Dealing with saying no, guiltiness and friends

Remember why you're doing it, and what you've achieved so far. There's no guilt in wanting to improve yourself!
If my friends didn't respect what I was doing, they wouldn't be friends quite honestly.
Nothing wrong with a cheat/splurge (all it what you like) day, but it needs to average out. If you're over-eating all week, then you're just going to gain it all back.
look at how far you've come, all the work you've put in, and at how easy it is to undo all that hard work. Re-focus, and say "NO" with pride

LindseyEdmonds19 wrote: »

Your english is great! I find sometimes friends want you to cheat so they don't feel so bad about eating poorly.

That, and also sharing food is a totally human thing.

I think the best way to deal with it is to just present it as something that's not really interesting or up for discussion, in the way people with allergies do. "No, not for me, thank you, I'm having this" is all you have to say. And smile when you do this, that's important. Then change the subject to something more fun.

Your friends are supporting you but in a different way. They're telling you that you look good. They probably don't realise how serious you are about it, as losing weight is often brought up by people who then do nothing about it.

But also, you do need to learn how to do both as it's for the rest of your life, if you wanna keep your 5kg off then you will have to eat well & eat with friends.

Is this pizza and beer, or ladies doing lunch? Could you skip on alcohol or pick vodka/diet coke? Eat different choices when your with them, what do they eat?

True friends will not keep hounding you if you explain your goals, screw the others. Eat/drink what you feel is appropriate for YOUR goals when out. Get your workout in earlier in the day or bump up what you were planning to do for a few days to make up.

Plan your day so you do your exercise early.
Think of exercises you can easily do when your regular sports aren't an option.
Bring something you can eat or drink comfortably to share.
Fill your plate with lower calorie vegetables.
Eat very slowly. Really savor and enjoy your food.
Stick to drinking water or unsweetened drinks so you have more calories for food.

Try to decline offers of food or drink that don't fit your plan without bringing up your weight as the reason.
"No thank you." "I'd rather eat or drink this right now." "It is all tasty but i'm not very hungry right now. I'd love to take some home with me for later though." "Thanks for the offer but I'm good with what I have." "I don't want anymore right now." "I ate earlier. I am just here to enjoy your company."

Socialize less often. Maybe only get together with friends once a week for food instead of multiple days.
Invite your friends to do non-food activities with you sometimes.

Tell your friends to stop being dicks. If they are actually friends they will realise that they aren't being helpful and should stop trying to pressure you in to eating/drinking things you don't want to.
If they persist at the pressure, then they aren't real friends and you can probably avoid going out with those who carry on.

I understand completely, as I am sure many others here understand and have felt these pressures in similar ways. Unfortunately it is one of the more difficult parts of health and fitness- staying committed to your exercise schedule and healthy eating habits can be challenging when others don't share your goals. I get teased not only by friends, but also family members, co-workers, classmates, etc.

While it is, of course, just fine (and I think necessary) to give yourself breaks every now and then, remember that at the end of the day it is about you and your happiness, your fitness and your goals! You have clearly already been successful and you should be proud. If your friends are not supportive, they are not being very good friends. Stick to your guns and don't let it bother you.