyond your looks. Aka have a personality.
  • RedPillAlpha
    RedPillAlpha Posts: 23
    jenncornelsen wrote: »
    So... how old are u now? Have u ever had a real relationship?
    19, haven't had any kind of relationship
  • jenncornelsen
    jenncornelsen Posts: 969 Member
    Do u have girls that are friends? An aqwaintance? Sounds like u could use some pointers.
  • RedPillAlpha
    RedPillAlpha Posts: 23
    pechepanda wrote: »
    Practice without the alcohol. And be a good person with something to offer beyond your looks. Aka have a personality.

    I can't practice without alcohol because I have social anxiety. I am a good person, people say this to me but being a good person gets you nowhere in life. My looks are average so I need them to be better in order to even have a shot.


  • RedPillAlpha
    RedPillAlpha Posts: 23
    jenncornelsen wrote: »
    Do u have girls that are friends? An aqwaintance? Sounds like u could use some pointers.

    no, none. I would not take pointers from a girl because I would only be receiving her biased opinions (how she would want a guy to approach her) which doesn't apply to the broader range.
  • jenncornelsen
    jenncornelsen Posts: 969 Member
    Lol keep doin what ur doin! U wont take advice so hey u know best
  • pechepanda
    pechepanda Posts: 7,939 Member
    edited March 2015
    RedPillAlpha wrote: »
    pechepanda wrote: »
    Practice without the alcohol. And be a good person with something to offer beyond your looks. Aka have a personality.

    I can't practice without alcohol because I have social anxiety. I am a good person, people say this to me but being a good person gets you nowhere in life. My looks are average so I need them to be better in order to even have a shot.

    Do you have a professional diagnosis or are you self diagnosing your social anxiety?
    Genetics play a large role in appearance, you'll probably always be average,
    Guess you're screwed, have fun being forever alone?
  • tomteboda
    tomteboda Posts: 2,171 Member
    From the conversation here, the problem isn't the OP's physique. Its his contempt of women
  • RedPillAlpha
    RedPillAlpha Posts: 23
    tomteboda wrote: »
    From the conversation here, the problem isn't the OP's physique. Its his contempt of women

    It's both and the fact that my face is average at best makes things worse

  • spastik
    spastik Posts: 33
    tomteboda wrote: »
    From the conversation here, the problem isn't the OP's physique. Its his contempt of women

    typical redpiller
  • strong_er
    strong_er Posts: 109 Member
    OP spending too much time on the misc.
  • RedPillAlpha
    RedPillAlpha Posts: 23
    Why are there bars on my avatar now?
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