"Oh no! Carbs! You'll DIE!!!!"

Leana088
Leana088 Posts: 581 Member
I stopped eating carby things and starchy foods like pasta, rice, bread, potatoes, pastry ect. Because I feel like they take up too much of my calories which I need for protein. So now most of my meals are based on non-starchy veggies and protein.

Now, my friends have noticed this. And now everytime I eat a sweet, or something carby on occasion, they freak out and tell me I'll get fat, and that I'll make myself addicted all over again. :/

Sigh. I'm running out of ideas on what to answer them. Because they JUST DON'T WANT to listen to me. Sometimes I feel like just shaking them so they can wake up. :neutral:

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  • Leana088
    Leana088 Posts: 581 Member
    herrspoons wrote: »
    Skyler, I will always love you, but could you please climb out of my *kitten* on this one? Can you do that for me?

    Or something like that.

    Tell her that.

    I tried being rude. They're just too thick skinned apparently. :/
  • secretsquiral
    secretsquiral Posts: 329 Member
    Ide just humor them, an say yup!
    They will soon get bored with saying it! : )
  • Nony_Mouse
    Nony_Mouse Posts: 5,646 Member
    Leana088 wrote: »
    herrspoons wrote: »
    Skyler, I will always love you, but could you please climb out of my *kitten* on this one? Can you do that for me?

    Or something like that.

    Tell her that.

    I tried being rude. They're just too thick skinned apparently. :/

    Stab them with pointy objects? Not, like, knives or anything. A pencil will do.

    Friends can be such jerks :\
  • gothomson
    gothomson Posts: 215 Member
    Yeah just say "whatever" and move on. Eventually they will give up, if not well thats their problem so they can deal with it while you prove them wrong by example. One question: are any of your friends that say this on a diet, or know anything, even a little, about nutrition?
  • lilbea89
    lilbea89 Posts: 62 Member
    "I'm sorry, I didn't realize you went to school to be my personal nutritionist. I hope you aren't charging me by the remark cause I must owe you a ton by now! Now please remind me just how perfect YOU are :-)"
    But I don't have any patience for that sort of remark in the first place. I can totally appreciate someone wanting to give you support and advice, but not if its a constant nag like you are describing. Sometimes that does more harm than good anyway.
  • prasadsurve
    prasadsurve Posts: 21 Member
    A lot of people have opposite problem; they don't get support from their friends and family to stick to diet and eventually fall of the diet. I think you should 1. Be happy that your friends are supporting you. 2. Develop a thick skin and tell them that you know what you are doing. 3. Make sure you know what you are doing (it is very easy to go back to old habits and not notice it. Speaking from experience here) :blush:
  • prasadsurve
    prasadsurve Posts: 21 Member
    herrspoons wrote: »
    If you're not doing this for yourself then you will fail. Support is nice but hardly necessary, and can very quickly turn into enablement of bad behaviours.

    I would say support is very important. Of course you can do it on your own, but it is a lot easier if you have good support. That's why we have things like AA groups, weight watchers groups, etc.
  • RoxieDawn
    RoxieDawn Posts: 15,488 Member
    You wrote a thread called "Am I scarred for life??? At age 22???? " last week about men and now this thread..

    I do not mean to rude or anything, but conversations with both men and "your so called friends" is not going over very well.
  • RedRockChic
    RedRockChic Posts: 69 Member
    gia07: Post Police Much?
  • Leana088
    Leana088 Posts: 581 Member
    gia07 wrote: »
    You wrote a thread called "Am I scarred for life??? At age 22???? " last week about men and now this thread..

    I do not mean to rude or anything, but conversations with both men and "your so called friends" is not going over very well.

    Yeah, that guy was a jerk...

    Like I predicted...
  • rjmudlax13
    rjmudlax13 Posts: 900 Member
    How about saying that it's nunya dam bidness what I eat!
  • amusedmonkey
    amusedmonkey Posts: 10,330 Member
    People have this handy little trait called "interest". If you don't feed it, it won't grow and will eventually die off. Just say "yeah, I'm not dieting anymore" and then use very short responses to any questions about the subject. After a few days they will just lose interest because answers like "okay", "yeah", "I like it that way"...etc are not satisfying enough to keep interest going.
  • paperpudding
    paperpudding Posts: 9,257 Member
    gothomson wrote: »
    Yeah just say "whatever" and move on. Eventually they will give up

    This is the winner for me.
    Sure, you could get cross. And tell them it's none of their damn business and you could answer with a long sarcastic answer about them not being your personal trainer - but IMO this sort of response just eggs them on.
    Not rising to the bait and just shrugging/ smiling and saying ' whatever' or 'ok then' or some other dead end answer means they move on quicker.
  • shamcd
    shamcd Posts: 178 Member
    Just tell them point blank that it's none of their *kitten* business what you put into your mouth, so they can keep theirs shut. Since they have suck thick skins, this should go over well enough. Then refuse to address it ever again.
  • paperpudding
    paperpudding Posts: 9,257 Member
    Although I just re read OP and I see you say your friends have notice this and they just don't want to listen to you

    Are you sure you are not bringing it to their attention and trying to convince them ?

    You shouldn't be saying anything about your food intake that others 'just don't want to listen to' and I find other people don't really take that much notice of what I eat anyway.
    Of course, I could just have different friends to you - but it could also be something you are doing that contributes to this.
  • Lounmoun
    Lounmoun Posts: 8,423 Member
    For people who don't listen don't waste your energy explaining. Tell them you won't discuss your food choices any more. Ignore their comments and change the subject every single time. If they keep bringing it up walk away, leave the building, hang up the phone, end the friendship (depends on how annoyed you are).

