diet failing because I am not motivated
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Honestly the way I did it was started off with a little juice reboot. Only for 3 days, That gave me the kick i needed because I saw progress. Maybe get someone else involved as well to help with the motivation. Hope this helps and hope you get the results you are looking for.
Can you share what this might actually look like? I've never done a reboot....thanks!0 -
coldspringheadmomma wrote: »Honestly the way I did it was started off with a little juice reboot. Only for 3 days, That gave me the kick i needed because I saw progress. Maybe get someone else involved as well to help with the motivation. Hope this helps and hope you get the results you are looking for.
Can you share what this might actually look like? I've never done a reboot....thanks!
Start a new thread for that, I'm sure you'll get loads of replies.
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I mean honestly, if I could look and feel the same either way, I would way rather not count and eat donuts for every meal and lay in bed all day.
So would most people.
We do it because we want to be healthy, not because it's fun. Everyone who counts would rather not count if the results were the same. But you get used to it. You just have to really want to make a change. If you're not there yet, you're not there, and no one can really talk you into it.
I started counting because I felt like my eating was getting out of hand and as I got older, my metabolism wasn't the same anymore. I didn't want to be embarrassed or feeling like I had to suck in my stomach when I wore a bikini. I didn't want anymore "squishy" looking pictures of me. So I got a trainer, learned how to work out, and started counting my calories. And now I have those squishy pictures as my motivation. I'm now 22% body fat, getting down to 18% as a goal.0 -
darkriver2012 wrote: »I have using this app for two years and I am struggling to stick to anything. I have made some minor changes switching from white bread to brown, white pasta to wholewheat
I don't drink full fat milk, coke but I just binge
How can I stay motivated.
These changes mean nothing in terms of weight loss - what's wrong with white bread?
Calorie count and commitHonestly the way I did it was started off with a little juice reboot. Only for 3 days, That gave me the kick i needed because I saw progress. Maybe get someone else involved as well to help with the motivation. Hope this helps and hope you get the results you are looking for.
What exactly are you rebooting :huh:0 -
There is some good advice here. You've got to remember that MFP isn't a magic app on your phone that makes you thin. As much as I'd love that to be the case it's more like my daily food and exercise diary.
It only works if you're honest. Log the chocolate and crisps and you'll see how much of your daily intake is coming from these rather than proper meals. I don't ban chocolate and crisps from my diet but I don't buy them so they're not in my house to gorge on. I'll eat them at parties or picnics but it helps me stop going crazy on them - same with Soreen!
Are you getting any real life support with this?0 -
darkriver2012 wrote: »I have using this app for two years and I am struggling to stick to anything. I have made some minor changes switching from white bread to brown, white pasta to wholewheat
I don't drink full fat milk, coke but I just binge
How can I stay motivated.
From my own experience-weight loss is 80% mindset, 20% calories and math. If your mind isn't in the right place you're going to fail/yo-yo diet. Something that has really stuck with me over the past few years as I've gone through this process-when my husband and I went to our pre-marital counseling our pastor asked what the most important thing for a successful marriage was. Us, being young and stupid, both said 'love'. The pastor, who had been married over 40 years, laughed at us. He said 'at some point you'll think you hate your spouse. They'll annoy you, frustrate you and get on your nerves. And there will be times where you regret that you ever married in the first time. What will get you through those rough times is COMMITMENT.' The same thing applies for weight loss/maintenance. If you don't get 100% honest with yourself, lay it all out, and make the commitment to not only lose the weight but then successfully maintain the loss no matter what, then you will fail.
And a big part of getting into the right mindset is addressing issues that are causing your weight gain. You bringing up binging is a big red flag, and that really needs to be addressed before you can move on. Maybe it's time to have a talk with your doctor and get a referral to a nutritionist etc.0 -
I sat and logged everything last night and it was an eye opener
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You need more protein in general and especially early in the day. Instead of spending all of your breakfast calories on carbs, could you add more protein? That might help to keep you full and feeling more satisfied.
What kinds of vegetables do you like? Where could you add more of those into your diet?0 -
darkriver2012 wrote: »I end up eating chocolate and crisps. I can't stop at one it's has two or three.
The language you use isn't helping you, you can stop at one - there's nothing about you that makes you have to eat more. Justifying it like that isn't going to help you, you need to change that mind set. It's entirely within your control.
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No-one can motivate you, you have to want it yourself.
You've said you want it for your health, and for your daughter. That should be reasons enough.
Maybe you're thinking you need to 'diet' and restrict calories not eat the things you like. You say you binge on chocolate and crisps. Why not still include them, just in smaller amounts? Walkers Squares have 97 calories. Something like a Freddo bar or a Curly Wurly has around 125 calories. Save something like that for a treat once a day and that'll easily fit within 1500 calories.
I eat pretty healthily most of the time, but I still have full fat milk, and I make cakes sometimes (for my kids of course
) and sometimes I get an ice cream on the seafront. I still lose weight. In fact, I lost 66lbs after my 2nd baby and I'm currently losing after my third.
