Fellow Divorcee's - support/motivation needed...

dewsmom78
dewsmom78 Posts: 498 Member
edited November 16 in Motivation and Support
Since my husband's attempt at having an affair in Feb, my life has been in this "limbo" that I swear is seems worse than actual divorce. We are separated yet living in the same house since we have 2 young children. He wants to work things out but has made no attempts, other than pretending everything is normal - while sleeping in the basement. There are a lot of factors that go into a divorce, so right now, most of our families do not know anything is wrong. I personally have no interest in working things out, but I am trying to get finances in order so the process can go smoother in a few months.

Anyway, I have found that with all the stress, my motivation to exercise has been lacking, so I'm just looking for other soon to be divorcee's for support and motivation. And tips on how you are coping with the major life change and daily stresses of divorce.

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  • JenAndSome
    JenAndSome Posts: 1,893 Member
    I separated from my ex-husband in 2008 and it took until 2011 for the divorce to be finalized. None of it was easy and we still don't always see eye to eye, though we do get along fairly well for the kids' sake. I would take every bit of frustration and anxiety and hurt that you feel and channel it into exercise. Seriously. I would probably need to be medicated if I didn't go to the gym a few times a week.
  • HumboldtFred
    HumboldtFred Posts: 159 Member
    edited April 2015
    I deleted my comment because I don't think it was constructive.
  • dagost17
    dagost17 Posts: 53 Member
    My ex and I didn't have children together but divorce is never easy. I know when I was going through it, I couldn't do anything. I lost a dress size because I wasn't eating and just laying on the couch. Even putting a lean cuisine in the microwave was too much to handle. The day the my divorce was finalized was seriously the best day of my life (I think I was more excited than when we actually got married :/ ) Things changed drastically then. I've been going to the gym and working out at home and feel great. I wish I would have had that motivation while I was going through my divorce. I think if you bite the bullet and start out slow, you will feel a lot better about things. Plus, it will get you out of the house and away from your soon to be ex for a bit :p
  • dewsmom78
    dewsmom78 Posts: 498 Member
    Thanks ladies. I have been forcing myself to get out and exercise and I admit I feel so much better afterwards. I just need to keep motivated.
  • alicaramik2
    alicaramik2 Posts: 71 Member
    I won't lie, when my husband and I separated, it flipped my world upside down. It took me about 9 months to get my head back on straight. Once the fog lifted, I realized that I finally had the chance to take back control of my life and my future. One way of doing that is through trying to get healthy, physically and emotionally. You have 2 wonderful children. You can set a great example for them by taking care of yourself. Show them what a strong, motivated woman you can be. I'm sorry you're going through a tough time. Keep your head up and keep moving forward. You can do this.
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