Training with my wife

Iv613
Iv613 Posts: 1 Member
edited November 20 in Fitness and Exercise
Can my wife do the same lifting routines as me?
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  • Sam_I_Am77
    Sam_I_Am77 Posts: 2,093 Member
    Iv613 wrote: »
    Can my wife do the same lifting routines as me?

    If she wants to do it, sure. Adaptation occurs the same way in women as it does men.
  • jgnatca
    jgnatca Posts: 14,464 Member
    Smaller weights.
  • determined_14
    determined_14 Posts: 258 Member
    I'm a woman doing Stronglifts. There is no reason women can't do the same routines as men, though your wife will likely need smaller weights and may need to increase by smaller increments at a time. :)
  • VegasFit
    VegasFit Posts: 1,232 Member
    Yep. I lift with my BF and only change the weights.
  • rainbowbow
    rainbowbow Posts: 7,490 Member
    Sure she can. But will she want to? Only you know that. The worst thing you can do in a relationship is go all drill sergeant/expert on your partner.
  • jgnatca
    jgnatca Posts: 14,464 Member
    My hubby's smarter than to go all drill sergeant on me. He's the one that helped me get the courage to step in a gym in the first place. I will sometimes follow him around on a circuit, changing the weights as we go. I used to imitate his stretches too but with my new-found knowledge, I do my own. I also run on my own. But he'll walk with me. If the sun is shining. And it's not too windy. And the air is balmy.
  • Cherimoose
    Cherimoose Posts: 5,208 Member
    Iv613 wrote: »
    Can my wife do the same lifting routines as me?

    If it matches her goals and abilities, then yes. If not, then no.
  • terar21
    terar21 Posts: 523 Member
    Absolutely. Of course, it should be areas she would like to train. If i let my boyfriend train me, every day would be chest and I'd never get a leg day.

    But I'm thiiiiis close to converting him.
  • brimag18
    brimag18 Posts: 12 Member
    edited June 2015
    I lift with my husband. Just use less weight.
    Maybe I should clarify. We do the same routine. He does a set, I do a set. We change weights between because we don't lift the same. I lift heavy for me.
  • FitPhillygirl
    FitPhillygirl Posts: 7,124 Member
    Iv613 wrote: »
    Can my wife do the same lifting routines as me?

    Absolutely! My husband and I do as often as we are able to go to the gym on the same days.
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  • jemhh
    jemhh Posts: 14,261 Member
    Lol. My husband, were he to lift, would most certainly lift more weight than me. That's not an insult. It's just a fact. And smaller is not the same as small.
  • juliewatkin
    juliewatkin Posts: 764 Member
    My husband and I have trained and competed together for years. Neither of us got the other involved, we met in the sport so that makes a difference with respect to both our levels of interest.

    If she isn't really interested, I'd be careful about pushing too hard. If she is, it's awesome to have a built in training partner.

    It's nice to have that person who knows what you are capable of doing and is around to ride both the ups and downs with you.
  • randomtai
    randomtai Posts: 9,003 Member
    Does she want to?
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    sure, why not? my wife started out doing Starting Strength with me...she ultimately was bored of the program and wanted something a little more all purpose general fitness oriented so she moved on to a different program rather quickly...but there's no reason she couldn't have kept doing it with me...it just didn't line up with her goals.

    i would add that training together, as brief as it was, did put kind of a strain on things...I would try to correct form and she'd think I was being an *kitten*, etc. we do much better doing our own thing in the weight room. we do occasionally ride and run together.
  • SezxyStef
    SezxyStef Posts: 15,267 Member
    it's funny you ask as I have been lifting for 2 years...my husband joins me and lifts the weights I do...why because they are heavy for him... :o
  • jgnatca
    jgnatca Posts: 14,464 Member
    @billieljaime , I modify: She will start with lighter weights.
  • starseedxo
    starseedxo Posts: 36 Member
    @jgnatca - you don't know that. Maybe he is super weak, and she's an athlete that is interested in switching her routine. You know what they say about assumptions...
  • jgnatca
    jgnatca Posts: 14,464 Member
    Assuming she's just starting out, she will likely be starting with lighter weights. I know I did.
    She can do all the same exercises he does.
  • juliewatkin
    juliewatkin Posts: 764 Member
    starseedxo wrote: »
    @jgnatca - you don't know that. Maybe he is super weak, and she's an athlete that is interested in switching her routine. You know what they say about assumptions...

