Dealing with "food pushers"

This is part of the reason I've become a recluse since starting my journey back in January. I feel like people are either making disapproving comments towards my food choices and gym time or they are trying to sabotage my success by attempting to feed me. It's led to a lot of loneliness because now I'm avoiding friends and relationships... even my own mom. I need to find a better way to cope with this but I'm not sure how. At least my husband is supportive, for the most part. He does make joking comments sometimes but he NEVER tries to sabotage my diet and I'm grateful for that!

I wont even go in that room when i know there's sugary sweets in there. I sit outside or in another room. It does take will power! good luck!

My mom is , I live at home..and even though she constantly states she's on a diet--she has some of the worst food in the fridge. I just windex whatever she usually leaves me for dinner down--and throw it in the trash-so I'm not tempted.

I have noticed how many sweets are at work in general, and decided just to ignore all of them completely. Sometimes I do get "guilted" if it's someone's birthday and I don't want to have a piece of the birthday cake, but whatev. I will admit, when family, friends, or neighbors give us sweets (especially around Christmas), I am that person that takes it in to work so OTHER people will eat it. I have to get it out of the house, but I don't guilt people into it!

I used to feel like this, ALOT. I had a best friend who did not understand or quite get why it was so important to me to eat healthy. It was especially disheartening because she could eat whatever she wanted and still look great.

I feel like the best way to deal with that is first, realizing that in all of these situations, you have a CHOICE. You can choose to either to eat what your offered, or decline it. We have to realize that none of these people are going to force it down our throats.

Another way to minimize this problem is to explain and convey to all of your friends and coworkers about how important eating healthy or losing weight is to you. Most of our friends would support us if we said we wanted start a family or aim to get a higher promotion at our job. Supporting and respecting our wishes to eat healthy is part of this as well, but for some reason many people don't view it that way. So, by really conveying how important this is to you can help as well. If someone can't respect that, then I would say to have one more conversation about it and if they still don't get it, its just better to avoid having meals with them.

Also, if you are eating with people who keep offering you food and they just won't leave you alone until you do. Take a small bite. Don't make it a big deal, take a small bite. It's better then you eating the entire thing, and shift the conversation to something else rather then letting people focus on you not eating everything that they are. Also, drink a lot of water, and have your own meals ready. Sometimes, it helps to insist that you've already eaten and can't take in more. In addition to that, if you have already eating, you may put more effort in to decline what you are being offered.

FUNNY :noway: thing just happened to me while here reading this topic...a MC DONALD's ad was floating around in the side bar for 2 filet of fish sandwiches for maybe $2..talk about temptation...I don't even like filet of fish but started thinking about those fries and some burgers....BAAAAD...:ohwell:

I hate when my friends do the "try it! c'mon it's the weekend" type of thing.
One successful tactic for me has been to give in and "try it" but one bite, not the whole croissant, or whatever it is. I don't need to eat the whole thing to "try" it.

Another good tactic sound like this:
"here's some ooie-gooie-chocolate-grease thing, you should have some!"
"you know what, YOU should try some of MY nuts/fruit/berries"
Counter them with something delicious/refreshing and always keep your stash of alternatives handy (at the office, etc.)

I still can't go without candy/chocolate, but the trick again is quantity. I'm down to one piece, once a day, look forward to it all day, and still don't feel like I'm lonely for my chocolate.

I come from an area that when you want to "hang out" you go get food. Whether its chinese buffet, mcdonalds, applebees, that's what you do when someone asks you to hang out. I've tried suggesting new ideas, like, hey lets go for a walk in the nature preserve! But I've ended up either giving in or turning down the "hanging out" all together =\

I come from an area that when you want to "hang out" you go get food. Whether its chinese buffet, mcdonalds, applebees, that's what you do when someone asks you to hang out. I've tried suggesting new ideas, like, hey lets go for a walk in the nature preserve! But I've ended up either giving in or turning down the "hanging out" all together =\

i know what you mean. hangouts are generally centered around food. the best thing to do then is watch what you order so that you can eat with them but focus mainly on the good conversation and in general being with ur friends. its all about perspective sometimes. you can always ask certain foods to be unsalted or steamed or baked. some healthier alternative. small changes always help even if the overall meal isn't all that healthy.