Observation: Pizza at 8 a.m.
tracyklamo
Posts: 31
I saw something this morning which really upset me and I need to figure out why I'm so disgruntled. I understand that not everyone feels the need to live a healthy and active lifestyle. We all have different motivations for living our lives the way we choose to do so. I, too, still have a long way to go on my journey but for the first time in a long time I can say I'm living a healthy and active lifestyle. I can also say that I am a healthy woman.
So as I was on my way to class this morning I noticed a woman who was parked next to me, with pizza box next to her, eating pizza....at 8 a.m. And this aggravated me because I kept thinking to myself "Does she not understand what that is doing to her body?" There are other people in my class who choose to eat nachos, donuts, and even Taco Bell at 8 a.m. (which sitting next to someone who is eating Taco Bell is terrible).
I thought that maybe I was jealous and that was the reason why I was so disgruntled but I've never been a huge pizza lover. I can't put my finger on why I'm upset over this and I'm really not trying to be mean or pick on anyone but seeing this at 8 a.m. just jolted me. This woman, after she exited her car, had a terrible time walking and was breathing heavily her entire way.
Any explanations why I'm upset?
Cheers!
So as I was on my way to class this morning I noticed a woman who was parked next to me, with pizza box next to her, eating pizza....at 8 a.m. And this aggravated me because I kept thinking to myself "Does she not understand what that is doing to her body?" There are other people in my class who choose to eat nachos, donuts, and even Taco Bell at 8 a.m. (which sitting next to someone who is eating Taco Bell is terrible).
I thought that maybe I was jealous and that was the reason why I was so disgruntled but I've never been a huge pizza lover. I can't put my finger on why I'm upset over this and I'm really not trying to be mean or pick on anyone but seeing this at 8 a.m. just jolted me. This woman, after she exited her car, had a terrible time walking and was breathing heavily her entire way.
Any explanations why I'm upset?
Cheers!
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who does it remind you of?0
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Maybe it because you work so hard and are aware of what that lifestyle can do to you. I don't think you're jealous, maybe just annoyed that you can't help those people see healthier ways. Just relax and remember to let go of things you cannot control.0
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I think that after losing weight and the feeling you get and the benefits you gain give you a different perspective. Its like a drug food eases stress, and like a drug addict some people have to hit rock bottom, i.e. me. but some people never do unfortunately. It's similar to religion i think, the people in it see others the same way you see these people, like they are lost and if only they knew what you do.0
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Maybe she just got off work? I used to work midnights, my "breakfast" would have grossed you out.
.....judge not....think of how many times you've been judged by people who knew nothing about you.0 -
eh, you can still eat pizza and be healthy, as long as you don't eat the whole dang thing. I know ppl that eat dinner type foods for breakfast b/c they don't like breakfast foods. Would I, probably not, because I have to be in a real mood for pizza and I am definately never in the mood at 8am, but to each their own.0
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Maybe she works midnights and that is her dinner. I eat oatmeal when I get off work, but I'm also trying to watch what I eat. Anyway, your 8a.m. may not be hers. She also may not have anything else in her fridge...could have just had a huge fight with someone...there are countless reasons.
I agree with you, though...if she looks like she is unhealthy, it's a shame that she doesn't see what she's doing to herself. Everyone has to have their own "aha" moment. No one can have it for her.0 -
Maybe it because you work so hard and are aware of what that lifestyle can do to you. I don't think you're jealous, maybe just annoyed that you can't help those people see healthier ways. Just relax and remember to let go of things you cannot control.
Agreed.
One thought, though - I know this isn't the point, and it does sound like the woman you saw is unhealthy and probably needs help - but pizza isn't the worst thing you can have in the mornings. It has some carbs, protein (cheese and/or meat), and veggies (sometimes). Not all that different from scrambled cheesy eggs with an english muffin and tomato juice. It's all about moderation. Obviously you could nit-pick the white flour and whatnot, but there are worse things than pizza.:bigsmile:0 -
Haha your post makes me laugh. But before I continue I must admit that before I began to gain weight I used to LOVE pizza for breakfast. Its far tastier straight from the fridge in the am
But I understand where you are coming from. I am guilty of these emotions while walking through the grocery store. I will walk past a mom with a cart full of empty white sugar fatty carbs. Meanwhile here kid is crying for this cookie or ceral or whatever. I get outraged! I will look to my BF and he will tell me to take it down a notch and make sure that we do things different with our kids when we have them someday
Be proud of yourself. You have learned the value of healthy eating. Yay you!0 -
I don't know the answer but I had a similar moment yesterday when out on my run. I went out later than my usual 7.30am and encountered lots of kids and teens on their way to school. There was a group of boys, can't have been any older than 11, sitting in the baby swing park, smoking. :noway: My immediate thought was, "You stupid, stupid children - what the heck do you think you are doing?".
I don't honestly know if it made me feel angry at their sheer idiocy, or sad, or what it was, but I certainly felt something. What on earth possesses children to want to smoke??
