I don't want to diet or die, I want to live.

Sorry to hear that.

Yes, remove and never. let junk food into the house. Have a junk food free house.

Buy frresh vegetables fruits. Meat fish seeds nuts. Greek yoghurt .cheese .olive oil olive oil butter. brown rice sweet potatoes potatoes lentils beans.

And start cooking healthy, from scratch meals. Once you get settled into.. Doing that. You can start to think about working out. Small steps

I wont get into semantics, but when you say you dont want to diet i'm not sure whether thats a refusal to do anything or its simply what you really want is to go about changing the way you love which will continue as a lifestyle even when youve lost the weight? I think its that just making sure.

Im in the UK and its 4am here,so am not really awake. Ok if I was in your position then id be thinking along the following lines off the top of my head.

1. Take responsibility for your situation, im sorry for your loss, but the diabetes and weight are soemthing youve done to yourself. Theres also a heap load of other health risks associated with being severely over weight. Its one of the things that motivated me.
2. A lot of this is a mental game, so you might be enthusiasic now, just like in prvious times, but you need to know you can stick with something and see it right through to the end. Then the more difficcult challenge of keeping it off. have a start to think about whats driving you to lose weight and the advantages for you, hink how much it means and whether you are willing to do what it takes. Commitment is crucial as is a clear understanding of why.
3. The next bit you need is knowledge. You talk about change of lifestyle, which I think is what MFP is all about, good habits rather than current habits. For that you need knowledge, not just in how to lose weight safely and sustainably, but how to get from beginning to end.

Its also importnat to understand and tic your diabetes. It is possible to reverse it.

Try these.
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1080242/a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants/p1
https://www.diabetes.org.uk/Newly-diagnosed-with-diabetes/
https://www.diabetes.org.uk/guide-to-diabetes/managing-your-diabetes/healthy-eating/
https://www.diabetes.org.uk/Guide-to-diabetes/Managing-your-diabetes/Exercise/

Imo its importnat to learn and understand how all this works for yourself. If you dont spend the time then you will not be as efficient, you wont be able to answer many question or make good choices.

You will also need to deal with eating your feelings.

4. Then make a plan that suits you , clear, simple and easy to follow.
5. Keep your targets small, get used to mfp logging, get some kitchen scales , read an article, go for a 5 minute walk etc small things that you cna achieve and feel you are making progress. you treat each day as a fresh challenge.
6. Weight loss is about consistent calorific deficit. For your lifestyle you cna learn about how much you actually need, some info about nutrition and using exercise to get fit and healthier.
7. Learn to be realistic and patient. use this site and learn, then simply do. Its about making more good choices than bad, keeping going and learn from mistakes. Be your own best friend, dont get overwhelmed, but be determined. You cna do it if you commit and really want to change.
8. The good thing is you can still have a generous calorie allowance due to your weight and still lose. You will also lose faster than others with less to lose.


I cannot emphasise enough that you can do it, but you have to commit and be prepared to deal with obstacles that are in your way. Good luck.

I am very sorry for your loss. But now you are diabetic and you should get that under control, weight loss will follow. I have type 2 diabetes for over a decade now. During this time, my sugar was not controlled well. Only in the last year have I tried to control it with my diet and I control it very well by cutting down my carbs. It is almost normal. You can friend me and we can talk more about it if you like. Take care.

Since you know you have major issues with emotional eating, I would suggest working seriously on coping strategies for dealing with stress or emotions that don't involve food. Exercise, therapy, journaling, meditation, cleaning, talking to a friend or family member, hobbies, etc.
You can do this!
Set a reasonable goal, log everything honestly and as accurately as you can, and be patient. Every small step will make you healthier.
Stick to your calorie goal and eat food you like.
You can gain weight eating too many calories of any food so it doesn't have to be junk food. A lot of people here will tell you to get a digital food scale and weigh your food. It can help you figure out portion sizes more accurately.

I find it helpful to pre-log my whole day of food. You might try that.
I like to drink mostly water or unsweetened tea and save my calories for food.

Good luck!

That's a massive loss you are amazing to be even talking about it small steps are the key just day by day you will feel your confidence come on over time.
Good Luck you are a strong lady & can do this

You have so much to contend with, take it slow. But you are right it's not purely about "going on a diet". You could read up about some stuff that will help your body to overcome the diabetes as well as losing weight, by eating food that gives your body the best chance of being healthy. I don't want to promote anything but a book I found really interesting (I am a sugar junky) is called Fat Chance by Robert Lustig.

And like is said previously, walk. Not like an athlete just a normal brisk walk for 20 minutes each day - as quick as you can to get warm but not so that you are gasping for air!

When you first get started, it can be totally overwhelming. I failed many times because I thought I had to do everything all at once to be "successful." I thought I had to buy a heart-rate monitor and eat a certain food right after I worked out, etc. I made it too complicated.

Keep it simple to start.

Eat less. Move more.

Walking is the best! You need nothing than what you already own. (You can plot how far you walk using google maps or with a pedometer, but it isn't required.)

Once you've done that for a little while--say a month--then you can start making bigger changes and making it more complicated. But start small and slow to give yourself time to adjust to a new normal, a new way of thinking. It's very hard to go from zero to 100 and sustain it. Working up from zero, to 10, to 20, jump to 40, hang tight at 50, is much easier to carry on for the rest of your life.

Finally, read the Success Stories posted in the Forums here. You will see people just like you. They are very motivational. Friend them and they will help.

start small, and make changes that you can commit to. walking 15min every day. tracking your food everyday. taking a class at a gym.
you made a big step getting here

Thank you for your honesty and openess

I am so sorry for you loss.