Frustrated

100 lbs in a year would be a pretty aggressive goal. That would be 2 lbs per week, every week, sick or not, holidays or not, etc. And the lower your weight, the more that actually becomes physically impossible without basically eating a diet that amounts to starvation (as you need a daily deficit of about 1000 calories).

What you do to lose weight is create a calorie deficit. Tell MFP your goals and eat what it says to. That's the technical side. It involves accurate logging (highly recommend a digital kitchen scale if you don't have one). There are some great stickies on the forums here for more info!

The other half is you, of course. Dealing with your feelings and expectations. Not having an all or nothing mentality. Taking care of yourself instead of running yourself into the ground. Persisting in your actions even when your feelings are not ideal. Giving yourself a break now and then (rather than throwing your hands up and quitting because you were imperfect). Managing your hunger and how you feel through your food choices.

But there's no magical, mysterious key to weight loss that you just can't find. It's more about getting yourself set up with a correct target, getting yourself into accurate logging, meeting your targets consistently. Taking care of yourself, managing your feelings so you follow through on what you need to do. Tolerating imperfection, because it's a given. And it's hard! It's a process and you'll be learning the whole way. Troubleshoot your problems, don't try to white knuckle them. Success is just sticking with it, always moving forward.

If you want some really specific help, open your food diary, let people know your stats and goals, and what the obstacles are for you that get in your way.

I started seriously in December 2013 with a goal to lose 132 pounds. Currently, I have lost 56 pounds of that. I used to get frustrated and disappointed in this lack of progress, but then I think of what I have accomplished. I have dropped 3 pants sizes, I can now fit in my kayak to go kayaking this summer, I have lost over 20-some inches over my body, clothes fit way better, my fitness is improving, and I can complete exercise routines now that I couldn't get half-way through before. I use these type of victories to help keep me motivated towards my ultimate goal. I have decided that I am the tortoise and that I will eventually win this "race."

The best pieces of advice that I could give you is to set a reasonable calorie goal for a couple of months while you work on weighing and logging all of your food. Do not cut out any foods unless it is medically necessary for you to do so. Eat foods that you enjoy and love on occasion and in moderation. Try to start adding more veggies, fruits, and whole grains to your food list. They can help you feel full without adding a ton of calories to your intake. Try to determine your emotional relationship to food and why you eat. For me, I eat more to be social when out with friends and eat when I am bored or stressed. I have had to develop ways to combat this "need" to eat when I am really not hungry. Slowly start to add exercise to improve your health and fitness level.

Take before and after pictures, record your measurements once a month, maybe weigh-in once a week, focus on small attainable goals like losing ten pounds at a time. Reward yourself when you reach those goals with something non-food related. Those things have helped me to become more focused on my goals and not becoming frustrated by a lack of progress. I feel more comfortable towards food and do not make myself miserable about not meeting a super low calorie goal each day.

I hope this helps. Feel free to friend me if you would like.