diet failing because I am not motivated

Honestly the way I did it was started off with a little juice reboot. Only for 3 days, That gave me the kick i needed because I saw progress. Maybe get someone else involved as well to help with the motivation. Hope this helps and hope you get the results you are looking for.

Do you understand the principal of CiCO ?

Perhaps you do not stick to anything because "anything " isn't what works and if something isn't working it isn't worth sticking to.

Do you log at a deficit and weigh all of your food? Do you try to make your week still balance out even when you binge? How often do you binge? Over the two years how many days have you logged everything that you have eaten? What motivates you in other areas of your life? I feel motivated when I see it working. It works when you do it. Everyone is motivated in different ways.

You have to decide that you want to do it, that it's worth the doing, and hold yourself accountable for the doing of it. Nobody can give you that answer, you have to look to yourself for that.

And, if you aren't ready, go get your head right, come back, and get after it! And log, log the good days, the bad days, the binges, all of it, to the point where it becomes such a habit, that habit will see you through the days where your motivation is flagging.

Losing weight is about eating less calories than you're burning. Switching from white to whole wheat bread and pasta won't do anything unless you're also eating less bread and pasta.

Motivation comes from within. No one can give you motivation although we can tell you what motivates us and maybe some of it will resonate enough with you to motivate you, too. You have to want the change badly enough to be motivated to do what's necessary to create that change. Right now, it doesn't sound like that's the case. And that's fine.

Seriously. I mean that. You have a goal to lose 30 pounds. That's not life threatening extra weight so it's likely that you think you want to look better and feel better by losing those pounds. If you don't want that thinner body more than you want to binge on food then accept that fact and go on with your life; no guilt. If however, you're ready to make the sacrifices and put in the work necessary to lose that 30 pounds then you know what you need to do.

Whatever you decide, I wish you the best!

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Also what does it mean when you say deficit

A deficit is why your body loses fat.

You are going to read a lot of post in here and most will have great tid bits of how this all works , and in reality it is very simple but if you want to be successful at losing the weight and achieving your goal then you should educate yourself on the process.

Please do yourself and your daughter a favor and take the time to read the link I post below. . knowing how and why you lose weight will give you the tools to Stay motivated.
http://www.acaloriecounter.com/diet/

What works for me is a healthy dose of self-loathing.

My daughter is my key motivation. I am a single parent and I do want to be healthy for her sake as I want to be able to chase after her. I think I have logged everything once or twice.

I raised my children as a single parent, so I understand the primal desire to "be there" for your daughter. My adult children to this day fuss over my health and want me to have a long, healthy, and vibrant retirement. The twin motivators for them is that they don't want to be saddled with my care, and they shudder at the thought of not having me be around for moral support. I'm a great mom. It's gratifying to know I'd be missed.

Here's the problem with "for my health" as a motivation. It's ambiguous and long-term. Our hedonistic motivation center just isn't jazzed with that sort of reward. So you need some middling rewards to work towards that make the larger goal achievable.

Commit to a two week behavioral goal, like, "log daily", then evaluate the results. What did you learn about your eating habits? What do you want to change? Then start a new goal based on what you learned, and re-evaluate. Repeat as often as you like.

I think if it is very important to be mobile to keep up with your munchkin, to have an activity goal to match. For instance, can you get down and up from a crouching position in three seconds? How far can you run without getting winded? If not, there are exercises that can get you there in an amazingly short period of time. Within weeks of me starting a yoga class, I was able to hoist myself out of a swimming pool, and swoop down to pick up a crumb in my kitchen. Huge achievements for me!

For running exercise, a healthy round of tag with the little one at a local park might do the trick. If you know "tag day" is coming, you may want to prepare with a little treadmill action to get your cardiovascular system going.

OP do you think you know what you are doing and you understand the basics of weight loss and what you should be doing? Am getting the impression you dont have a clear understanding. Try eading this
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1080242/a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants/p1

And then maybe getting some experienced friends who can assist you.

You have 2 important motivators, so far . Those are your own health and for your daughters sake. Arent they important enough to you that you are prepared to eat a little less so you will lose weight? One of the reasons I started was for my own health because id rather not have the very real extra risks that come with the weight.

Good luck anyway

Good for you for owning it and not blaming it on other things or other people. That is refreshing.

I wonder how much exercise you are able to do and if you could find a way to make exercise social. Sometimes when you can walk with a friend or go to a class where people expect you to show up, that helps with motivation. Exercise helps with stress. I think that a lot of us are less likely to put bad stuff in our bodies when we've invested a lot of effort into fitness.

The other thing that I wonder is if you could be a little bit depressed. Sometimes that can be a factor when motivation and follow-through are difficult.

I don't know about discipline. I've had to be very disciplined to keep at this, but I also know why I am doing it.

Funny story. Hubby finally decided this week to get more active and asked me how he could get motivated. I pulled out a calendar, wrote up a plan for him, and asked him to commit to going to the gym this past Tuesday. There was no navel gazing or deep-down gut-pulling, just do. He got there; he did it. He did more than he intended. I followed up by asking about all the good feelings he had post-workout. I want him to remember the rewards so it gets a little easier this coming Tuesday.

So I'd say the knowing my "why" got me moving, and plain old doing gets me out the door. I sit down at least once every couple weeks and readjust my plan as needed. If anything is getting old, I modify it or drop it.