Does anyone feel like their body has a "set" weight?

jezahb
jezahb Posts: 73 Member
edited November 17 in Health and Weight Loss
I am asking because my body always seems to go back to the same place if I am not counting calories. If I just let go, relax and don't go crazy but also don't diet, I always ALWAYS go back to around the same weight (within 5 lbs). Even if I diet and lose weight, as soon as I let up I will slowly gain until my body gets back to that weight. Luckily it doesn't seem to want to go over that amount, my natural appetite is pretty small (my issue is more the choices I make for WHAT to eat not how much) so I would have to actively try to go over this "set" weight. Anyone else feel like their bodies just have a weight they want to be at?
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  • Sharon_C
    Sharon_C Posts: 2,132 Member
    Yes! I can diet to get under that weight but it's really hard to maintain. I hover around 165 and lately I haven't been able to break that plateau (but I admit I haven't been trying that hard either). Luckily I'm happy with this weight so it's not that big of a deal.
  • tomatoey
    tomatoey Posts: 5,446 Member
    Yup - but it's changed over the years depending on what I ate and did :)

    Teens - 120-130 lbs
    Early 20s, before the medication that caused the gain - 125-140
    20s after meds - 170-200 (170 with more activity but not watching food)
    Weight loss in 30s - 124, maintained for 4 years, logging for most but not all of it, maintaining activity level*
    Late 30s, kind-of watching food intake (not counting, though), with no activity bc of injury - 140-145.

    *Here, I also tried to be consistent about food quality, though.
  • Allterrain_Lady
    Allterrain_Lady Posts: 421 Member
    Yes! And I hated it for a very long time. Then, I decided that I didn't care about the number on my scale and focused on how I looked. Changed everything and my body actually let go of that "set weight"!
  • jezahb
    jezahb Posts: 73 Member
    Mine doesn't seem to matter if I weigh myself or not, I can go 6 months without stepping on a scale and eating what I like and I will always be the same weight. It is just where my body wants to be.

    It did change with age as tomatoey said, as a teen I also had a set weight but it was 40 lbs lighter than now. Darn that metabolism!
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,014 Member
    A "set" weight would mean you can't gain or lose. I can promise anyone if they eat more than they need, they'll gain weight and vice versa.
    What's actually happening is people are eating to where they don't feel stuffed or hungry and stay at a certain weight for a long time. Basically for most this would be close to maintenance. CICO is still very relevant.

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  • jezahb
    jezahb Posts: 73 Member
    I am not saying people can't go beyond their "set" weight or below it, just that without work/attention that is where the body seems to return to.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,014 Member
    jezahb wrote: »
    I am not saying people can't go beyond their "set" weight or below it, just that without work/attention that is where the body seems to return to.
    Well no because the reality is that people who go on diets and regain, go well past their previous weight they started from on a regular basis. Lose 10, gain 15. Not an uncommon story.

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  • CherokeeBabe
    CherokeeBabe Posts: 1,704 Member
    I always had a seemingly-set-weight of about 125-130, didn't gain a pound over that in my whole life until I got beyond 24 y/o. Trying to get back to there for the long run :)
  • bendyourkneekatie
    bendyourkneekatie Posts: 696 Member
    I feel like 65kg (143lbs?) is my "set" weight. Getting below it takes a lot of effort, being above it means I'm eating far too much, I start feeling rubbish and unhappy with my size. I would, though, like to teach my body a new "set" weight (maybe 60/132), but I imagine it will take a long time to learn how to maintain that rather than defaulting back to my usual 65/143.
  • BunBun85
    BunBun85 Posts: 246 Member
    I don't think there is such a thing as a set weight. I maintained at 250lbs for a long period of my life without calorie counting or extra exercise. I also maintained at about 180lbs for approximately 8-9 months after my son was born with minimal food logging. Now I'm just about 155lbs and the days where I just eat when I am hungry, I find myself eating to my current maintenance calories which certainly isn't going to be getting me back up to 250lbs+. Your body will adjust.
  • Allelito
    Allelito Posts: 179 Member
    Nah, my weight is what I decide it to be. If I let go and just eat all I want, I'll just keep gaining until I personally stop it :tongue:
  • chatnel
    chatnel Posts: 688 Member
    This is interesting. I think it might be the case for me, I cannot seem to lose very easily as my body wants to be this weight and yes 5 years ago that set weight was about 20lbs lighter and 5 years before than 20lbs lighter again.
  • LKArgh
    LKArgh Posts: 5,178 Member
    Are you dieting and then going back to how you used to eat? If yes, of course your body will get back to the original weight, what else could possibly happen? It is not your body's set weight, it is the weight that results from how much (in calories) you eat when not thinking about it. Unless you make an effort to see this as a lifestyle change, with no end date, it is inevitable that it will happen again and again.
  • szecsenyi
    szecsenyi Posts: 17 Member
    I don't think, that "set weight" exists, "only" you have to reconfigure your body. You have to find the right foods, and exercises after the diet to teach your body for the new general body weight. Don't give up!
  • Luthien007
    Luthien007 Posts: 281 Member
    I found that my weigh loss would plateau at weights that I had been in the past for long periods of time.
    Not sure if it is psychological or what is going on.
    Basically I say to myself that my body cannot defy the law of physics forever and plow on threw.
    It can be tough though when you are doing "the right thing" and not seeing scale drops
  • EvgeniZyntx
    EvgeniZyntx Posts: 24,208 Member
    ninerbuff wrote: »
    jezahb wrote: »
    I am not saying people can't go beyond their "set" weight or below it, just that without work/attention that is where the body seems to return to.
    Well no because the reality is that people who go on diets and regain, go well past their previous weight they started from on a regular basis. Lose 10, gain 15. Not an uncommon story.