I keep active (which is pretty easy with 3 kids) and I go to the gym a lot. This means I can eat more 0 -
scottacular wrote: »darkriver2012 wrote: »I end up eating chocolate and crisps. I can't stop at one it's has two or three.
The language you use isn't helping you, you can stop at one - there's nothing about you that makes you have to eat more. Justifying it like that isn't going to help you, you need to change that mind set. It's entirely within your control.
Good point. You could certainly work either of those things into your goals if you plan ahead. What about pre-tracking your day?0 -
azulvioleta6 wrote: »You need more protein in general and especially early in the day. Instead of spending all of your breakfast calories on carbs, could you add more protein? That might help to keep you full and feeling more satisfied.
What kinds of vegetables do you like? Where could you add more of those into your diet?
I Like most veg. I chose to have fruit and yogurt this morning and for lunch I am having a quorn ham sandwhich, salad and some mini sausages (veggie) style. How can I add more protien without cooking
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darkriver2012 wrote: »azulvioleta6 wrote: »You need more protein in general and especially early in the day. Instead of spending all of your breakfast calories on carbs, could you add more protein? That might help to keep you full and feeling more satisfied.
What kinds of vegetables do you like? Where could you add more of those into your diet?
I Like most veg. I chose to have fruit and yogurt this morning and for lunch I am having a quorn ham sandwhich, salad and some mini sausages (veggie) style. How can I add more protien without cooking
Do you like cottage cheese? I'm assuming you're a vegetarian then? Do you eat fish? I knows some vegetarians do.0 -
Motivation comes from the inside. You have to want it badly enough for yourself.
I tried and failed to use MFP 4 or 5 times before this one where I am finally succeeding. I would be super motivated for a month or 2, log all my food, exercise. Then for some reason it would fall apart.
It all boils down to - I just didn't want it badly enough.
Someday you will want it badly enough and do what it takes. Until then, I think it's better to not beat yourself up about it. When you are ready, you will know. I knew that this time was the time for me. Someday your time will happen too and you will look into the mirror and be ready for the change - because your motivation has to come from you.0 -
You have to actually start, and commit your self to doing it. It will suck. A LOT. But when you start seeing the changes in your weight, the motivation comes on its own from within you. None of us can help you that. Your daughter can't help you with that. This is all about YOU, and what you want for yourself. If you don't WANT to change, you never will, and no amount of outside support and motivation will get you to where you wish could be.
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darkriver2012 wrote: »azulvioleta6 wrote: »You need more protein in general and especially early in the day. Instead of spending all of your breakfast calories on carbs, could you add more protein? That might help to keep you full and feeling more satisfied.
What kinds of vegetables do you like? Where could you add more of those into your diet?
I Like most veg. I chose to have fruit and yogurt this morning and for lunch I am having a quorn ham sandwhich, salad and some mini sausages (veggie) style. How can I add more protien without cooking
Do you not cook? That sounds like a big part of your problem right there.
Are you a vegetarian? Let us know and we can try to give you some easy suggestions.0 -
soccerkon26 wrote: »Some people are going to post with some great advice, but unless you are committed and really want to make a change, then it won't happen unless you're ready!
There are always things you can do in order to make it less likely you'll binge.
For example, I eat chocolate every day in moderation, but I CANNOT eat cookies and chips in moderation. So I don't buy any so I won't have the temptation. Or I would be setting myself up for failure.
Also, my binging usually happens at night. So I save a lot of calories (about 300-400) for my snacks after dinner. That way I am eating less during the day because I always get those cravings at night.
This is good advice. I do the same.0 -
Yes I do cook. I made a spag bol. Lunch time isn't always easy.0
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Yeah, it's really hard to be motivated. IMO, you need a better reason than to be thin, because that is not enough, especially if you want don't want to yoyo and regain what you lost. For me, I just decided I was tired of feeling like crap. I wanted to feel good about myself first and foremost, not just to be thin. Feeling good means making good choices, like working out and eating well. If being thinner is a side effect, all the better, but thin just doesn't work to motivate a lot of pele.0
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I have tried dieting off and on for 5 years! In fact I have had an account here since 2011, and in 2007 I started s spark people account.
With that said I never stuck with it.
Until.
July 2014. I saw a picture of myself and that was it. I got on the scale and finally saw my weight. I mean, I knew I was fat but it wasn't until that picture and seeing those numbers that it hit me. I got back on here and fast forward 9 months and I am down 50lbs, reached goal weight, lost 5 pant sizes, lost 11 inches off my waist and can run 6 miles at a time.
You're going to want to lose it.
Weighing my food taught me what a serving size was, in the last 9 months I learned to slow my eating, moderate myself on treats and exercise is fun.
Weigh your food to the proper serving size and try and keep your daily caloires close to what mfp sets for you.
Find a exercise you enjoy and do it. You'll find you're more likely to stick to it if you like it.
Drink water to fulfill thirst. You can flavor your water with lemon or cucumbers. Switch to diet soda if you need to.
Good luck!
