Has anyone else lose friends or family on this journey?

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Hi guys what I would like to know is it me or is it that I have no friends now that I'm living a healthier lifestyle?

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  • afshanoon
    afshanoon Posts: 1 Member
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    Do you mean because they're not supportive or because you don't have time?! I find its a little harder to balance work, fitness and my social life (beyond texting and social media ATM :( ) . but in terms of support, its been mixed. Ive actually gotten closer to those that are active themselves because we have so much to talk (and complain) about. But there has been some resistance to change from other close friends. What about you?
  • Ms_LisaKay
    Ms_LisaKay Posts: 103 Member
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    I realized the other day that one of the reasons I value & want to keep going to my personal trainer is because he is pretty much THE only person in my life who even remotely gets what I am about right now as far as fitness and nutrition stuff. I wouldn't say I actually lost friends over it, but it does drive a wedge between my husband and I at times. I wish I knew more people who are into working out and/ or nutrition, but I have MFP forums for it, I guess.

    It would definitely be easy to lose friends over this kind of change, though. Some of my coworkers treat me differently already. I just didn't have many friends to lose to begin with, I guess. Plus, I feel like I have opportunities now to interact with people who wouldn't give me the time of day before.
  • punkyVe
    punkyVe Posts: 12 Member
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  • RodaRose
    RodaRose Posts: 9,562 Member
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    If that is true, they were not great friends to start with. Be open to new people and places and activities. You will find new friends. <3
  • EzrasMommy8
    EzrasMommy8 Posts: 1 Member
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    I have very few close friends, but all of them plus my family are very supportive. If they are real friends they will be happy and supportive of your journey. They should want you to be happy and healthy.
  • lauracups
    lauracups Posts: 533 Member
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    I TOTALLY understand. I learned the more positive habit changes you make the more people around you somehow take that as a referendum on how they live. What I also learned is to quietly celebrate my changes. It's okay actually to not have understanding and support because when you struggle only you can save you and when you succeed you alone own that too!:)
  • Frequently_Fabulous
    Frequently_Fabulous Posts: 132 Member
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    Yuuuuup. Or not so much lost friends, as the nature of our relationship changed and we just had very little common ground and stopped hanging out. They get upset/frustrated with me wanting to talk macros and exercise routines and clean eating and I get upset/frustrated by the fact that every activity has to revolve around eating unhealthy junk food or drinking alcohol (which wouldn't necessarily be a problem, but apparently it's rude if I bring my own healthy food or refuse to drink/eat junk food). For now, I'm really just using MFP for support. My family has been the exception to the rule though- they may roll their eyes when I go on a rant about sugar substitutes, but they have been very supportive and encouraging. We definitely have engaged in some arguments with raised voices over my refusal to eat dessert and things at family holidays, but after time (about a year and a half), they realized my eating habits are not a fad and are really accepting and encouraging. They always stock my fav health foods when I get home from break now and have special salads they know I can eat that now accompany the holiday junk food buffet. I <3 my family, lol.
  • serra2009
    serra2009 Posts: 55 Member
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    Thanks for all the support girls. I'm currently 230lbs started at 255lbs in January of this year my goal is to hit 199lbs by July 23rd 2015. From being life of the party to no I'll pass on girls night out they find me to be a dead beat yeah it sucks but I'm doing this for me I just don't like the negative comments they make like I've heard ppl who diet are always hungry so in order for me to not say something i might later regret I keep my peace. My relatives however are proud that I've taken up this journey
  • kozykondition1
    kozykondition1 Posts: 45 Member
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    Not me.

    My social life has been somewhat modified. I've lost just shy of 50 pounds so far this year. I limit excessive nutrition and fitness discussions to one person (one I work-out with, one I talk nutrition with, one I talk weight lifting with). And we all get manic about that stuff every now and again, it's part of the process of being focused on it. But people don't want to hear about it. If they do, they will ask.

    I still go out nearly as much as I used to. Some nights I don't drink. Some nights I don't eat. Some nights I skip lunch. When people ask me why I'm not drinking on a particular night, I say, "I'm trying to lose weight." For Friday happy hours after work, I hit the gym first. That saves me a drink or two, and I still have fun.

    I am trying to make a lifestyle change. The easiest way for me to do that is not to abandon my previous one but change it just enough so that I can acheive a healthier weight.

    @serra2009: The choice isn't between life of the party and party pooper. If you can find your happy medium, you'll stick with the changes for life.
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
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    no. when i started all of this, it was important - if not imperative to my success - that i do this without making drastic changes. because this is a lifestyle change for the rest of my life. i don't want to talk about what i am doing. i just want to do it. i will answer questions if/when asked, but it was vital that i was not defined by my increased awareness of my calorie intake and increased exercise. and in order for me to do that, i couldn't allow me to define myself that way.

  • helenlovesruby
    helenlovesruby Posts: 39 Member
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    I find it difficult to socialise because it often revolves around food and drink. Not all friendships stand the test of time. Perhaps it suits some people to have a fat friend.
  • mr198501
    mr198501 Posts: 2 Member
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    serra2009 wrote: »
    Hi guys what I would like to know is it me or is it that I have no friends now that I'm living a healthier lifestyle?

    Hi there! The only time you'll be losing so called friends is when jealousy sneaks in where friendship ought to be.