Now that you've had success, how do you see overweight people?

echmainfit619
echmainfit619 Posts: 333 Member
edited November 19 in Success Stories
If you've lost significant weight, what goes through your mind now when you see an overweight person?

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  • kellellie
    kellellie Posts: 109 Member
    I'm technically 59lbs down from my heaviest ever (though that was nigh on 10 years ago) and I don't see overweight people as anything but people. Hell, I AM still overweight. Although my view might be skewed because i'm a massage therapist, so I see a lot of bodies, all day every day. They're just bodies to me. I'm more concerned with a persons disposition than how much their bodies weigh.
  • Alluminati
    Alluminati Posts: 6,208 Member
    As a person.
  • stormyview
    stormyview Posts: 81 Member
    Well, to be honest, it depends. If I don't know them, they're just people. But there are some overweight people I know who complain a lot about their weight (and tell me I'm so "lucky" I could lose weight), and I now think that they either need to have some self discipline and actually lose weight or they need to stop complaining about it. I didn't lose weight because I was lucky, and waiting for luck to strike them is only going to continue their weight problems.
  • annette_15
    annette_15 Posts: 1,657 Member
    I would never judge them as people, but I will admit to judging their food choices on occasion, especially if someone is eating very caloric foods while complaining that they cant lose weight
  • TheVirgoddess
    TheVirgoddess Posts: 4,535 Member
    I see them as people.
  • benzieboxx
    benzieboxx Posts: 253 Member
    I've lost about ~25lbs and still want to lose more but I want to chime in anyway. I see everyone as a "person" I just think some people need more help than others. When I see someone who is overweight I see myself as I was when I was almost 200lbs standing at 5'1". I lacked a basic understanding of weight loss because my brain was so full of all the low fat/low carb/eat clean/blaaah weight loss junk that gets shoved down our throats. Some people need that "Aha!" moment and unfortunately some people never have it, or they do and just don't act upon it or know how to handle it. Just because someone is overweight doesn't mean they're some fat gross slob. A lot of their poor food choices are because they lack the basic knowledge of calories in/out. Or they've tried some crazy diet (again, a lack of understanding calories in/out) lost weight and then promptly gained it back plus more so they think "I just can't lose weight" and give up and give in.
  • tayortoeknee
    tayortoeknee Posts: 97 Member
    Honestly, I definitely find myself thinking 'if only they lost x amount of weight, they'd see what they're missing', I wonder what their eating habits are like, I feel bad for them because I know, for me, life after weight loss is for the most part massively awesome and I wish they could share it. I don't really like thinking things like that because it means for sure that people thought it about me before I lost weight. I've lost almost 100lbs since highschool, so I know what it's like to be large and I know what it's like now being smaller. I also know how *kitten* you have to be eating or how mindlessly to get and stay that large so I think about that, too. I understand that people can have different types of disorders and that that is not the case for everyone, but it was the case for me when I was large.
  • tayortoeknee
    tayortoeknee Posts: 97 Member
    benzieboxx wrote: »
    I've lost about ~25lbs and still want to lose more but I want to chime in anyway. I see everyone as a "person" I just think some people need more help than others. When I see someone who is overweight I see myself as I was when I was almost 200lbs standing at 5'1". I lacked a basic understanding of weight loss because my brain was so full of all the low fat/low carb/eat clean/blaaah weight loss junk that gets shoved down our throats. Some people need that "Aha!" moment and unfortunately some people never have it, or they do and just don't act upon it or know how to handle it. Just because someone is overweight doesn't mean they're some fat gross slob. A lot of their poor food choices are because they lack the basic knowledge of calories in/out. Or they've tried some crazy diet (again, a lack of understanding calories in/out) lost weight and then promptly gained it back plus more so they think "I just can't lose weight" and give up and give in.

    I am with you!

    and for the record I am at my 'goal' weight from when I started losing, but I am still trying to lose around 15 more pounds. I have lots of loose skin and regret my years of obesity like nothing else! I feel so sad when I see people who are large because the extra weight to me just seems so awful! Such irreparable damage to the body. :'( not that people aren't beautiful or happy at all kinds of sizes. I am a bit harsh I think because I am harsh on myself!

  • zyxst
    zyxst Posts: 9,149 Member
    I see them as people.
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  • keithmustloseweight
    keithmustloseweight Posts: 309 Member
    Cue a bunch of feel-good responses like 'I see them as a person'
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  • SideSteel
    SideSteel Posts: 11,068 Member
    Same way I see everyone else.
  • wizzybeth
    wizzybeth Posts: 3,578 Member
    I usually feel sad...Esp when I see them struggling for breath when simply walking. But...I put it out of my mind and move on.
  • Laurend224
    Laurend224 Posts: 1,748 Member
    I only get judgy when I see overweight kids. Breaks my heart, because I was that kid. And I judge the parents, not the child. So sue me.
  • SideSteel
    SideSteel Posts: 11,068 Member
    Laurend224 wrote: »
    I only get judgy when I see overweight kids. Breaks my heart, because I was that kid. And I judge the parents, not the child. So sue me.

