Must vent wife and i's frustration

Do you have a heart rate monitor? How are you calculating your exercise calories for p90x?

Take a good look at your diet. I see a lot of sugar in there and that's not going to help you. Consider following the diet plan that comes with P90X - it is designed to get you the optimal results with the exercise program. The diet plan also has a section that helps you calculate how many calories you should be eating while doing the program.

You and your wife should not be eating the same calories. You need to increase your portion size if it is just that you want it easier to cook and eat the same food.

As for why the weight is not coming off either of you, -you are not eating enough. She could be close enough to her goal weight that she should be set to lose only .5lbs a week and if she has her goals set higher she could have slowed her metabolism too.

You should both take your measurements, reassess your goals individually (not as a team) and adjust your eating and calories accordingly.
One more note if you are not using HRM, you wife needs to make sure she has accurate numbers for everything. The closer you are to goal the less room there is for error.

Best wishes to both of you.

Throw the BMI out the window.

At 21, I was running 5 to 10 miles a day... and weighed 205. According to the BMI, I was still 30lbs overweight. My goal is to get back to 205.

I make sure I eat my daily calories but don't always eat all my calories earned from exercise, mostly because I am full.

So, here's the thing, if you're just venting, that's fine, but if you're actually looking for answers, you really didn't give us anything to go on for suggestions, Besides your weight, age, and that you're doing P90X we know nothing about you, and really couldn't even begin to make any kind of educated guess.

One thing I CAN say though, is those "plastic sweat inducing suits" and other things like that, don't help, and may actually hurt your progress. Forcing yourself to increase your sweat levels will only throw off your body chemistry and make real weight loss that much harder. Sure you may lose water weight, but water weight doesn't affect your fat loss other than causing dehydration.

ok upon further review, I can already see some stuff. I just looked back at 3 weeks of your diary, 2 things stand WAY out to me. 1 your net calories are no where near where your goal is. You are consistently under your net calories by 400 or more. On many occasions you're over 1000 calories UNDER your net goal. Second, you're super high in added sugar, talking 75 to 150 grams high on most days, that's also super bad.

as to the sugar, check this post out, there's a youtube video by a trainer that talks about simple carbs (of which sugar is one) and how bad they are for you.

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/232824-this-guy-is-great

Don't put too much emphasis on BMI, this calculation is so old and not in the least accurate!! According to my bmi I should be about 100 lbs, that will not work for me! Stop where you are comfortable! If you want to go by fat % that's fine but have that checked to see where you are!

Losing weight is a simple equation...eat less calories than you burn. If you aren't losing weight..you are eating too much or exercising too little.

When i say exercise, i mean you need to be pushing yourself cardio wise to the point of exhaustion..then continuing on past that for another 5 minutes every single day. As you progress the exhaustion point will get further and further out...but it still needs to be faced and overcome every time you train.

Weights are a bonus, they should feel like a holiday compared to your cardio regime.

Dont eat any crap right before bed, no matter how bad the cravings get.

it's been two weeks, that's just not enough time golferd. You need to give it time to work, your body has to adjust to higher calories, a month is the minimum I recommend to clients to START seeing changes. This is all about consistency. Once you start changing things up, you need to give your body time to settle back into a routine, to many changes, to fast, and you are just going to be frustrated constantly. Plus you're still way high on the added sugar, need to cut that stuff way down. Got to get rid of the HFCS, it's murder on fat loss.

Thanks for the help. What you helped me realize with this is Screw it, I care but I don't care. I am not worried about the month, it's you saying my sugar is still too high. I quit sodas, frozen yogurt, changed from fructose yogurt to plain yogurt. I do enjoy taste of food and have logged everything for 5.5 months and if it takes to being a veg. Losing weight is not for me. Because I cannot consume apples, oj, strawberries, or anything else because it has sugar, granola bar, peanut butter. Not for me

So thanks for helping me realize I will be fat!

Oh trust me, you don't have to go veg to do this, I'm a carnivore through and through, and I eat red meat at least once a week, and I'm down to about 12% body fat with an 8 hour sit down job, but it does take time, my last 15 lbs took me about 5 months, you just gotta set the rudder and let yourself run the course, I won't say it's easy, but it's not really that complicated. Work hard, keep your deficit moderate, keep your food as clean as you can stand, and try not to fall off the path to far. Having an off meal or even day every month or so won't kill ya, but going 75 grams over on sugar two or three times a week could cause some problems.
Stick with it dude, you'll get there.

-Banks

Heres my 2 cents worth based on what I get from reading your post.

For the past 3 weeks you have made an effort to eat back all of your exercise calories, and you haven't lost any weight. Is that correct???

Also you have not gained any weight. Correct???

This is just a guess, but maybe it took these past 3 weeks to get your metabolism back on track. If I were you I would now lower my daily caloric intake by 250-500 cals a day for the next 2 weeks and see if it makes a difference. Keep the body guessing. Eat at maintenance level for a week then eat 1000 below maintenance level for the next week.

Something will give sooner or later and you will know what is wrong. Overtraining, eating too much, eating too little etc...

I also saw some comments about meat. Meat even red meat wont make you fat. Eat it up. I eat meat at every meal. A good book to get is Gary Taubes Why Do We Get Fat. It makes a lot of sense. Not the same stuff you get preached on here everyday and other sites.

I just preused your diary so I didn't take the time to see where the sugar was coming from, but if its not coming from coke or cupcakes, I wouldn't stress too much over it. Also if you must have the sweets eat them immediately after a workout as a reward. Plus your body needs the insulin at that time.

At your weight you don't need to nickel and dime your diet to lose weight. Only when you are looking for that 6 pack does it get crucial.