    If they were the listening type, then you might explain that it is eating more calories than you burn that makes you fat not what you eat and no one is addicted to carbs.
  • Sabine_Stroehm
    Sabine_Stroehm Posts: 19,263 Member
    Leana088 wrote: »
    I stopped eating carby things and starchy foods like pasta, rice, bread, potatoes, pastry ect. Because I feel like they take up too much of my calories which I need for protein. So now most of my meals are based on non-starchy veggies and protein.

    Now, my friends have noticed this. And now everytime I eat a sweet, or something carby on occasion, they freak out and tell me I'll get fat, and that I'll make myself addicted all over again. :/

    Sigh. I'm running out of ideas on what to answer them. Because they JUST DON'T WANT to listen to me. Sometimes I feel like just shaking them so they can wake up. :neutral:

    Tell them to mind their own business. And then when you've lost the weight and look fabulous, wear a great outfit, eat your yummy veg/protein lunch and say: yay foods that fuel!

  • Leana088
    Leana088 Posts: 581 Member
    Although I just re read OP and I see you say your friends have notice this and they just don't want to listen to you

    Are you sure you are not bringing it to their attention and trying to convince them ?

    You shouldn't be saying anything about your food intake that others 'just don't want to listen to' and I find other people don't really take that much notice of what I eat anyway.
    Of course, I could just have different friends to you - but it could also be something you are doing that contributes to this.

    What I meant by them not listening was, every time they bring it up I tell them that carbs are not the devil and I'm not addicted, or that they shouldn't be minding my eating habits. But every next time they see me eat it they just bring it up again. As if I never said anything.
  • Leana088
    Leana088 Posts: 581 Member
    Leana088 wrote: »
    I stopped eating carby things and starchy foods like pasta, rice, bread, potatoes, pastry ect. Because I feel like they take up too much of my calories which I need for protein. So now most of my meals are based on non-starchy veggies and protein.

    Now, my friends have noticed this. And now everytime I eat a sweet, or something carby on occasion, they freak out and tell me I'll get fat, and that I'll make myself addicted all over again. :/

    Sigh. I'm running out of ideas on what to answer them. Because they JUST DON'T WANT to listen to me. Sometimes I feel like just shaking them so they can wake up. :neutral:

    Tell them to mind their own business. And then when you've lost the weight and look fabulous, wear a great outfit, eat your yummy veg/protein lunch and say: yay foods that fuel!

    I do not have much weight to lose. :wink:
    I need a cut and bulk session, or two. A bit skinny fat here.

    They seem to think I'll gain 25 kilos back instantly if I eat a cookie.
  • mistikal13
    mistikal13 Posts: 1,457 Member
    I'm so annoyed for you! This would drive me crazy :/
  • snikkins
    snikkins Posts: 1,282 Member
    Get new friends.

    Seriously. Actual friends listen and respect each other.
  • Leana088
    Leana088 Posts: 581 Member
    snikkins wrote: »
    Get new friends.

    Seriously. Actual friends listen and respect each other.

    Small town. There ain't much to choose from. Haha :/
  • HeySwoleSister
    HeySwoleSister Posts: 1,938 Member
    edited April 2015
    Just take another bite of the food and start making uncomfortably enthusiastic sounds about how much you are enjoying it. Maintain eye contact with the offender. Don't say a word.
  • Mr_Knight
    Mr_Knight Posts: 9,532 Member
    Leana088 wrote: »
    Sigh. I'm running out of ideas on what to answer them. Because they JUST DON'T WANT to listen to me.

    Of course they don't - they're mocking you - that's what friends do, they take the **** out of each other.



  • lemurcat12
    lemurcat12 Posts: 30,886 Member
    edited April 2015
    Leana088 wrote: »
    I stopped eating carby things and starchy foods like pasta, rice, bread, potatoes, pastry ect. Because I feel like they take up too much of my calories which I need for protein. So now most of my meals are based on non-starchy veggies and protein.

    Now, my friends have noticed this. And now everytime I eat a sweet, or something carby on occasion, they freak out and tell me I'll get fat, and that I'll make myself addicted all over again. :/

    Sigh. I'm running out of ideas on what to answer them. Because they JUST DON'T WANT to listen to me. Sometimes I feel like just shaking them so they can wake up. :neutral:

    I would say "oh, well, I like to live on the edge."

    But, yeah, ignore it, they'll get bored with it soon enough.
  • lulucitron
    lulucitron Posts: 366 Member
    Just make a joke out of it and they'll get the hint.
  • JPW1990
    JPW1990 Posts: 2,424 Member
    "If you want another for yourself, just buy one instead of trying to guilt me into giving you mine"

    50/50 they'll stop talking to you altogether, but that might not be such a bad thing.
  • adriantrufo
    adriantrufo Posts: 5 Member
    My standar reply when people comment -criticise- on what I´m eating:

    *Look them from the feet up* "Yeah, I´ll take my advice from someone else"
    Or if they are friends which I can treat poorly: "This fork has more muscle mass than you" or "You are on the fast train to diabetes town, you know nothing"
  • kristydi
    kristydi Posts: 781 Member
    In situations like these, Robert Downey Jr is my spirit animal.

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