Need tough love! It seems impossible

hi everyone , i am not so new here. I started on this app over a year ago and never stuck to it. i too am 5'3' and around 170 lbs . I am older than you guys i think. I am 48 now and i gained 30lbs about two 1/2 years ago and have stayed pretty much the same for the last year. I was always the same size until my 45th birthday and then, who knows what happened. i have said i was going to lose before....But this time i am determined for things to be different. I started b12 injections, bought a total gym, and i plan to run/walk at least once a day with my dog and began tracking my calories today. Fresh start!!!!
so you are not alone !!!!!!!!!

Hello
I too am in need of some motivation I have an almost two year old daughter after having her I weighed 168lb I now weigh 148 I was so pleased to have lost that much but now my weight has stopped and I know it is slowly creeping up. I just can't seem to loose anymore that's when I started to care less I now have the mindset of why should I try if I don't loose weight and I need to get back on track! Perhaps we can support each other in our journeys ?? Kay

its difficult, but worth it. and you're right. it takes long. but dont give up. need some tough love? not only (primarily) do it for yourself, but also do it for your husband. just as you'd want to see him nice and fit, imagine whats going through his head if his wife gained 50 lbs in 2 years. he'll never tell you that though.
and even if he genuinely doesnt think of it that way, imagine he does anyway and use it as motivation =]
i may get criticized for that approach, but it would work for me, if someone told me 'dude your SO probably isnt all too excited about your fatness'. maybe it'll work for you too, just a suggestion lol

I could have written this post word for word. For real. I started where you are in 2012, 210 lbs. I yo yo'd my way up and down, and in 2013 I got down to 180. August of 2013 I fell off the wagon. Saw 189 on the scale the day before Christmas 2013 and said "Oh Hell NO"! Back on the wagon. I got down to 161 this past summer, and fell off the wagon again Sept -Dec, back up 169. I am now 165, I was 135 in high school like you and never felt skinny either, gotta love those curves. I used to say I'm built like a mac truck lol. It's really not funny, though. So for motivation/inspiration, here goes.

• /take it one day at a time. Start over EVERY day. Yesterday doesn't matter, it's right here and now that the choices you make are going to make a difference in the future.
• I still drink alcohol and eat whatever I want. I eat fast food almost daily. I am not good at depriving myself of anything, moderation is the key. I found IIFYM and that's what saved me.
• You really have to do what works FOR YOU. I am not and will NEVER be a clean eater. There's just too much good junk food out there.

You won't be an expert on losing weight right away, and you don't have to be, but keep learning.

• Find some friends here that you can relate to, people who log in every day and can share in your successes and pick you up when you're down. It made ALL the difference for me.

I started at Planet Fitness too. It doesn't matter if people on here don't like PF (trust me, many don't) What matters is that you've started! Keep challenging yourself and trying new things. If you're like me, your body adapts to the exercise you're doing, so shake it up once in a while. ( I started running last summer and love it, but 8 months of running I didn't lose a single inch, so if it's not working, shake it up!)

Please friend me if you want. You will see my diary filled with Merlot and vodka, pizza and cheeseburgers, and NSV's and struggles.

Since starting and feeling so overwhelmed so long ago, at a size 14-16, in the last 2 years I've started lifting heavy (just in the last 2 weeks so I don't know if what I lift you could call "heavy" yet, but I'm trying), I've run (5) 5k's, and tried so many things I never would have done in the beginning because I was felt too fat and unhealthy.

I now weigh 165, but I weighed 165 when I got married and I was a size 12, now I'm in size 8, and those are getting big. The moral of that story is that the stupid scale is evil. Don't use that as your only gauge of your progress. Take pictures, measurements, and celebrate every success, no matter how little.

Sorry so long, I wish you success!

No one can do this for you.

If you really wanted it, you would get on with it and not write posts expecting some incredible (magical) reply that will do it for you.

tryingtogetbigger2015 wrote: »

Bugdude54 wrote: »

You don't need tough love or advise. You know what you need to do. Stop making excuses for yourself and go out there and do it.

Some smart probably Chinese guy once said. Those who want it find a way to get it. Those who do not, find excuses.

It was something like that

Haha. Love it

You asked for tough love, right?

ICor1510 pointed out that (a) many people here don't like Planet Fitness, and (b) what really matters is that you've started. Both statements are 100% correct. Planet Fitness is good for beginners in the sense that it's a dirt cheap and commonly available starting point. It is not good, however, insofar as they provide meager tools and a lot of misinformation-- not to mention that they prohibit many of the most useful exercises for weight loss and overall fitness.

Having said that, her other point is totally valid. You've gotten started, and if you sustain this effort, then that's more than what most people do.

The most important things to aim for are (a) educating yourself on fitness and nutrition, and (b) pushing yourself harder and harder. This is where -- at the risk of offending some people here -- I'd urge you to eventually move past the Planet Fitness phase. The harsh reality is that they do limit what people can do, and for reasons that are poorly justified. They also tend to promote a lot of foolish misinformation, such as the notion that bench pressing is only for bodybuilders or that deadlifting, jumping rope, etc constitute "lunkish" behavior. Not to mention that they don't set a very good example as far as dietary habits go.

I'd normally be more reluctant to say these things, simply because some people do get angry at any criticism of PF's methods. You did ask for tough love though, and based on that request, I suspect that you can handle the truth better than most.