    If you had an overweight child, what would you do?
  • MinmoInk
    MinmoInk Posts: 345 Member
    My entire family is either obease or morbidly obease. Its hard to NOT see "them" as people since I love them very much. Everytime I see someone very overweight I feel very very bad because I feel that she/he is an aunt or a cousin to someone who loves them very much... and could be battling with the many health problems my family is riddled with due to being overweight.
  • zyxst
    zyxst Posts: 9,149 Member
    keithmustloseweight wrote: »
    Cue a bunch of feel-good responses like 'I see them as a person'

    Why wouldn't I see them as people?
  • Laurend224
    Laurend224 Posts: 1,748 Member
    The same thing I do with my kids who aren't overweight. I use the word no. I ensure thatthey stay active, limit screen time, and make sure that the eat a healthy, well balanced diet. Focused on nutrition adequate for their needs. And, FWIW, I am talking about younger kids, parents have a long time where they are completely in control of what that kid puts in his/her mouth.
  • SideSteel
    SideSteel Posts: 11,068 Member
    Laurend224 wrote: »
    The same thing I do with my kids who aren't overweight. I use the word no. I ensure thatthey stay active, limit screen time, and make sure that the eat a healthy, well balanced diet. Focused on nutrition adequate for their needs. And, FWIW, I am talking about younger kids, parents have a long time where they are completely in control of what that kid puts in his/her mouth.

    What if you still have an overweight child when you do all of that?
  • Alluminati
    Alluminati Posts: 6,208 Member
    keithmustloseweight wrote: »
    Cue a bunch of feel-good responses like 'I see them as a person'

    What do you see them as?
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  • ibamosaserreinas
    ibamosaserreinas Posts: 294 Member
    It depends more on what comes out of their mouth than how much they weigh... If they start telling me about how they can't do lose the weight or how I must have the right genetics and they don't that is when I tend to start the judgin'.
  • coolbluecris
    coolbluecris Posts: 228 Member
    I have just started my journey. 199 pounds at 5 ft 2.

    I am a busy professional person, I have to work long hours as I'm in sales and need to see people after hours. When I'm not seeing people the rush is on to prospect for appointments.

    I am very good at what I do. I'm not unintelligent IMHO ;-)

    The stress can be high and I used to eat on the run (McDonalds for its convenience and price).

    On the days off I would sleep a lot to recover, or read the required study, and eat to feel better.

    I started to get angry at the amount of time this job takes from me. The amount of rejection and mental energy in the form of not very nice people. I need to do something for myself, take back my life.

    At work, all the thin people push the strict "low carb" diet as the only and best way. I've tried and tried but failed and saw myself as a failure.

    I've been on myfitnesspal for a week now, I set 1500 cals per day and have lost 1.4 kilos (around 3 pounds) in my first week.

    The scales have fallen from my eyes. I don't need to eat low carb, that totally unsustainable diet. I ate healthy and had treats too and lost weight!

    So as a currently overweight person, stress and misinformation had caused me to give up.

    After easily losing weight this week, I think I may be motivated to exercise too. This can really happen!! I could be much lighter by the end of the year!!

  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 18,349 Member
    A potential food source/distraction fodder in the upcoming zombie apocalypse, which I will survive because I'm now smaller and faster than them.
  • jenilla1
    jenilla1 Posts: 11,118 Member
    stormyview wrote: »
    Well, to be honest, it depends. If I don't know them, they're just people. But there are some overweight people I know who complain a lot about their weight (and tell me I'm so "lucky" I could lose weight), and I now think that they either need to have some self discipline and actually lose weight or they need to stop complaining about it. I didn't lose weight because I was lucky, and waiting for luck to strike them is only going to continue their weight problems.

    <3
  • cuckoo_jenibeth
    cuckoo_jenibeth Posts: 1,434 Member
    I agree with others here; I dont really notice overweight people out in public any more than anyone else. But, I do get frustrated with the comments of overweight people in my life such as, "You're so lucky...", " I wish I could do that", or those that ask about what I have done, but refuse to believe that there is no pain, no food/food group exclusions, and no magic pill, wrap, shake, etc!
  • jocar06
    jocar06 Posts: 2 Member
    I am so excited about MyFitnessPal and lwhat it's done for me.When I see people that are overweight I always want to share with them this app.
  • Farback
    Farback Posts: 1,088 Member
    I see them as slow, easy sources of food when the zombie apocalypse begins.
  • Xpecta
    Xpecta Posts: 451 Member
    Honestly, I wonder to myself if they're on the weight loss journey as well, and wonder how far they may have come.
  • tinallen863
    tinallen863 Posts: 50 Member
    I think how easily that could be me if I wasn't so conscious of how much I eat and exercise. I always tell people about mfp and get disgusted when they say why it would NEVER work for them!
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