The break up diet.

MrsLehman24
MrsLehman24 Posts: 204 Member
edited November 19 in Health and Weight Loss
My boyfriend and I broke up and I know this sounds awful but I just have no appetite at all. My heart is 100% broken. He just walked out of mine and my daughters life after living with me for 8 months. I feel not good enough, not pretty enough, not skinny enough just overall bad. I'm lucky if I can eat 600 cal a day. I've lost 10 pounds in a short amount of time and I know it's not healthy. I'm just at a loss right now.

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  • MrsLehman24
    MrsLehman24 Posts: 204 Member
    To make matters worse my house was broken into and the robber stole everything that meant something to me. All of my jewelry my laptop I use for work my glasses my daughter's glasses, everything sentimental the things my grandparents left me things my dad left me they all passed away now. It's devastating to say the least. Been a very difficult two weeks.
  • NobodyPutsAmyInTheCorner
    NobodyPutsAmyInTheCorner Posts: 1,018 Member
    Staci honey... You have ONE motivation right now if nothing else to eat well and look after yourself.

    Your daughter.

    She needs her mum to be healthy and happy. Heartbreak is awful but she is your world and that is something to remember. If you have hardly any appetite, try eating more calorie dense foods for now until you start to feel a little more like yourself.

    I had an awful relationship with my son's father and I promised myself I would never ever let a man make me feel that way again. You will begin to pick up the pieces. Right now it's awfully raw and that's ok. But please please try to eat more. For your daughter. To her... you are the prettiest most amazing woman in the world. xx
  • booksandchocolate12
    booksandchocolate12 Posts: 1,741 Member
    I am so sorry this is happening to you!

    I agree with aimee that you have to stay strong for your daughter.

    And, you can call me crazy, you can tell me that I watch too much Law & Order, but: I'd put your ex-boyfriend at the top of the robbery suspect list.

    Sending good vibes your way!
  • HASWLRS
    HASWLRS Posts: 8,001 Member
    Something similar happened to me. I also lost ten pounds quickly due to no appetite. Relax. You will eventually get your appetite back. You had ten pounds to lose so it's not completely unhealthy. The unexpected weight loss is a positive. Don't squander that. For me, I decided whatever I could eat would be a healthy option, and I maintained the new weight for a month and a half, even over Christmas! That is partly why I wasn't actively trying to lose any more. Then I joined a biggest loser contest at the gym in the new year and got down to my dream weight. I don't know what will make you feel better about your relationship ending. (So sorry for that, by the way). Just don't turn to junk food or you WILL feel worse. Good luck!
  • MrsLehman24
    MrsLehman24 Posts: 204 Member
    That is some great advice and you are 100% right. I have been going to church and I've been doing a lot of fun activities with my daughter. Have not drink anything because that's a depressant and that's the last thing I need to do. I'll try to do better today and eat more calories. And you're right I should never let a man make me feel anyway. Daughter does think I hung the moon. She tells me I'm pretty every day. That's the advice I should be taking. Thank you friends for your thoughtful words it's much appreciated.
  • NobodyPutsAmyInTheCorner
    NobodyPutsAmyInTheCorner Posts: 1,018 Member
    StaciVanD wrote: »
    That is some great advice and you are 100% right. I have been going to church and I've been doing a lot of fun activities with my daughter. Have not drink anything because that's a depressant and that's the last thing I need to do. I'll try to do better today and eat more calories. And you're right I should never let a man make me feel anyway. Daughter does think I hung the moon. She tells me I'm pretty every day. That's the advice I should be taking. Thank you friends for your thoughtful words it's much appreciated.

    From me... You rock. He's the loser here not you. BIG hugs and you can and will get through this.

    "This too shall pass" x
  • Reevoslady
    Reevoslady Posts: 26 Member
    Okay, my thoughts, based on my own experiences:

    You are conscious of this change, which means you're aware of this being a problem. Sometimes we have to just go with it, rather than trying to fight against it. Eat what you can, do what you can and let your mind heal. In a few weeks time, you'll feel much better mentally and you'll be able to tackle this with a little more clarity. Right now, your judgement is clouded by the breakup, which means that your actions are the result of irrational thinking. You can't do much about it until you change the way you're thinking, which I think is going to take time, support and love from your circle.