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Unless you really want this and make a commitment, you're not going to get anywhere. Motivation has to come from within. You have to decide why you want to do this. You have to decide if you want to change.0
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If you are binging, perhaps you've got some stuff to work through. If that's the case, no amount of logic on the subject will penetrate. Consider seeing a therapist that specializes in BED, binge eating disorder.0
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Diets don't fail, people do. People who succeed, wanted it more than people that fail. Sounds simple, but it's true.darkriver2012 wrote: »I have using this app for two years and I am struggling to stick to anything. I have made some minor changes switching from white bread to brown, white pasta to wholewheat
I don't drink full fat milk, coke but I just binge
How can I stay motivated.
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Give yourself credit for making small changes and keep chipping away at those old habits. Choose something else you can change, maybe water or tea instead of coke. Right now I'm working on going upstairs to work with one of my exercise DVDs instead of to the kitchen. I go to the kitchen so often that I feel I've worn a rut into the floor. Time to wear a rut into going up the stairs instead.
Best wishes to both of us. You haven't failed until you give up completely.0 -
darkriver2012 wrote: »Yes I do cook. I made a spag bol. Lunch time isn't always easy.
So make extra and have leftovers for lunch. I like to make 3-4 servings of a dish (marinara, for example) and then have a meal right away plus 3 lunches ready to go. You can cook chicken breasts, turkey burgers, turkey breast, etc. ahead of time and refrigerate or freeze. Healthier pre-cooked meats are available too. I like to buy cooked, sliced turkey breast (not cured, low salt) from Costco...I imagine there are similar options available in the UK for less-processed lunchmeats.
My go-to packable lunch is a rice bowl. 1/2 C brown rice, plus salsa, green onions, olives, beans and whatever other veggies and cheese I have around. You could add meat to something like that too.
I do a lot of sheet-pan cooking. When I get home from the gym, I use nonstick spray or put olive oil on a cookie sheet, add sliced yams and other veggies, plus a turkey burger; top with spices and a little salt. 350 degrees for 20-30 minutes depending on exactly what is on the cookie sheet. By the time I have showered and changed, dinner is ready. Throw the roasted veggies/meat on top of a pre-made salad and you have a pretty delicious meal that is also healthy.0 -
"Motivation" comes and goes. It is not a great plan to set yourself up for failure by relying on some intrinsic "motivation". I was "motivated" on and off for years. And then in Jan 2013 I found myself lacking "motivation" and weighing in at 268 lbs. So I ditched "motivation" and got "committed".
That commitment has seen me through ever since and as of this morning I have lost 74 lbs and still losing. BUT it takes TIME and COMMITTMENT.
Find out your TDEE (how much calories u use per day) and come up with a reasonable deficit. At 194 lbs I burn about 2000 calories per day. So I set my goal at 1500-1750.
If you go over it isn't a big deal, but LOG EVERYTHING. Everything.0 -
OP, I too have a heart disability, CHF after having a medical coma and flat lining 4 times and after a stroke - so please forgive my wording some times. The hardest thing for me is having a really tired, depressed, and scary day.... every day, with a weak heart. But I have lost 36 pounds, size 4 (161 at my starting weight a couple of years ago, size 12). I have done this with the help of MFP (thank you Lord and Pals ) which was the first time I started, then re-started the first of this year.
First thing I would say is ask your Dr. and then discuss these items. Tell him/her (and possibly a therapist) your fears and feelings, these things MAY keep you from living your life the best it can be. Within your doctor's parameter you can do ANYTHING that he/she okays. The easiest thing that I started with was eating. The exercise thing is a different thing as I have about 20% of my heart. There are days that all I can do is just make it from my bed to by chair. But, then there are days that I can clean the house, or garden, or/and walk the puppy, even play golf (Oh how I love golf LOL) or dance (in my home with my music as loud as I can). Even if I do these things for 15 minutes or 4 hours, I do it whenever I can.
Yes, the motivation comes from within and it WILL CLICK but you need to understand what your problems are before you can make your decision to help yourself and your precious daughter.
I wish you luck!
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higgins8283801 wrote: »I have tried dieting off and on for 5 years! In fact I have had an account here since 2011, and in 2007 I started s spark people account.
With that said I never stuck with it.
Until.
July 2014. I saw a picture of myself and that was it. I got on the scale and finally saw my weight. I mean, I knew I was fat but it wasn't until that picture and seeing those numbers that it hit me. I got back on here and fast forward 9 months and I am down 50lbs, reached goal weight, lost 5 pant sizes, lost 11 inches off my waist and can run 6 miles at a time.
You're going to want to lose it.
Weighing my food taught me what a serving size was, in the last 9 months I learned to slow my eating, moderate myself on treats and exercise is fun.
Weigh your food to the proper serving size and try and keep your daily caloires close to what mfp sets for you.
Find a exercise you enjoy and do it. You'll find you're more likely to stick to it if you like it.
Drink water to fulfill thirst. You can flavor your water with lemon or cucumbers. Switch to diet soda if you need to.
Good luck!
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