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    But actually, yes.
    There is a metabolic effect that creates what seems to be a set weight. Consider it a marble in a trough, you can get the marble out, but close to the trough it seems to fall back.

    Homeostasis results from small increases in metabolism and activity when calories are available. Or reduced activity if calories drop a little.

    That set point effect isn't fixed or even a significant barrier to weight loss/gain. But the effect is there.
  • Dofflin
    Dofflin Posts: 127 Member
    I shudder to think of what my set weight would be if I allowed it.
  • Whitezombiegirl
    Whitezombiegirl Posts: 1,042 Member
    No. I think it's more to do with eating habits , as you seem to alude to. I think it goes more like this:

    - If I eat xyz cals = X weight (watching my diet and eating at maintaence or below)
    - If I eat xyb cals= Z weight (not watching my diet and eating to prefered pattern/ food choices/ amounts)

    I think anyone (without medical conditions) has the ability to be whatever weight they want - but the main issue is whether they can live with whatever it takes to get to maintain that weight. I have a friend who has decided that as much as she would love to be a size UK10 she would be more miserable if she could'nt have a cake EVERY time she got a coffee. She can maintain a UK size16 living this way though, so she has made the compromise and is happy with it. Good for her.

  • kommodevaran
    kommodevaran Posts: 17,890 Member
    Yes, the zombie is right - it's about set habits, eating habits and how much you move.
  • Sarasmaintaining
    Sarasmaintaining Posts: 1,027 Member
    jezahb wrote: »
    I am asking because my body always seems to go back to the same place if I am not counting calories. If I just let go, relax and don't go crazy but also don't diet, I always ALWAYS go back to around the same weight (within 5 lbs). Even if I diet and lose weight, as soon as I let up I will slowly gain until my body gets back to that weight. Luckily it doesn't seem to want to go over that amount, my natural appetite is pretty small (my issue is more the choices I make for WHAT to eat not how much) so I would have to actively try to go over this "set" weight. Anyone else feel like their bodies just have a weight they want to be at?

    No, I'm the one controlling things :)
  • snowflakesav
    snowflakesav Posts: 649 Member
    I think this is common. I tend to get stuck around 137 pounds and 132 pounds. I am 5'6"

    Although it seems like it is difficult to drop below these weights...it is also relatively easier to maintain these weights at maintenance. I haven't had a ton of success maintaining lower weight....but I am going to give it a shot.

    I find that switching up my exercise a bit helps the process along. Adding in some track workouts or HIIT.
  • aboudrow
    aboudrow Posts: 1 Member
    ninerbuff wrote: »
    A "set" weight would mean you can't gain or lose. I can promise anyone if they eat more than they need, they'll gain weight and vice versa.
    What's actually happening is people are eating to where they don't feel stuffed or hungry and stay at a certain weight for a long time. Basically for most this would be close to maintenance. CICO is still very relevant.

