20 Down 57 to Go and Struggling With Body Changes
kaitcxlv
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Since puberty I have always had a large chest. I knew that this would change significantly with weight loss, and it would be something I had to accept to become happy and healthy. This will not prevent me from pursuing a healthy body weight, but I find it difficult that something so tied with my identity is changing...
This seems a little silly even as I'm typing it. At the weight and shape I'm at I definitely have insecurities. This was the one asset/feature I could feel confident about. As much as I am seeing significant changes for the better with my body, I think the reason I am struggling is because I cannot imagine what the end result will look and feel like.
I guess what I am wondering is if I am alone on this one... and if not, how have you gotten past those negative feelings?
This seems a little silly even as I'm typing it. At the weight and shape I'm at I definitely have insecurities. This was the one asset/feature I could feel confident about. As much as I am seeing significant changes for the better with my body, I think the reason I am struggling is because I cannot imagine what the end result will look and feel like.
I guess what I am wondering is if I am alone on this one... and if not, how have you gotten past those negative feelings?
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I've been there too. All I can say is as you get closer to your goal you'll probably start to feel better about how you look. Best of luck!!0
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We do not get to choose what parts get smaller first. The body picks those. For now, observe your body and be gentle and have patience. Most likely, all the parts will even out after you are at maintenance for a while.
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I lost a nut... and I didn't even get the benefit of getting "happy and healthy" while it happened.
It's gone. Completely.
So what?
So.
What.
So your knockers get smaller.
So.
What.
Nobody cares like you think they do.
Nobody who matters, anyway.-1 -
SergeantSausage wrote: »I lost a nut... and I didn't even get the benefit of getting "happy and healthy" while it happened.
It's gone. Completely.
So what?
So.
What.
So your knockers get smaller.
So.
What.
Nobody cares like you think they do.
Nobody who matters, anyway.
I have not forced anyone to read or reply to this. I'm sorry that you feel the need to project your loss on others... Clearly you care enough to troll these posts and minimize people you don't even know. You realize you're posting in a diet and weight loss help forum right? Thanks for the support pal
. Best of luck. 0 -
Sympathys. Last time around I felt like I was doing a science experiment on myself and yes it gets weird.0
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Sympathys. Last time around I felt like I was doing a science experiment on myself and yes it gets weird.0
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SergeantSausage wrote: »I lost a nut... and I didn't even get the benefit of getting "happy and healthy" while it happened.
It's gone. Completely.
So what?
So.
What.
So your knockers get smaller.
So.
What.
Nobody cares like you think they do.
Nobody who matters, anyway.
I read this as supportive. I think he means boobs make a woman the same way balls make a man... they dont. Also, chin up... it could be worse.
I've lived years being the runner up to what I keep in my bra. I said my goodbyes on the first day of choosing new and healthy habits that will without a doubt shrink em. They'll sag too. I dont care. I want what I want and its a price ill pay.
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Hiw wording may be bad but his point is valid - this is your insecurity, those who care about you don't judge you by one body part. They don't look at you as 'overweight but has nice big boobs', they look at you as a whole. They're not going to go from caring about you to not caring cos your chest has got smaller. That's what he was saying, not projecting any loss nor trolling, just being blunt - at least that's how I read it.
Also, if its any help having lost almost 140lbs obviously mine have shrunk, however, they're still in proportion with the rest of me so I still like them
(As an aside if you're going to be here a while then you'll see people being blunt a lot that doesn't make them trolls or even rude, just they've seen most things that have posted a whole bunch of times and having to sugar coat stuff gets tedious. You can dismiss them if you so wish but they're also the ones who generally have the most knowledge & experience.)0 -
Even when parts you want to get smaller start to, it can be hard to wrap your mind around. I had to learn to stop thinking of myself as a fat person after I lost my first 35lbs. It was hard. One time I was out eating with a friend and I couldn't choose between two (tiny) desserts, so I decided to have both, and she said to me, "You can do that, because you're so tiny". I just stared blankly like, "What? Who's tiny?"
It takes time - took me about 6 months to a year to really come to terms with the new me.
But anyway, like one commenter said above, it'll probably even out. Once you get to a certain weight, your chest might stop getting smaller almost completely, just like that. And when the rest of you gets smaller, it'll start to look better. Even at my highest weight, I was about a B. Now I'm an A, but they look bigger than they used to because my stomach looks smaller.
If it's really hard, for now focus on how you're feeling physically. Do you feel healthier? Stronger? More energy? Can you do more? Focus on the positive, and it'll make accepting those other changes so much easier. No matter what, there is a community here and we all want to support you. Good luck!0 -
My boobs are my pride and joy. They bring all the boys to the yard, although I am married now so maybe that's not good. Lolll! But while I know they'll shrink some, I'm prayingggg they don't completely deflate.0
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But you know what. Even if they do and we end up B or C cups, oh well. We'll be healthier!! And have reached a goal many people never do! Don't fret sister. Just do some squats and be flat chested with a great *kitten* lolll0
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I feel you in fact I posted something similar on my journey
I have to say you get used to it ..I dropped from an E cup to just about a D cup but the rest of my body has slimmed in proportion and after the first jarring glances in the mirror where I thought "but my boobs waah" you begin to focus on areas you've always felt aren't quite as nice ...now I look at my legs and think "not bad" ...never felt like that before
I have to say I've been strength training since the start and I've not sagged at all ..not bad at my age after a couple of years breastfeeding
So don't despair ...just let your head and self image catch up ...I can still do cleavage when I want with the right bra0 -
My apologies if I have misunderstood. I suppose I read "Nobody cares like you think they do." without the tone of a face to face conversation and it takes on a completely different meaning.
