Workout frequency

My wife nudges me every so often because honestly I am a bit excessive and obsessive with my tennis. I work out and hour a day, but on my lunch break for work, so no worries there. Tennis though, I play Monday's from 5:30 - 9p, Wednesdays for 1.5 hours, Thursdays for 2 hours, Friday nights from 5:30 - 9p, Saturday mornings from 7:30 - 11a, and Sundays for a few hours when I can.

Yeah...

I workout 6 days a week - everything from weights, to yoga, interval training, etc. I get up at around 4:40am 5 days a week to do my workouts. I also throw in a run or walk with my dog, or a bike ride just to mix things up, depending on the weather...
My husband is usually sleeping, or gone to work when I am working out, but he has no issue with my workouts.....

It doesn't seem excessive to me. What is it interfering with? Are you not spending time with her or doing your share of the housework? In my previous relationship my workouts didn't interfere with my life either. When I have time I go for a run and I go to the gym 3-4 mornings a week before work. My ex never said anything if he did have a problem with it.

It doesn't sound obsessive to me. What I wonder though...is whether it has to to do values. Does she work out? I think it often becomes an issue for couples who don't put exercise on the same place on the priority list.

After we had a first child (many, many years ago), I used to be annoyed with my husband because I thought he should have been home more to help...mind you, I was completely sleep deprived and probably a raging b****. I didn't think it was fair that he got to get away from "life" and responsibilities to work out. He basically said much the same that you did (about how it wasn't much time, but he also added in that it wasn't like he was hanging out at bars; he was taking care of his health.). And he offered to find times for him to stay home to watch our daughter, so I could go out to work out...but I looked at him like he was crazy. At that time, my priority list included one thing only: sleep. HAHA. If he was going to watch our daughter, I wanted to S L E E P. haha.

But to be honest, looking back on it, maybe I was just jealous - that he had the motivation to work out, that he had the energy. Because back then, I had NONE of that and I wasn't sure how or if I was ever going to get that back. See, when we were in college, we both worked out 4-6 times a week for 90 minutes...and then I didn't but he still did. So I'm not sure if I begrudged the time away...or if it was something else.

But now, things are different. Health became a priority again to me - which means I now work out approximately 5 days a week. Some weeks it may be 3 because I get too busy with stuff; other weeks I total 6 days. Total workout time ranges from 45-90 minutes. It is generally early in the morning when he's still asleep, but even on weekends, when I want to go to the gym mid-day, he doesn't care if I go. He also works out about 4-5 times a week, either before work, during lunch, and sometimes in the evenings.

But I guess I should mention though...it's A LOT easier because our kids are older, so we don't actually need to supervise them all the time. (Our daughter is 16, so we can just leave our son with her, too. HAHA)

Wow. This is long. Sorry. Feel free to disregard. I'm clearly procrastinating doing any real work right now. :P

It's not the working out that's bothering her. It's something else.... like she feels neglected, jealous that she hasn't made these changes, or just needs a good pounding... you know, whatever. You should ask her.

Oh yeah, and tell her she's beautiful and you are so lucky to have her.

I'm obsessed with it, I do cardio 4 mornings a week for just over an hour followed by floor stuff such as sit ups and stretching. I do weight lifting 4 times a week for never less than one and a half hours up to two and a quarter hours. So I train 7 days a week and love it. It does wonders for my self esteem and body shape, not bad for a 68 year old.