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    So would you say it's more likely a "paychogically" set weight than anything else? I tend to plateau and follow the plan within 100-200 calories and might go down a pound or two, but if I just let it go and go over, I gain weight like always. So we plateau when we feel comfortable enough with what we are eating and with out activity level? I've has this argument with others eho say it's age. I mean it is but I think it's more likely lifestyle changes related to age that we don't notice and not just age itself.
  • Toadstool_
    Toadstool_ Posts: 120 Member
    Yep, I feel like my "set" weight is about 147lbs. That has gone up over the years - in my early twenties I would always stay at 126lbs. I've always eaten badly and not exercised though, my body just can't take the rubbish I feed it like it used to be able to. In some ways, perhaps not such a bad thing - at least showing on the outside now I'm actually trying to do something about my health!
  • callsitlikeiseeit
    callsitlikeiseeit Posts: 8,626 Member
    well it HAD a set weight because that was what i was eating at LOLOLOL

  • SkinnyWannabeGal
    SkinnyWannabeGal Posts: 143 Member
    What's weird for me is that between intermediate school and now (my 30s), regardless of what foods I ate or how much activity I do (I have gone to extremes - super healthy eating w/ lots of exercise to eating whatever I want and being sedentary) my body does seem to have a certain weight that it always wants to stay at. It's at the higher end of the healthy range for my height, but I want to be at the lower end. I've always had to try SUPER hard to stay below that weight, no matter what my age was. Strange. If I'm not making an extreme effort to eat healthily and move a ton, I'll always fall back to that weight. Could be worse, but I've thought that it's kind of weird that I've been like this all my life.
  • Francl27
    Francl27 Posts: 26,371 Member
    edited May 2015
    It's a set weight determined by your habits. Nothing more. Then yes, everyone will have a weight they'll naturally stay around by eating the same way... but if they start eating more, they'll gain, and if they start eating less, they'll lose. I was stuck at 200 pounds for years, for example, but eventually the weight started creeping up again.

    I have noticed though that every time I get under 133 pounds, I get way hungrier. Frustrating as hell and it's made it impossible to maintain under that so far. But I could easily gain weight if i wasn't careful, so I don't really think it's a set weight either... just the weight my body seems to be the most comfortable at I guess (infuriating as so many women my height seems to easily be able to go down to 125 or below).
  • DeguelloTex
    DeguelloTex Posts: 6,652 Member
    Set point theory sounds a lot like an excuse to stay at a certain weight.
  • TimothyFish
    TimothyFish Posts: 4,925 Member
    My "set weight," if you will, is 270 lbs, but the way I get there is that I gaze all day on calorie dense foods. Between my activity level and the amount I eat if I don't pay attention, 270 is the point at which I stop without gaining additional weight. Currently, my weight is 217. This week, I've been eating less than I intended and exercising more than usual. If I were to keep this up, my "set weight" would be about 190.

    There are a few people who have a medical condition that causes them to feel like they must eat more than they should. For the rest of us, other conditions are the primary reason we weigh what we weigh.
  • haibu
    haibu Posts: 67 Member
    I think it's a habit thing, based on what I generally eat on a day-to-day basis and my avg activity level....so, if I'm not being super strict, I always seem to settle on ~130. I guess that's the amount of calories my brain/body just wants to eat, so unless I consciously override that, that's where I end up.

    I also seem to do a seasonal thing where by March, end of winter, I'm around 135 and then by the end of the summer, I'm about 125. Again, I think it's just eating habits (starting with Thanksgiving-Halloween-Holidays-New Years season and then ending with a summer spent riding my bike everywhere, being active outside and eating lighter summer fare). This has been my pattern for close to a decade.

    This year, I want to try to maintain that "natural" summer loss.
  • TimothyFish
    TimothyFish Posts: 4,925 Member
    haibu wrote: »
    I think it's a habit thing, based on what I generally eat on a day-to-day basis and my avg activity level....so, if I'm not being super strict, I always seem to settle on ~130. I guess that's the amount of calories my brain/body just wants to eat, so unless I consciously override that, that's where I end up.

    I also seem to do a seasonal thing where by March, end of winter, I'm around 135 and then by the end of the summer, I'm about 125. Again, I think it's just eating habits (starting with Thanksgiving-Halloween-Holidays-New Years season and then ending with a summer spent riding my bike everywhere, being active outside and eating lighter summer fare). This has been my pattern for close to a decade.

    This year, I want to try to maintain that "natural" summer loss.

    That sounds a lot like me. This winter, I decided I was going to ride my bicycle through the winter months. I didn't quite make it, because I ran over a dog an injured myself, but I discovered that there are things to enjoy about riding in the cold. I think I would've been able to maintain a deficit, even if I hadn't continued riding, but riding helped.
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