    Now is the time to pull your friends in close, and maybe reach out to your community to make new friends and connections. But if you don't feel ready to do that yet, then that's fine too. You have to work within your current limitations, and not overstretch yourself. It's okay that you're not where you want to be right now. It's okay that things have taken a bit of a turn for the worse. I think the worst thing you can do right now is to emphasise the point that everything is bad, because you'll just make yourself feel worse in the longrun.

    Sure, you're only eating 600 cals a day. Instead, try saying, "I managed to eat 600 cals today." During times of emotional turmoil, it can often be difficult to eat anything at all, so you're doing okay. Not great, not where you need to be, but you're doing okay, and you will BE okay.

    Time is a great healer xx
  • snickerscharlie
    snickerscharlie Posts: 8,578 Member
    edited May 2015
    booksandchocolate12 wrote: »
    And, you can call me crazy, you can tell me that I watch too much Law & Order, but: I'd put your ex-boyfriend at the top of the robbery suspect list.
    My first thought, too.

    Chin up, OP. Looks to me like you lost waaaaaaay more than just 10 lbs of excess weight. ;)

  • tomatoey
    tomatoey Posts: 5,446 Member
    StaciVanD wrote: »
    My boyfriend and I broke up and I know this sounds awful but I just have no appetite at all. My heart is 100% broken. He just walked out of mine and my daughters life after living with me for 8 months. I feel not good enough, not pretty enough, not skinny enough just overall bad. I'm lucky if I can eat 600 cal a day. I've lost 10 pounds in a short amount of time and I know it's not healthy. I'm just at a loss right now.

    I know it hurts :( That will take some time to go away. I know it's hard to think of it this way, but this was actually a good thing. You found out now that he's not right for you, instead of in five years when you had more invested in the relationship.
  • kshama2001
    kshama2001 Posts: 28,052 Member
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  • UnicornAmanda
    UnicornAmanda Posts: 294 Member
    Wow im so sorry you are dealing with all of this right now... When it rains it pours!! You need to eat though... Mourn the relationship with your boyfriend... Heartbreak sucks... But you NEED to eat and you need to take care of yourself for not only yourself... But also your daughter!! Here if you need someone to talk to!!!
  • MrsLehman24
    MrsLehman24 Posts: 204 Member
    You all are so incredibly amazing! Thank you for all the encouraging words. Your love for a stranger brought tears to my eyes. I feel like this is Gods way of telling me what I need to hear. I was stronger today than I was yesterday. I ate more calories today than I did yesterday. I'm taking my baby girl to the lake tomorrow to have fun in the sun. Thank you all so very much! You have no idea what this means to me. God bless.
  • Nony_Mouse
    Nony_Mouse Posts: 5,646 Member
    Ah, I know this one all too well, and with a history of disordered eating, you can bet it wasn't pretty!!

    If you're struggling with appetite go for higher calorie stuff, so you are at least getting those in. Once I gave myself a good slap over not eating (after nearly passing out in the shower :\), I went for things like nuts, olives, cheese, avocado, cook in more oil/butter than usual, anything to get the calories in (I was to the point where I physically couldn't eat much in one go, so I did little and often and just slowly built up the volume).
  • SLLRunner
    SLLRunner Posts: 12,942 Member
    StaciVanD wrote: »
    My boyfriend and I broke up and I know this sounds awful but I just have no appetite at all. My heart is 100% broken. He just walked out of mine and my daughters life after living with me for 8 months. I feel not good enough, not pretty enough, not skinny enough just overall bad. I'm lucky if I can eat 600 cal a day. I've lost 10 pounds in a short amount of time and I know it's not healthy. I'm just at a loss right now.
    StaciVanD wrote: »
    To make matters worse my house was broken into and the robber stole everything that meant something to me. All of my jewelry my laptop I use for work my glasses my daughter's glasses, everything sentimental the things my grandparents left me things my dad left me they all passed away now. It's devastating to say the least. Been a very difficult two weeks.

    Staci, I am so sorry for the losses in your life. Allow yourself time to grieve and heal, which takes time.
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