Feeling like nobody supports me

Though family and friends support is HELPFUL, don't rely on it for everyday motivation. Take progress pics and measurements and use that as motivation.
If their cooking isn't healthy than make your own food. You can't expect them to change their eating habits for YOU. I have to cook two completely diff breakfast and dinner for my bf and myself EVERYDAY! He cannot eat what i eat bc he's not into healthy eating, he's one of those ppl than can eat what ever he wants and not gain a LB!.

Goodluck!

I don't know how old your parents are, but they sound like they come from the "old school", "you either eat what I cook or don't eat at all." My parents were the same way. In order for you to succeed, you need to take responsibility for you. It may not be a bad idea for you to purchase your own meals. Maybe have your own cabinet in the kitchen for your low-cal foods and a place in the fridge to house other items. You may even start to "rub" off on them.

Be Positive and Don't let anyone discourage you!

Ooooh... yeah. Will your parents be offended if you eat, maybe, their salad/veggies, and prepare your own meat/pasta/entree?? If they are, I would feel they ARE trying to derail your success and you may have to look elsewhere (HERE) for support. Sorry to say, and it may be totally unintentional, but this happens more that you would probably realize!!

When I had to go to NJ (from NC) this past March for my Grandmother's funeral, I stayed with my parents for 5 days. I know my parents love me, but they don't eat healthy at all. They are both terribly overweight and my father has already had 2 heart surgeries to remove blockages, there is diabetes in our family and my mother has Chrones disease. I think alot of their probelms could be solved if they would just go back to eating consciously again. My mother has struggled with her weight all my life (and probably long before) but seems to have given up in the last 20 years and it's only getting worse. Knowing that I was committed to myself and my goals, and that I would log everything I ate, I chose to cook my own meals and even buy my own foods so that I could maintain control over what I was doing. If I did eat what she cooked, I made sure to have a reasonable portion, even if that meant having say a cup of broccoli, no rice and 4oz of meat when they were all eating mashed potatoes, untold amounts of meat plus gravy etc. butter, salt... the works. I know what works for me and I know they love me and I love them, but sometimes we need to cut those apron strings to save ourselves.

I think you are old enough now to make your own decisions on what you eat and when. It's different when we're younger and under their control, but just because you still live there and share meals as an adult, doesn't mean that they can tell you what and how much to eat. Tell them that you love them and appreciate their support in your efforts but that you can't simply cut portions of what their cooking and still reach your goals. As I read earlier today, someone thought she was making a good choice in ordering salads all the time but once she realized how many calories were actually in that salad (8-900!!) she realized she could be eating full meals for less. When you cook, you are in control and you are trying to show them what a healthy meal looks like. Even if they want to eat 2 or 3 portions, at least the choice of ingredients is better. Maybe you could try offering alternatives for somethings in her standard recipe - say making cauliflower mashed potatoes (no actual potatoes involved) instead of using potatoes or even something as simple as using a nice tart greek yogurt as a substitute for sour cream! IF that's not an option then you will simply have to tell them, thanks but no thanks and that you will have to cook separately from now on. You need to be strong for yourself and don't let them get in your way. It sounds like you have a very co-dependent family but that doesn't have to stop you. They want to support your changes but you have to realize that in doing so it points out what their doing wrong for themselves so they have mixed feelings about it. Following their lifestyle has probably gotten you to where you are.

You can do this. There are many many people on here who have had to cut those strings from unsupportive family members simply to move forward and improve themselves. You will find enough support here to more than make up for it. We're all in this together and we can't let those who still wish to deny their lifestyle get in our way or stop us from becoming the best US we can be.

Consider this: if your parents told you to jump off a bridge, would you think twice about telling them "NO!" - how is taking your life slowly by abusing food any different (other than the amount of time it would take to actually die)?

I have pretty much the exact same problem as you. Now I generally cook my own food, eat only portions of what they cooked or make it healthier. Sometimes they get offended or make snide comments, but at this point it doesn't bother me anymore. I care more about eating right. I try to avoid the heavy sauces, sandwiches and pastas they enjoy and replace with vegetables or healthier grains like quinoa, millet, buckwheat, etc. A lot of times I'll roast vegetables and have those instead or prepare something else in the morning when I have time and heat it up with dinner. As time goes by it becomes less and less of a problem and more normal. I know I can't change my parent's eating habits, they are way too set in their ways, but I can change what I eat. I've also taken to exercising late at night and early in the morning. Maybe that might work for you if you have too many calories.

Feel free to add me if you want extra support with this. I know exactly where you're coming from.

Dont give up, I'm also alone in my journey I trident to have some family support but each time I wanted to keep a healthy food meals they invited me to eat burgers or a lot of chicken, some time they do that because is a way of showing their love, but it's important to be strong and keep your goal, as the week passes and they see your progress they will be more helpful.

Good luck!