Choosing Your Friends

DarkAngel864
DarkAngel864 Posts: 229 Member
edited September 2024 in Motivation and Support
Hello MFP. As most of you know, I only start a topic when it is near to my heart, and those who are my friends know what topics I am most passionate about. Heath and Friendship.

I post this because I know a dear, wonderful soul who made a brave step to be open about her struggle with an eating disorder. As a result, she has lost several friends. This is not what support and friendship is about. I have addressed this MANY times and will again. Being friends with someone who is currently or past anorexic, bulimic can be difficult. If you cannot offer that support or hear those painful details then you need to do this research before adding them.

When you choose to add someone as a friend, or when you are presented with a friend request, I encourage you to check out that person's information on the sidebar. Look at their photos, their diary, and their past forum posts if you can. See if that person is really someone you want to be friends with, as being 'de friended' is not a fun thing to experience.

I've been on here almost a year and have several ANA/MIA friends, both current and in recovery. I am fiercely protective and will not tolerate anyone bullying, harassing, or singling them out.

Thank you for your time, Dark Angel :flowerforyou:

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  • Miss_Chievous_wechange
    Miss_Chievous_wechange Posts: 1,230 Member
    Well said DA! Luvs you girl. *muah*
  • Fesse
    Fesse Posts: 611 Member
    **stands with you**

    Eloquently said !!!
  • kristiek7
    kristiek7 Posts: 198 Member
    The reason I love you girl. xx
  • prettypain
    prettypain Posts: 90 Member
    im with ya...i started a topic myself... love ya
  • SweetLe
    SweetLe Posts: 157 Member
    I'm with you girl!
  • FearAnLoathing
    FearAnLoathing Posts: 4,852 Member
    I love all my friends and will be here for them no matter what issues they struggle with.I will always stand by my friends.:heart:
  • pammbroo
    pammbroo Posts: 550 Member
    Well said.. *standing ovation*
  • reinventingandrea
    reinventingandrea Posts: 323 Member
    Very well put! How could someone be so shallow or whatever to defriend someone when we're ALL here for support?
  • andreamichelle82
    andreamichelle82 Posts: 324 Member
    Love this! Thanks for posting!:heart:
  • joamarelo
    joamarelo Posts: 161 Member
    Great post! ;)
  • mem50
    mem50 Posts: 1,384 Member
    Standing ovations to you my dear. ED's are not a reason to de-friend another.

    I was a lucky one to have a doctor diagnose my ED early enough and got me on the road to recovery.
  • SheilaSisco
    SheilaSisco Posts: 722 Member
    If any one of those friends wants/needs more friends who WILL be supportive of them and try to help them be strong enough to pull through, send them my way. It's sad that some people can be so cruel... But I'll be here and NON judgmental. :)
  • anubis609
    anubis609 Posts: 3,966 Member
    Well said. I approve of this statement. Individual lifestyle choices belong to that individual. It really shouldn't affect anybody else in the aspect that being associated with those people create tension. No one deserves to be discriminated against because of their present or past experiences.
  • Atlantique
    Atlantique Posts: 2,484 Member
    Very well put! How could someone be so shallow or whatever to defriend someone when we're ALL here for support?

    As I said on the other thread about this same incident:

    Some people find that it's very difficult to maintain their own health while supporting someone with an Eating Disorder, usually folks who are still working to recover or who are teetering on disordered eating themselves. So it's not always about being 'shallow'; rather, some people find that they are jeoaprdizing their own health or recovery by reading about someone else's active disorder.

    Again, I wasn't involved in the incident that has provoked so many threads. Just pointing out that there may have been a legitimate reason for someone to move away from a friendship. Doesn't mean it doesn't hurt-maybe on both sides.
  • yummy♥
    yummy♥ Posts: 612 Member
    very well worded. we all have our individual challenges and we all need support. my heart goes out to your friend.
  • yummy♥
    yummy♥ Posts: 612 Member
    edit : double post
  • Kityngirl
    Kityngirl Posts: 14,280 Member
    No one deserves to be discriminated against because of their present or past experiences.
    Very well said.
  • InfamousQ
    InfamousQ Posts: 266 Member
    Well said I agree with you. This is the foolishness that makes people want to hurt themselves or worse. I have no love for people who belittle others for any reason...thanks for the post.
  • IamRoJ
    IamRoJ Posts: 530 Member
    Nicely put, DA. I love this site and would hate to think someone would not be supportive of any ED's. Saddens me that anyone on a fitness support site couldn't understand a disorder so aligned with being overweight (as many of us feel we are). Your friend has hopefully overcome his/her ED or at least is managing through it (not sure anyone ever overcomes that totally right?) and obviously has strong friends as well to support him/her. I hope they will find strength in that to push past it. Good of you to support so fiercely. We should all have friends that strong and loyal.
  • darkrider42
    darkrider42 Posts: 5,654 Member
    I don't know what I could possibly add to what's already been said here. I agred and will fiercely defend as well as support my friends here.

    *GROUP HUG*

    Dave
  • TheNewLK
    TheNewLK Posts: 933 Member
    Thank you !!

    I love you so much DA :heart:

    Your love and support have gotten me through many days....:heart:
  • mrmarius
    mrmarius Posts: 1,802 Member
    great post it seems like imperfect people always want perfect people around them.. this site is about supporting one another in making healthy changes.
  • DancingYogini
    DancingYogini Posts: 377 Member
    great post it seems like imperfect people always want perfect people around them.. this site is about supporting one another in making healthy changes.

    Very well said!!! And DA :heart:
  • clhiter
    clhiter Posts: 74 Member
    Standing ovations to you my dear. ED's are not a reason to de-friend another.

    I was a lucky one to have a doctor diagnose my ED early enough and got me on the road to recovery.

    Hey should not that be a reason to friend someone--THis is My FITNESS Pal--not My GET SKINNY LIKE ME Pal. Fitness includes eating and getting to a healthy point, and for some people that means learning and overcoming eating disorders. I have seen several young ladies on hear that have recognized that and they are trying to gain weight and maintain that--I applaud them as much as people like me trying to loose and maintain.
  • clhiter
    clhiter Posts: 74 Member
    Standing ovations to you my dear. ED's are not a reason to de-friend another.

    I was a lucky one to have a doctor diagnose my ED early enough and got me on the road to recovery.

    Hey should not that be a reason to friend someone--THis is My FITNESS Pal--not My GET SKINNY LIKE ME Pal. Fitness includes eating and getting to a healthy point, and for some people that means learning and overcoming eating disorders. I have seen several young ladies on hear that have recognized that and they are trying to gain weight and maintain that--I applaud them as much as people like me trying to loose and maintain.
  • supermom4abcd
    supermom4abcd Posts: 151 Member
    Well said. We are all here for support.
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