being underestimated

meizayuj
meizayuj Posts: 19 Member
edited November 16 in Introduce Yourself
Hi. I'm 21 this October. And my height is 155cm with 50kg. I know its a healthy weight right? Buts, i don't know why some people called me fat. They keep say that i'm fat. I feel so stress right now. I didn't it to much this few days. I just take a lot of mineral water and working out at night. I need your support :(

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  • tiptoethruthetulips
    tiptoethruthetulips Posts: 3,371 Member
    Very healthy weight and on the low side. Who exactly is calling you fat? Family? Friends?
  • meizayuj
    meizayuj Posts: 19 Member
    Family and friends
  • tiptoethruthetulips
    tiptoethruthetulips Posts: 3,371 Member
    Well at that height and weight you are not overweight and you are the lower end of the healthy weight range.

    As hard as it may be ignore that they say to you, do not engage with them about your body or weight. If they start at you, walk away.

    If you need to do some assertiveness training so as you have the confidence in yourself to tell them how their comments make you feel and what you would like like them to stop making them.

    Are you at school still? If so, talk to a counsellor.
  • meizayuj
    meizayuj Posts: 19 Member
    tiptoethruthetulips wrote: »
    Well at that height and weight you are not overweight and you are the lower end of the healthy weight range.

    As hard as it may be ignore that they say to you, do not engage with them about your body or weight. If they start at you, walk away.

    If you need to do some assertiveness training so as you have the confidence in yourself to tell them how their comments make you feel and what you would like like them to stop making them.

    Are you at school still? If so, talk to a counsellor.

  • meizayuj
    meizayuj Posts: 19 Member
    I try not to care of what they said. But still i feel stress and not confident about myself. I'm working right now.
  • moxie1962
    moxie1962 Posts: 165 Member
    Keep your chin up and try not to give in to their bullying. Your height and weight sound quite proportionate, and no where near an overweight range.
    It is hard to learn to love yourself as you are...and not feel you have to bend to other peoples demands on how you should look. That is how eating disorders begin. By not feeling "good enough" in our own skin.
    Joining MFP is a great start to learning about your body and yourself.
  • jacklynlevi
    jacklynlevi Posts: 6 Member
    Hey! your weight is just very good for your size. Don't worry at all about your weight. Maybe they are used to know you when you were younger and maybe now you are getting more curves like all women and they are not used to. It actually what happened to me also. But I guarantee you, that's a good weight for your size. You can workout to look more toned (I don't know if you are much sporty or not). And remember sporty is the new skinny ;) So be proud of who you are :) can send me request or message for more Support
  • meizayuj
    meizayuj Posts: 19 Member

    @jacklynlevi I'm lightly active. I go to workout 3 or 4 times a week. Yes my body change right now. I'm a bit curvy.
  • SunflowerCat74
    SunflowerCat74 Posts: 258 Member
    Don't listen to them. My mothers family are all apple shaped and I'm pear shaped. my entire youth they were always commenting on how I needed to lose my butt, walk it off, watch my weight, do pilates, blah, blah, blah. What a bunch of *kitten*! It took me a long time to accept my body shape, but now I love it. I'm proud to have curves and booty that turns heads! Yes, there are parts that need more firming up, but I'm working on that. Don't let them get you down. Perhaps they're just jealous of all your beautiful curves!!! (That's my guess)
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