Husband sabotage

There is nothing wrong with having a little taste of something like Doritos or ice cream. It sounds like you are doing great, and he is trying to be supprotive, but is also trying to make sure you're not totally depriving yourself. He may not be ready to make the change yet, but you are and that's all that matters.

my first 50 was lost while hubby insisted he could eat anything he wanted and drink anything he wnted, as long as he worked out enough. Now he has joined me, as that turned out not to be true LOL

You can do this, only you are in charge of what goes into your diet, nobody else.

Good luck!

I competely understand! But quite possibly you will eventuallly inspire him to do the same as well. My husband isn't completely on board, but he is starting to encourage me (us) to stay in more often rather than going out. He's wanting to make small changes in his own life and become more healthy too. Even though he isn't as disciplined as I am, I am happy that he is trying to make changes in his own life too. I keep telling him I want him to be around as long as I am Sounds like your hubby is trying to help you out a little by making you a healthier version of his meals.

Lean on us all here at MFP - that's what we're here for.

Oh I feel your pain on this one. My boyfriend is tall and thin and has the worst eating habits. He's blessed with a fast metabolism, and is a soccer player, so he doesn't have to worry about it. He's constantly going out to eat and asking me if I want to come, and we don't usually get together until late in the evening and he's always hungry between 9 and 11pm. He's supportive of me working to lose weight, but since he's never had to worry about his weight or watch what he eats, he doesn't really understand how much effort goes into it. Usually I just eat dinner at home and meet up with him later in the evening. If he's hungry, he can get himself food and I'll just hangout while he eats.

At least yours makes you healthier options when he cooks. And you have learned to overcome temptation and do what is best for your body, and that is the most important thing. You can definitely allow yourself to have something unhealthy every now and then, but never lose sight of the goal or allow yourself to "fall off the wagon".

I read your post and you are doing great. The husbands can be a challenge sometimes. Eating healthy and excercising is something that "grows" on you. If you not doing it, it is VERY difficutl to get on the boat but once you are doing it, you feel the difference immediately when you stop doing it and you feel so crappy, you get back on board. My husband fought the changes for a long time but recently got with the program. Not as well as I am but WAY better than before. It is challenging whenever you share living space/lifestyle with someone b/c as one person tries to make changes, it affects the status/quo. I had talks with my husband and explained how we share not only our wonderful life together but a "lifestyle" and in order for me to fully be successful, we had to do it together. Then I would point out couples in the grocery store and sometimes even with their kids. What I would point out is: The couples that were slender, what was in their cart and usually both people were slender. The couples who are overweight/obese, what was in their cart and again, alot of times you see the "lifestyle" right in front of you, as you are looking at an entire family who is obese. I did not do this to put anyone down, it was to "slowly" get him aware of that fact. Eventually, he realized that he could either support me or sabotage me (whether he meant to or not). I also pointed out the fact that I loved him and wanted to spend the rest of my life with him and wanted him to be with me as long as possible and as healthy as possible so we could enjoy it to the fullest (together). Obesity and lack of excersice are the main caused to a majority of ailments. I am so proud of you, because you are doing it alone and yet you are sticking with it. That is sooo hard. Your doing great. My highest wieght was 210 and now I am approx 136. I know what it is like to make the journey and the difficulties of staying on the journey. I really enjoyed your post. Thanks for sharing. On a side note, my husband has been working so hard and has seen very litle weight loss but he is much healtheir and he feels better too (so he tells me).

Yea I know your pain! My boyfriend can eat what he wants and stays the same weight! It is so annoying and really makes me mad. Luckily he eats what I make and doesn't complain if it's healthy. He has been very supportive! I think it's because he gets annoyed when I feel fat and bad about myself! lol Either way I know what you're going through, but it sounds like you're doing great! Keep resisting the temptation and remember if you give in a little it's not the worse thing in the world!

My husband is also an enabler! He tells me though that I'm perfect, that I don't need to lose weight...he thinks I'm fine the way I am. He's also the one who tells me that 'perhaps my body is comfortable at this weight'. I'm not the one who's happy. Oh, then it starts that his opinion doesn't matter then...

But he sits there and eats his big bowl of moose tracks ice cream , while my small cup of FF yogurt is measured out. Which I'm fine with...but we'll be out to dinner and he'll ask me if I want dessert and I'll say No, and he orders one anyway. Although it's for him...he'll order my favorite..."triple chocolate meltdown" with two spoons of course....and I can't sit there and watch him eat it, I end up scraping the plate!!!

just to note that it can be a two way street and its not always the husband that is not being supportive or trying to sabotage the diet.. I was the healthy one, and my ex-wife was not. she would constantly sabotage my diet, or make the schedule so that it was difficult or impossible to workout. I am VERY happy to say that we divorced long ago, but I did slip into some of those bad habits. I married an incredible woman almost a year ago, and it is a night and day contrast. we both support each other, motivate each other, and are there to lend support when the other is having a rough day. I find that since we are both trying to become as healthy as possible, and we are supporting each other, that our diet/exercise program is MUCH easier to maintain.

as far as jealousy.. I have a very beautiful wife, FAR prettier than I deserve, but I am madly in love with her. I know that the reality is that men look at her, and some will hit on her, but I trust my wife. I do think its interesting to see who the jealous ones are, the people i know that are the most jealous ones, are often the ones that are actually running around on their spouses. Perhaps they think "Im cheating, so my spouse might be doing it too"? The interesting thing is that you can try to watch the other persons every move, and try to watch them like a hawk, but if they want to cheat.. they will find a way and probably use the jealousy as an excuse (has anyone else heard someone say "they are going to accuse me anyway, so i might as well do it"?)

just my 2 cents.
Mike

Just wanted to say, you are definitely not alone in not having a supportive hubby! Mine is starting to get restless about the extra attention too. I'm guessing he'll kick it into gear in the next month or two.

A man can look like a beast; but on the inside, as fragile as a newborn baby.

Ummm... when did this post turn into the possibility of a wife and/or husband cheating? Being an 'enabler' is one thing, but cheating?? Did we even have to go there? My wife is hot w/ a hot body... and always has been. Guys look at her and some try to hit on her, but we BOTH trust eachother w/out question. The jealousy aspect I get, but c'mon. I typically don't respond when I have something controversial to say, but couldn't help it in this case. I want to have a smokin' body FOR my wife because thats what she deserves... not because other guys hit on her.

If you accept his offers for food he will continue to ask if you want something. Keep saying NO. My hubby is slim and doesn't need to lose weight so when I told him I was goingto start to eat more healthy and cut a few things out of my diet he was kinda supportive. I said I would continue to cook his meals as normal, I think that lasted all of a few days then he started eating what I was. I later bought a treadmill and a home gym same thing saw me doing it and wanted in on it.

Hopefully your hubby will see the difference in you both physically and mentally and want the same for himself. If not you just continue to do your own thing.

This is going to sound like a cop-out, but are you sure he knows he's doing that? It's not an act - at times, we really are that slow.