ETA: I've had pizza for breakfast - it's nom! Granted, it was pizza of my own making, and therefore pretty healthy anyway, but even so....!0 -
My husband eats tons of crap and prides himself on his ability to get other people to do things for him. He sits on his butt, smokes a pack of Marlboro reds a day, and is constantly complaining about how this or that hurts (and blaming everything but his health). It pisses me off because I'm going to lose him much sooner than I want to.0
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I guess I will park further away from the gym whilst eating my pizza breakkie from now on......
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I guess I will park further away from the gym whilst eating my pizza breakkie from now on......
HEHEHE :laugh:0 -
Maybe it because you work so hard and are aware of what that lifestyle can do to you. I don't think you're jealous, maybe just annoyed that you can't help those people see healthier ways. Just relax and remember to let go of things you cannot control.
Agreed.
One thought, though - I know this isn't the point, and it does sound like the woman you saw is unhealthy and probably needs help - but pizza isn't the worst thing you can have in the mornings. It has some carbs, protein (cheese and/or meat), and veggies (sometimes). Not all that different from scrambled cheesy eggs with an english muffin and tomato juice. It's all about moderation. Obviously you could nit-pick the white flour and whatnot, but there are worse things than pizza.:bigsmile:
These^^^^
And a slight add on: "A reformed alcoholic/smoker/drug user is the worst kind"... Once we've changed our habits to remove the unhealthy ones, we're much more likely to be upset by someone else who has not. Since we've been there, and subsequently educated ourselves, we find it hard to watch someone else do the same (or worse) damage to themselves. Ignorance is bliss.0 -
Unfortunately, I think we tend to judge other people once we've "seen the light", so to speak. We don't know her situation, maybe it was the only thing she had left in the house as she rushed out the door...maybe she hasn't been to bed yet...maybe she just got out of a kickin' cycling class and is just hungry! And yes, there's also the possibility she has absolutely no idea.
We can't control other people and we can't assume that she is ignorant. But I know that sometimes I have to hold myself back from enlightening people when I assume what they're doing is wrong. Here's the thing, it may not be wrong to her, but you know it's wrong for you. Take your feelings as a confirmation of the change you're trying to make in your own life, and that's a good thing.0 -
Pizza for breakfast....LOVE IT! One of my favorite things to do it to put a poached egg on top. I understand how it seems very unhealthy but it's actually better to eat all of that stuff for breakfast than for dinner. Is it a good choice? NO! But as long as you're not eating that stuff all the time, why not enjoy it? I used to hate breakfast food so anytime I went out for breakfast I would almost always order off of the lunch menu. Really is pizza that much worse than pancakes with syrup? You wouldn't be disgruntled if you saw someone eating that.....add sausage and eggs to that meal and you are far better off eating pizza!
Sorry didn't mean to go off on a tangent like that....I don't know why that would make you disgrunteled. Though I can tell you that I do get bitter when I see the guys at work eat McDonald's everyday (yes EVERYday) while I go to the gym. I also get disgruntled that I work my butt off for my body and my best friend eats nothing of any nutritional value but is still super hot. I guess some people are just blessed like that!0 -
Some battles I'll pick. Not this one, either people realize what they're doing to themselves or they don't. Granted, this one woman may have had a bad day, etc.
But looking at the larger argument/viewpoint, I have control over myself, and how I raise my daughter to view food. Eventually, some people get it, that's why we see new members every day. So when I see people and what they choose to eat, I don't think about it. I would hope that when I was like that people didn't judge me based on what they saw, and that probably is what made me hide when I ate, and sneak food in the kitchen.0 -
Not to be snarky, but pizza for breakfast is delicious. Especially cold pizza. It's not neccessarily unhealthy.
But I get what you are saying. I get irritated when I see things that I wouldn't normally do. Like my friend who is the nicest, most generous person in the world, who is always running herself into the ground, eating junk, and not sleeping so she can be everywhere with everyone. She had the answer to everything, but was a mess on her own, in my opinion, and didn't seem to see it. It drove me so crazy I couldn't even stand to see her posts on FB anymore and I cut her off for a while.
Then, I looked at myself and realized that by trying to figure out what her problem was, I was doing the exact thing that annoyed me about her. She doesn't focus on herself, she fixes everyone else. And I was doing the same thing, even if I was just thinking it. It takes the focus off me and it's easier to fix someone else. So we went out this weekend and I saw her in a whole different light. She is who she is.
I think that, however small the judgement is, we are just looking outside ourselves for comfort in some way. We know we can't change other people, we can't force people to do what we think is right. And we have to admit, we may not even be right and we don't even know their full story. It's just a distraction. I think that it's OK to just worry about you, but it seems negative to be selfish, so focusing and allowing someone else to get to us in that way kind of gives us a sense of, "See, I'm not selfish, I care." But really, they are not our responsibility. If we want to be a part of the solution, we have to be the solution first. It's hard to look away, but it's OK too.0 -
Not to be snarky, but pizza for breakfast is delicious. Especially cold pizza. It's not neccessarily unhealthy.
