Fed Up With No Results!

If you want it bad enough you will do what it takes. There are no quick fixes and it doesn't come free. I post inspiration photos and encouraging quotes everywhere I can. I am also in the habit of asking myself "is it worth it/will this get me to my goal? " before I put anything in my mouth to decide to just lay around all day.

I get the hardship of being around someone who can eat whatever they want...my hubby is that way! I keep gum around and have left the room to get away from the temptation. I am the one who has to live in my body.

One day at a time!

Instead of doing whatever you guys are doing in the evenings, can you get your fiancé to go workout with you? Maybe just go for a walk? It isn't very easy to snack while you're moving. And even if you do, you'll burn part of those calories off.

could u talk to your husband about it? maybe he can not snack in the evenings around u for a couple weeks. the first little bit is the hardest but once u get through that u will be set! my husband has just started trying to eat better but he learned a few years ago when i started that it would be best if he didn't snack during our evening time together. sometimes he still does then i usually go do my own thing. or i measure out some of my healthier snacks and will have that

Here's the thing. You KNOW what's affecting you. There's nobody to blame but yourself. Nobody is perfect, you don't have to snack if you don't want to. You choose to do it because your goal isn't as much as a priority as you think it is.

Solutions? Simple, save extra calories at night. Eat more veggies. Why veggies? Because they're very low calorically and you can get high volume.

Get substitutions. Ice Cream? Instead of buying a calorically dense ice cream. Buy something like skinny cow ice cream sandwiches. They're macro friendly and are individually packaged. It's harder to over eat that than scooping out a serving from a tub.

If your chips cravings are that bad, throw a stick of gum in your mouth so you have a reason to not eat chips.

I don't get upset when I set myself back a bit over the weekends. Why? I'm the only one to be blamed for. I knew what I was doing and nobody forced me to eat anything.

Pre logging works and holds you accountable. Learn to tell yourself no and mean it. If you really want it bad enough you'll find the will power to get it done.

healthy_juls wrote: »

I am trying to lose at least 10-15 pounds. I keep losing 2 or 3 and then right back up to the same weight again. This has been going on for months now.

How dull, you really need to commit and do it properly as well as etting it into your head that you are talking months not a few weeks. If you cnat commit (write down all the ways you get thrown off track) then I wouldnt bother starting till you are. Think about some of the people that manage to keep going for 24+ months and you are only asking yourself to do 2-5.


Ask your fiance niot to distract you with chips etc.

wizzybeth wrote: »

Or you could just learn self control and let your partner do his thing.

That ^ isn't helpful.

OP, it is really hard to practice self control. I read a study about how overweight people actually utilize their willpower more than skinny people, but the difference is skinny people do not go into situations where they need to use willpower.
For example, at a restaurant, a skinny and overweight person both want to eat half an order. The skinny person orders a half order, while the overweight person orders a full order with the intention of taking half home for dinner tomorrow. However, after both eat their half orders, the overweight person is left with a half plate of food in front of them, and it takes a lot of willpower to not eat it and bag it up. The skinny person has no such opportunity in this example to have to use their willpower.

Try to talk to him, telling him that you need his support to not make it more tempting to snack or overeat. He can have calorie dense snacks at work, or while you're not around. I find that willpower is a muscle that grows, so after a while you will not even want those snacks. When I first started I could not have ice cream in the house. After logging for a while, i have learned what a portion size is, and after eating healthy, nutrient dense, low calorie food to fill me up, I can have ice cream quite often now.

Just try to be mindful of creating less of a burden to practice intense willpower. Small steps will lead to a bigger change, and more willpower.

sorry you either want it or you don't.

Yah it's hard when someone is eating chips beside you...it's also hard being overweight...choose your hard.

I have two men in my house who eat everything...chips, beer, ice cream you name it they have it in the house...I prelog my day with my treat at night (typically chocolate)

maybe you just aren't ready to lose the weight...but if you are just don't eat the chips or if you want the chips eat a reasonable portion.

ETA: your subject is fed up with no results...you are getting the exact results to be expected based on what you are doing...so maybe you are just fed up with yourself.

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I've done the same +/- 2 pound dance, and also night time is the most difficult for me. The big difference is that my husband never EVER snacks in the evening or has a dessert. But there I am craving something or other and knowing that even if I save 100 or so calories for a snack, it won't feel like enough. It's nothing to do with hunger, but tasting something sweet and to keep tasting and tasting it.

In my case, the problem is all on me and nothing to do with someone else tempting me. Although, if he were snacking in front of me I would think it was obvious that this was the thing working against me. My point is that maybe your difficulty with evening snacking is not really about having someone else eating in front of you. It may just be that you have to hit on the motivating idea that works for you.

These are some of mine:

1) "The Kitchen is Closed" The kitchen is all cleaned up, dishes and pots dried and put away, sink and counters spotless, trash taken out. I don't want to go back in there and disturb anything.

2) "One Good Day" Today, I'm not going to eat anything unplanned or anything not pre-logged. I can do this for just this one day, right? Tomorrow, I'll have one more Good Day. Then the next day...

3) The one that is working the best for me right now is fasting for part of every day. If I snack after supper, I'll have to start the fast period all over again and it will delay my breakfast even more tomorrow.

snowflakesav wrote: »

You have recognized the issue. It is going to take some focus and life style change to make it happen.

the key is planning your exercise and activities. Plan the life you want. Taking a yoga class of going to an outdoor event in the evening is a good start. have some light snacks around for the night that you plan to relax.

Remind yourself when you see someone healthy and slim that chances are they are working very hard to be that way. The mindset that this doesn't take effort will not work for you.

Very good advise, for myself as well .....since I have the same prob as the OP.

ninagray000 wrote: »

wizzybeth wrote: »

Or you could just learn self control and let your partner do his thing.

That ^ isn't helpful.

OP, it is really hard to practice self control. I read a study about how overweight people actually utilize their willpower more than skinny people, but the difference is skinny people do not go into situations where they need to use willpower.

I disagree. When I am at functions involving food and a variety of people and unrestricted access to food - such as a wedding reception, a party, a church picnic etc...I notice one thing and one thing only: people whether they are skinny or fat choose how much food to put on their plate and eat it.

It is not fair to ask your partner to restrict their habits to keep you from overeating. Overeating is a choice.

It's a choice I made for many years. My husband and I would watch TV at night and he would get a bowl of chips (left the bag downstairs) and measured out some dip in his bowl (left the dip container in the fridge) Meanwhile, I would sit next to him with the box of Froot Loops or Cap'n Crunch. He would stop eating when his chips were gone...and I would continue to eat until we were done watching TV. One time, I ate nearly the entire box of Froot Loops in one sitting.

Now, I do like he does...if I bring a snack to watch TV...I pour out a serving (or 2 if I have enough calories) and leave the box downstairs.

I do this because I want to lose weight much more than I want to mindlessly shovel snacks in my mouth.

And I haven't had to demand my husband to stop snacking or munching or eating what he enjoys.

The responsibility for what I eat is mine and mine alone. I can choose to let food rule over me, or I can be the boss of what goes in my mouth.