Spouse make it hard HELP!!!

jennNva
jennNva Posts: 142
edited September 19 in Motivation and Support
How do you handle a spouse that seems to think everything work sout?? Especially eating out? They convince you to participate??>? Help!!!!

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  • jennNva
    jennNva Posts: 142
    How do you handle a spouse that seems to think everything work sout?? Especially eating out? They convince you to participate??>? Help!!!!
  • sculley
    sculley Posts: 2,012 Member
    I really am not the person to give advice about this. Have you talked to him about it and how it makes you feel like he isn't being supportive my ex husband never realized that was what he had done to me our whole marriage including not wanting to help or participate in me working out. I hope things work out for you because as you see.....mine didnt best of luck to ya dear trying talking to him first you know how totally out of tuned they can be sometiems.....

    :heart:
  • dothompson
    dothompson Posts: 1,184 Member
    How do you handle a spouse that seems to think everything work sout?? Especially eating out? They convince you to participate??>? Help!!!!

    You need to have an honest conversation and understand that it also isn't fair for him to change his lifestyle completely, there needs to be room for compromise. Agree to going out once a week, or only at select restaurants where you know they have a healthy choice for you. Then stick to your guns. If he suggests going out, say we already have plans to go out Saturday, so this would be too much. It isn't fair to go agree to go out 3 times a week and then blame him. Ultimately you are responsible for everything that goes into your mouth.
  • crystal_sapphire
    crystal_sapphire Posts: 1,205 Member
    I agree with the others in saying communication is the key. And if he still wants to take you out for a treat, try to go somewhere that has a healthy menu selection and calorie info online so you can prepare in advance what you will and won't be getting.
  • Dailyveronica915
    Dailyveronica915 Posts: 15 Member
    HI there. I know what you are going through. I am in that same situation. I am trying to change my lifestyle not only for myself but for my children. It is hard to ask someone to change something when they dont feel that they have to. I have just been trying to educate on how bad fast food is, and the importance of setting a good example for our children. That has helped. What I have noticed is me being excited about making home cooked meals and also made my husband excited as well.
  • cham1210
    cham1210 Posts: 31
    You have to have the will power to say no thanks. The more you dig in your heals and say "no" the clearer the message will become that you're serious about meeting your goals. For example, I no longer "ask" if I can go exercise when my husband's home, I "tell" him that's what I'm going to do. If he objects to your lack of participation in his requests to do (or not do) things that are contrary to your desire to lose weight and be healthy then remind him how much better HIS life will be if he helps you achieve your fitness goals, who doesn't want a happier, sexier, more energetic wife? Put in terms he can't argue with :wink:
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