Thanks everyone for the support. I guess it's just going to take time. I was hoping for a magical answer :P, but toughing it out seems like the only road.0 -
You'll get used to Sarge, he's a straight-talker with some great advice (generally along the "suck it up buttercup" lines) 0
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Totally understandable. It's your body, the only one you're used to so when a part of that which you love starts to change so drastically it makes sense you'd feel the way you do. As you lose weight though I'm sure you will discover that there are plenty other parts that you love about yourself. Your boobs may get smaller but you get killer legs or a great bum or a toned and beautiful tummy! Just try to go with the flow and embrace all the changes, ultimately the biggest change is on the inside and you're creating a healthy body.0
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I hate losing my boobs, when i did it the first time round they went from an F cup to a D cup and although they still looked good in my bra they looked awful out of it (I have never had pert boobs) as they just looked like tennis balls in long socks, when i put all the weight back on i was happy to get the girls back however this time round i am prepared for losing them (I was single first time round but now i have a man that really doesn't care what i look like naked) i will just have to buy some sexy, less reinforced push up bras that will be cheaper which is a bonus.
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I hate losing my boobs like really hate lol however I'm still only halfway through my journey and if I got to my goal with my original sized boobs I'd look like something from a freak show! As much as it causes me insecurities and upset I do have faith that it will all even out eventually and for my body size my boobs will still look relatively big x 0
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Ive lost 109 pounds and lost a lot off my bust. I use a good bra and a bit of padding and now being size 6-8 ( USA ) on top - they stand out ! Having a big bust and being big as well just isnt the same -big boobs just made me look fatter.
Of course my issue is with my legs - they are losing weight slower than my top half - grrrr .... We all have something that we dont like 0 -
SergeantSausage wrote: »I lost a nut... and I didn't even get the benefit of getting "happy and healthy" while it happened.
It's gone. Completely.
So what?
So.
What.
So your knockers get smaller.
So.
What.
Nobody cares like you think they do.
Nobody who matters, anyway.
I have not forced anyone to read or reply to this. I'm sorry that you feel the need to project your loss on others... Clearly you care enough to troll these posts and minimize people you don't even know. You realize you're posting in a diet and weight loss help forum right? Thanks for the support pal. Best of luck.
I don't think he was trying to minimize you OP, just prove a point. It's only a big deal if you let it be. Sound simple, yes? Simple doesn't mean easy, but it is as simple as that.0 -
he was being supportive.
really, no one cares but you. just like no one cares about his missing ball. LOLOL
ive lost 4" off my bust since january. id really rather it came off my hips but hey- whatever. my husband doesnt care. my friends dont care. really, other than being frustrated with bras right now, even *I* don't care. (and if hubby did care id bring up a *kitten* load of stuff about him LMAO!)
this is going to be a YOU battle. and, as another poster said, as you continue to lose weight, your body will most likely re-porportion itself so you still look nice.0 -
callsitlikeiseeit wrote: »he was being supportive.
really, no one cares but you. just like no one cares about his missing ball. LOLOL
ive lost 4" off my bust since january. id really rather it came off my hips but hey- whatever. my husband doesnt care. my friends dont care. really, other than being frustrated with bras right now, even *I* don't care. (and if hubby did care id bring up a *kitten* load of stuff about him LMAO!)
this is going to be a YOU battle. and, as another poster said, as you continue to lose weight, your body will most likely re-porportion itself so you still look nice.
Actually I did find myself wondering how much it weighed @SergeantSausage
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Since puberty I have always had a large chest. I knew that this would change significantly with weight loss, and it would be something I had to accept to become happy and healthy. This will not prevent me from pursuing a healthy body weight, but I find it difficult that something so tied with my identity is changing...
This seems a little silly even as I'm typing it. At the weight and shape I'm at I definitely have insecurities. This was the one asset/feature I could feel confident about. As much as I am seeing significant changes for the better with my body, I think the reason I am struggling is because I cannot imagine what the end result will look and feel like.
I guess what I am wondering is if I am alone on this one... and if not, how have you gotten past those negative feelings?
I have always been big chested as well. I have amazing breasts especially for them to be between a d/dd and sit up as perky as a b, so I understand what you mean by being afraid of what it will be like when they are not as large. Right now I am currently the largest I have been 160, but I generally used to be around 130-135 and was a good C... Once I lost weight and went down to 120 and was a B.... Being someone that had always had decent sized breasts I LOVED my smaller Breast. They were awesome! I could wear the cutest bras, shirts that I had always wanted to wear but couldn't because of my big breasts now looked great, or if I just didn't feel like wearing a bra I for the first time didn't have to. And If having small breasts is not for you you can always get a breast enhancement ;-) . Embrace the changes, you will find good in them. Try buying some sexy bras, that always helped me. :-
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I'm "gifted" that way too, but I'm old, and will spare you the sordid tale of what gravity and time do to large tracts of land. My weight has yo-yo'ed over the years without ever vastly affecting that particular stretch of real estate.