But I get what you are saying. I get irritated when I see things that I wouldn't normally do. Like my friend who is the nicest, most generous person in the world, who is always running herself into the ground, eating junk, and not sleeping so she can be everywhere with everyone. She had the answer to everything, but was a mess on her own, in my opinion, and didn't seem to see it. It drove me so crazy I couldn't even stand to see her posts on FB anymore and I cut her off for a while.
Then, I looked at myself and realized that by trying to figure out what her problem was, I was doing the exact thing that annoyed me about her. She doesn't focus on herself, she fixes everyone else. And I was doing the same thing, even if I was just thinking it. It takes the focus off me and it's easier to fix someone else. So we went out this weekend and I saw her in a whole different light. She is who she is.
I think that, however small the judgement is, we are just looking outside ourselves for comfort in some way. We know we can't change other people, we can't force people to do what we think is right. And we have to admit, we may not even be right and we don't even know their full story. It's just a distraction. I think that it's OK to just worry about you, but it seems negative to be selfish, so focusing and allowing someone else to get to us in that way kind of gives us a sense of, "See, I'm not selfish, I care." But really, they are not our responsibility. If we want to be a part of the solution, we have to be the solution first. It's hard to look away, but it's OK too.0 -
I have never conformed to the breakfast, lunch, dinner and supper times, i've never eaten pizza for breakfast but I have eaten roast dinner but then my breakfast is between 10 and 11am. I can see no problem in eating foods at certain times...pizza is not the best but its not the worst and if you're going to eat it does it make a difference when you eat it? Likewise I don't think I have eaten a bowl of breakfast cereal in the morning since I was about 8 years old...but i'll often have one for supper.
The worst i've seen is an area just outside Birmingham (UK) where all the fish n chip shops open at 7.30 to catch the school kids in time for breakfast, but each to their own and I guess fish n chips are better than a chocolate bar and a packet of crisps or nothing at all0 -
I've struggled with my weight for years now, and have been on MFP for a few months now. I've lost almost 20lbs and feel better than ever... I try hard not to judge others based upon seeing a minute or two of their lives. You will just never know why that lady was eating pizza at 8am, or why she had a hard time walking. You have no idea what that person is going through in her life at this point.
Smile and be happy for yourself and all that you've accomplished, but try not to judge others so harshly. That lady could've been me (or you) in previous years...0 -
Not to be snarky, but pizza for breakfast is delicious. Especially cold pizza. It's not neccessarily unhealthy.
But I get what you are saying. I get irritated when I see things that I wouldn't normally do. Like my friend who is the nicest, most generous person in the world, who is always running herself into the ground, eating junk, and not sleeping so she can be everywhere with everyone. She had the answer to everything, but was a mess on her own, in my opinion, and didn't seem to see it. It drove me so crazy I couldn't even stand to see her posts on FB anymore and I cut her off for a while.
Then, I looked at myself and realized that by trying to figure out what her problem was, I was doing the exact thing that annoyed me about her. She doesn't focus on herself, she fixes everyone else. And I was doing the same thing, even if I was just thinking it. It takes the focus off me and it's easier to fix someone else. So we went out this weekend and I saw her in a whole different light. She is who she is.
I think that, however small the judgement is, we are just looking outside ourselves for comfort in some way. We know we can't change other people, we can't force people to do what we think is right. And we have to admit, we may not even be right and we don't even know their full story. It's just a distraction. I think that it's OK to just worry about you, but it seems negative to be selfish, so focusing and allowing someone else to get to us in that way kind of gives us a sense of, "See, I'm not selfish, I care." But really, they are not our responsibility. If we want to be a part of the solution, we have to be the solution first. It's hard to look away, but it's OK too.
great answer!0 -
Not to be snarky, but pizza for breakfast is delicious. Especially cold pizza. It's not neccessarily unhealthy.
But I get what you are saying. I get irritated when I see things that I wouldn't normally do. Like my friend who is the nicest, most generous person in the world, who is always running herself into the ground, eating junk, and not sleeping so she can be everywhere with everyone. She had the answer to everything, but was a mess on her own, in my opinion, and didn't seem to see it. It drove me so crazy I couldn't even stand to see her posts on FB anymore and I cut her off for a while.
Then, I looked at myself and realized that by trying to figure out what her problem was, I was doing the exact thing that annoyed me about her. She doesn't focus on herself, she fixes everyone else. And I was doing the same thing, even if I was just thinking it. It takes the focus off me and it's easier to fix someone else. So we went out this weekend and I saw her in a whole different light. She is who she is.
I think that, however small the judgement is, we are just looking outside ourselves for comfort in some way. We know we can't change other people, we can't force people to do what we think is right. And we have to admit, we may not even be right and we don't even know their full story. It's just a distraction. I think that it's OK to just worry about you, but it seems negative to be selfish, so focusing and allowing someone else to get to us in that way kind of gives us a sense of, "See, I'm not selfish, I care." But really, they are not our responsibility. If we want to be a part of the solution, we have to be the solution first. It's hard to look away, but it's OK too.
great answer!
Thanks beautiful:flowerforyou:0
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