Lost and Forgotten or Dazed and Confused...

Mitch18ce
Mitch18ce Posts: 1 Member
edited November 2024 in Introduce Yourself
My name is Lynsie.
I sometimes wonder how I get through the day. Awake, kids to school, work, meals, house work...It seems like automatic pilot works well for me. Things get done and everyone gets what they need, except me. I am beginning to resent this. Not because others ignore my needs, but because I do. I am last on my to do list and often leave myself out. Sometimes I think this is not just an oversight but intentional.
My Fitness Pal is my last resort before giving up on myself all together. Why is it I can't find a few minutes on my own to exercise, but I can find hours on end to sit in front of the computer, and go on about having no time???
I need some help. I need some support and motivation in my life. I need to find some balance and peace within myself or there will be nothing left to give.

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  • jenncornelsen
    jenncornelsen Posts: 969 Member
    ah the life of a mom. when is your free time? as in is there a certain hour or two in the evening? is there maybe a window on the weekends?
  • jenncornelsen
    jenncornelsen Posts: 969 Member
    i have 0 support at home. and motivation must come from within. but people on here can inspire u as they go through many of the same things
  • dfranch
    dfranch Posts: 207 Member
    And here I thought this was a post about the best stoner movie. I thought Lost and Forgotten was one I had never seen.
  • freefallebby
    freefallebby Posts: 26 Member
    edited April 2015
    Been there as a fellow momma with little to no support most of the year (in terms of child care relief and daily chores). Working out consistently to vent my frustrations (as exhausting as it was at times due to lack of sleep or stress) really gave me something to look forward to each day, it's my therapy!

    It wasn't always easy to make the time for it, but it kept me sane and growing as a person. It's worth it. It gave me a sense of identity and strength I needed to get through some tough times emotionally.

    There are lots of great free resources online to help you get into the routine, BeFit chan on youtube (an many others like fitnessblender etc), www.doyogawithme.com or scoring some workout DVD's on sale at the mall is always a good option. You can preview videos of DVD's to see if workout DVD's suit your style/goals on www.totalfitnessdvds.com so you don't waste any money (plus they allow you to return). :) Feel free to add me.

    My best tip for moms of young children is to buy/store special really interesting toys out of sight/reach that your kids do not get to play with on a daily basis, only during your workouts! It's their special treat while you get YOU TIME and it tends to keep them preoccupied so they don't turn into tiny tornadoes while you're busy... LOL. *Edited to add, if they are older kids, you best start putting your foot down and making them help out more me thinks so you get that time to yourself, you are a mother not a slave for life*
  • CarlaSEvans
    CarlaSEvans Posts: 66 Member
    as jenn said...welcome to motherhood...it's a *kitten*! work hard, day in and day out for very little return appreciation. BUT, the one thing I have learned is that unless you be there for you...you can't effectively be there for them. SO, MAKE TIME...if it's only 30 mins here or there..once you start, you will be amazed at how quickly you can find time. We Moms need to stick together! :) Feel free to add me
  • farfromthetree
    farfromthetree Posts: 982 Member
    Mitch18ce wrote: »
    My name is Lynsie.
    I sometimes wonder how I get through the day. Awake, kids to school, work, meals, house work...It seems like automatic pilot works well for me. Things get done and everyone gets what they need, except me. I am beginning to resent this. Not because others ignore my needs, but because I do. I am last on my to do list and often leave myself out. Sometimes I think this is not just an oversight but intentional.
    My Fitness Pal is my last resort before giving up on myself all together. Why is it I can't find a few minutes on my own to exercise, but I can find hours on end to sit in front of the computer, and go on about having no time???
    I need some help. I need some support and motivation in my life. I need to find some balance and peace within myself or there will be nothing left to give.

    You don't sound as if you think you are worthy. I am your age (49). My kids are grown, but still have needs. I work full time, get home and change for the gym immediately. I am not home for good until 6:45. The key to me actually taking time for myself was to find something I enjoy doing. Find a class where you can see the same people over and over and make friends. Spinning, yoga, pilates, CrossFit (yes, even that) zumba, are all out there waiting for you to sign up! If you have time to sit in front of the computer, you certainly can find the time to exercise. Do it for your kids, they want to see you happy, healthy mentally and physically. But most of all, do it for yourself.
  • urloved33
    urloved33 Posts: 3,323 Member
    edited April 2015
    Well the first thing that efficiency experts says is...don't get on the computer - time just disappears. so stay off the sites and go exercise then at the very end of the day go on the computer but set a timer and respond to it when it goes off by getting off the computer! The time with your family goes by so fast you are going to be shocked in twenty years...it goes by like a blink of an eye but if you neglect yourself man are you ever going to regret it...in twenty years.
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