Saying that, you know what people who love you are going to care about? Your outlook. When you lose the weight, you're going to feel accomplished (because you've succeeded at something you set out to do), you're going to be healthier, and all of that is going to radiate from you in an air of confidence. That sort of stuff is the stuff that matters, hun. Embrace it and look forward to it.
Boobs deflate and sag with age. It's good to shrink them now while they're young and perky. Trust me.0 -
I'm hoping to lose some off my boobs! They keep me from buttoning that size 12 jacket that used to fit so well! Don't worry. A healthy weight is much more impressive than big boobs. You can always buy some if you need to!:)0
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SergeantSausage wrote: »I lost a nut... and I didn't even get the benefit of getting "happy and healthy" while it happened.
It's gone. Completely.
So what?
So.
What.
So your knockers get smaller.
So.
What.
Nobody cares like you think they do.
Nobody who matters, anyway.
I have not forced anyone to read or reply to this. I'm sorry that you feel the need to project your loss on others... Clearly you care enough to troll these posts and minimize people you don't even know. You realize you're posting in a diet and weight loss help forum right? Thanks for the support pal. Best of luck.
Wow, he was being supportive!0 -
There's a chance your "knockers" won't get much smaller. I've significantly decreased in band size (38-32) but instead of being a 38D (starting out), I'm now a 32FF or G (depending on bra). So, in 45lbs mine didn't really "go away". Of course, at 36, the gravity fairy has came and they aren't perky as they use to be.0
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Since puberty I have always had a large chest. I knew that this would change significantly with weight loss, and it would be something I had to accept to become happy and healthy. This will not prevent me from pursuing a healthy body weight, but I find it difficult that something so tied with my identity is changing...
This seems a little silly even as I'm typing it. At the weight and shape I'm at I definitely have insecurities. This was the one asset/feature I could feel confident about. As much as I am seeing significant changes for the better with my body, I think the reason I am struggling is because I cannot imagine what the end result will look and feel like.
I guess what I am wondering is if I am alone on this one... and if not, how have you gotten past those negative feelings?
It is hard to imagine the end result when your appearance is changing. I take measurements every month and I have projected where I think I'll measure at my goal and it is hard to wrap my mind around my waist being 10" smaller someday. Fortunately, I am doing slow weight loss so have time to get used to the changes.
In terms of breast changes, I was freaked out that one breast seemed to be getting smaller noticeably faster than the other side. They seem to be evening out again but definitely had some moments of feeling anxious about ending up lopsided. I think that with my belly getting smaller my breasts look bigger even though they are not.
Your breasts will still be breasts no matter the size. Someone out there will find them attractive because they are breasts. They will still function the same. You don't know exactly what they will look like but they will probably be in proportion to the rest of you. If your breasts stayed exactly the same while the rest of your body got smaller you might not like that much because they would still look different in relationship to your body.
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Focus on the positives. Everything in life has good and bad. It's what we choose to see that determines our happiness. Instead of focusing on my smaller bust (which also seems to sag a bit now) - I try to celebrate running up the stairs without getting out of breath, buttoning on those size 12 jeans (used to be 18!), and the beautiful hour glass shape that is emerging from all my hard work.
I'm also 24....and I feel like this weight loss journey (along with some other things in my life) are helping me mature and realize a lot about life. First, people's opinions of you do not matter. Only your own opinion matters. Second, what's on the inside matters way more than what the outside looks like. Third, when you work hard at something it gives you something to be proud of, something to live for. Fourth, you have one body and only one body - be healthy and take care of it, whatever that healthy body looks like.
I could go on but I feel rambly-ish. Point is OP, yes most of us go through issues with accepting our new bodies (and really it could just be our old body-bashing habits looking for something to tell us we aren't good enough). Chin up, push forward, and learn to love yourself no matter what you look like.0 -
SergeantSausage wrote: »I lost a nut... and I didn't even get the benefit of getting "happy and healthy" while it happened.
It's gone. Completely.
So what?
So.
What.
So your knockers get smaller.
So.
What.
Nobody cares like you think they do.
Nobody who matters, anyway.
I have not forced anyone to read or reply to this. I'm sorry that you feel the need to project your loss on others... Clearly you care enough to troll these posts and minimize people you don't even know. You realize you're posting in a diet and weight loss help forum right? Thanks for the support pal. Best of luck.
D.G. I.
That "woosh" you just heard was my point sailing far over your head.
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callsitlikeiseeit wrote: »he was being supportive.
really, no one cares but you. just like no one cares about his missing ball. LOLOL
My point, exactly.
(Someone gets it)
A bit over twice the average ... the extra ... uhhh ... necessitated its removal.
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