    Sure but it's disingenuous to think that an average woman is stronger than an average man. All things being equal, he will be lifting more than her. Barring outliers ie, he is weak and she is a top level competitive lifter, he will lift more.

    Perhaps no one should have said use lighter weights just follow the same program.

  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    whatever- she can lift as long as she is lifting the correct percentages of weights to achomplish the lift safely and properly.

    Being said- i would recommend against lifting with your wifey. Not because she can't- or the program is wrong- it's probably fine. But it's generally a better idea to let her sort it out- correction gets taken like condescension and it goes bad quickly.

    I vote no.

    But YMMV.
  • slideaway1
    slideaway1 Posts: 1,006 Member
    Are you sure this is wise my friend? Divorce statistics are on the increase. Don't stoke the fire. :)
  • BrianSharpe
    BrianSharpe Posts: 9,248 Member
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  • jgnatca
    jgnatca Posts: 14,464 Member
    Hubby and I work out alongside each other. I think if egos are securely tucked in where they belong, it is fine. I mean, I'm not trying to change him or compete with him, and he's the same. Even more than me, he lets people be who they are.
  • jgnatca
    jgnatca Posts: 14,464 Member
    Hubby and I work out alongside each other. I think if egos are securely tucked in where they belong, it is fine. I mean, I'm not trying to change him or compete with him, and he's the same. Even more than me, he lets people be who they are.
  • lishie_rebooted
    lishie_rebooted Posts: 2,973 Member
    JoRocka wrote: »
    whatever- she can lift as long as she is lifting the correct percentages of weights to achomplish the lift safely and properly.

    Being said- i would recommend against lifting with your wifey. Not because she can't- or the program is wrong- it's probably fine. But it's generally a better idea to let her sort it out- correction gets taken like condescension and it goes bad quickly.

    I vote no.

    But YMMV.

    I'm with Jo here.
    I've worked out with an ex (wasn't then) and I did not like.
    I also work out at home since I don't like people or sharing.
  • Sam_I_Am77
    Sam_I_Am77 Posts: 2,093 Member
    BrianSharpe wrote: »
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    Amen to that! With the experience and education I have my wife doesn't listen to me for nothing, we just argue. If you and your wife have a type of relationship where you can do that stuff together then great, but somethings a husband and wife weren't meant to do together.

  • slaite1
    slaite1 Posts: 1,307 Member
    Sometimes the BF works out with me. We used to take boot camp classes together and worked out all the time. He pushed me, I pushed him. Our sex life was OUTSTANDING.

    Maybe we're the exception bc I was the one correcting form and am generally more into fitness. But, if you're both into it, and can keep it supportive, I highly recommend it.
  • Kimo159
    Kimo159 Posts: 508 Member
    My boyfriend and I lift together (sort of). We both have our own workouts but we go to the gym together and leave together and sometimes I'll ask him to spot for me or check my form. But we both have a similar mentality when training, headphones in and go hard. So it works for us to do it this way. So depending on what your relationship dynamic is like and what your workout mentality is doing that might be an option that falls between lifting together and lifting separately.
  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    Kimo159 wrote: »
    My boyfriend and I lift together (sort of). We both have our own workouts but we go to the gym together and leave together and sometimes I'll ask him to spot for me or check my form. But we both have a similar mentality when training, headphones in and go hard. So it works for us to do it this way. So depending on what your relationship dynamic is like and what your workout mentality is doing that might be an option that falls between lifting together and lifting separately.

    That's different than lifting with him.

    That's the way I like to "lift with people" you happen to show up together- and you happen to leave around the same time- you check in occasional to make sure your on the same time trajectory and then you call it a day.
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