why do people sabotage

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  • razisready
    razisready Posts: 41 Member
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    Hi thanks for your constructive criticism. I was borderline diabetic and that was the reason l changed my lifestyle. I have put the weight back on due to a gym injury and began to believe that l wasnt eating enoughand felt that no one was happy with my weight loss. I am back in the gym and back on mfp and losing weight slowly. Just focused on that l will not allow anyones opinions to affect my weight loss journey and l am only accountable to myself thanks
  • razisready
    razisready Posts: 41 Member
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    jennifershoo wrote: »
    I'm sorry your family forced fed you until you gained back all the weight. They are not very nice.

  • razisready
    razisready Posts: 41 Member
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    I am back on it and focused and now know not to let anyone's judgements affect my weight loss journey. I just wondered if anyone else had any experiences thanks appreciate all comments
  • razisready
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    PeachyPlum wrote: »
    There are a couple of things that could be happening here:

    1. They felt jealous/insecure because of your weight loss, so they wanted you to regain the weight.
    2. You really didn't have 16 lbs to lose and became underweight.
    3. You were at a healthy weight but arrived there through unhealthy means (extremely low calories with improper nutrition) and so you were, in fact, ill.

    Can you provide more information about how you lost the 16 lbs, and what your starting and goal weight are?

  • razisready
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    Hi family and friends said they liked the older larger version of me. I lost weight through exercise and calorie controlled diet of 1200cals l was 12stone and went to 13stone 3lbs
  • TavistockToad
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    razisready wrote: »
    Hi family and friends said they liked the older larger version of me. I lost weight through exercise and calorie controlled diet of 1200cals l was 12stone and went to 13stone 3lbs

    When you use the quote button, you can just write under the text you quote.
  • techgal128
    techgal128 Posts: 719 Member
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    razisready wrote: »
    Hi family and friends said they liked the older larger version of me.

    That's... kind of an odd thing to say. Did you ask why?
  • ana3067
    ana3067 Posts: 5,623 Member
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    techgal128 wrote: »
    razisready wrote: »
    Hi family and friends said they liked the older larger version of me.

    That's... kind of an odd thing to say. Did you ask why?

    Could just be cultural. Some cultures prefer larger bodies re: female standard of beauty.
  • techgal128
    techgal128 Posts: 719 Member
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    ana3067 wrote: »
    techgal128 wrote: »
    razisready wrote: »
    Hi family and friends said they liked the older larger version of me.

    That's... kind of an odd thing to say. Did you ask why?

    Could just be cultural. Some cultures prefer larger bodies re: female standard of beauty.

    Very true. I didn't even think of that.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,618 Member
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    Sabotage would be say feeding you something that is nutritionally healthy when intern it is. So it doesn't sound like sabotage. What is does sound like is that you were coerced to their points of view and gave in.
    Now realize that it's a point of view and not always something you need to agree on.

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  • razisready
    razisready Posts: 41 Member
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    ninerbuff wrote: »
    Sabotage would be say feeding you something that is nutritionally healthy when intern it is. So it doesn't sound like sabotage. What is does sound like is that you were coerced to their points of view and gave in.
    Now realize that it's a point of view and not always something you need to agree on.

    A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
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    I do realise that now thanks
  • razisready
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    techgal128 wrote: »
    razisready wrote: »
    Hi family and friends said they liked the older larger version of me.

    That's... kind of an odd thing to say. Did you ask why?

    Yea they said that they werent used to the slimmer me and thought l looked unhealthy.
  • razisready
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    TavistockToad wrote: »
    razisready wrote: »
    Hi family and friends said they liked the older larger version of me. I lost weight through exercise and calorie controlled diet of 1200cals l was 12stone and went to 13stone 3lbs

    When you use the quote button, you can just write under the text you quote.

    Thank you for that advice
  • techgal128
    techgal128 Posts: 719 Member
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    razisready wrote: »
    techgal128 wrote: »
    razisready wrote: »
    Hi family and friends said they liked the older larger version of me.

    That's... kind of an odd thing to say. Did you ask why?

    Yea they said that they werent used to the slimmer me and thought l looked unhealthy.

    You could always say something like, "I feel so much better than I did before!" or something like that. Basically just reassure them that this is an improvement for you.
  • Christine_72
    Christine_72 Posts: 16,049 Member
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    I haven't read all the other replies. But my husband tells me at least once a day to STOP losing weight. I only had 20ish lbs to lose, so was never huge in the first place. But I have yet to figure out what his motive is...
    He does a lot of the cooking, a couple of things I've caught him doing is adding extra oil/sauces to my food, adding sugar on my fruit and who knows what the hell else!
    so yeah, I live with a big ol saboteur
  • razisready
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    christinev297 wrote: »
    I haven't read all the other replies. But my husband tells me at least once a day to STOP losing weight. I only had 20ish lbs to lose, so was never huge in the first place. But I have yet to figure out what his motive is...
    He does a lot of the cooking, a couple of things I've caught him doing is adding extra oil/sauces to my food, adding sugar on my fruit and who knows what the hell else!
    so yeah, I live with a big ol saboteur

    Lol thats funny
  • razisready
    razisready Posts: 41 Member
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    techgal128 wrote: »
    razisready wrote: »
    techgal128 wrote: »
    razisready wrote: »
    Hi family and friends said they liked the older larger version of me.

    That's... kind of an odd thing to say. Did you ask why?

    Yea they said that they werent used to the slimmer me and thought l looked unhealthy.

    You could always say something like, "I feel so much better than I did before!" or something like that. Basically just reassure them that this is an improvement for you.
    I have told them all to respect my weightloss journey and its my health that matters to me now
  • LAWoman72
    LAWoman72 Posts: 2,846 Member
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    christinev297 wrote: »
    I haven't read all the other replies. But my husband tells me at least once a day to STOP losing weight. I only had 20ish lbs to lose, so was never huge in the first place. But I have yet to figure out what his motive is...
    He does a lot of the cooking, a couple of things I've caught him doing is adding extra oil/sauces to my food, adding sugar on my fruit and who knows what the hell else!
    so yeah, I live with a big ol saboteur

    He adds sugar to your fruit??

  • Christine_72
    Christine_72 Posts: 16,049 Member
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    LAWoman72 wrote: »
    christinev297 wrote: »
    I haven't read all the other replies. But my husband tells me at least once a day to STOP losing weight. I only had 20ish lbs to lose, so was never huge in the first place. But I have yet to figure out what his motive is...
    He does a lot of the cooking, a couple of things I've caught him doing is adding extra oil/sauces to my food, adding sugar on my fruit and who knows what the hell else!
    so yeah, I live with a big ol saboteur

    He adds sugar to your fruit??

    yep! He thinks sugar is loaded with calories ;)
    I sometimes chop a whole heap of fruit up and leave it In the fridge or he does fruit salads and my bowl will have sugar added, and his won't

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