I have an eating disorder and i want to escape it
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I'm from the philippines. 18 is legal but you don't really get to be separated with your parents and i dont have the courage to go through this alone. I'd have to say that i'm really scared of hearing negative results from professionals.0
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chloealaine23 wrote: »Thank you for your time reading this. Do you think i can still heal myself without professional help?
Maybe you can... it takes a whole lot of ones self and incredible discipline and commitment to want to get better. If you do want to get better, YOU WILL STOP... If not, you WILL NOT stop..
If you can't stop, you need therapy... simple as that..0 -
chloealaine23 wrote: »I'm from the philippines. 18 is legal but you don't really get to be separated with your parents and i dont have the courage to go through this alone. I'd have to say that i'm really scared of hearing negative results from professionals.
What negative result?
Here's a negative result you will get without professional help: death.
You need to get professional help. No-one here can help you.0 -
The best thing to do, if your parents are useless, is to seek some help from someone at school. If there is a psychologist, ask to see them. If there isn't, find a teacher who seems normal, reasonable and nice and tell them your problem and ask them if they could help you find someone who could help you.
If you have a friend who has a parent you know well and like, you could tell them. They could look into it.
Relatives are a today issue. I'm assuming you'll know better about your relatives and have already decided that they aren't the right course.
Church. If you go, you may already know someone there you can ask. Priests and rabbis are trained to act as counselors. Some are better than others, lol, but it's not an unfamiliar place for them, helping people with problems. That's what they do! Some churches these days have Free Medical Care day where doctors and nurses volunteer their time. I bet there is someone in your church who would volunteer to help you.
You really need at least a therapist, but would be much better off with a team - doctor, dietitian and therapist.
Until then, I don't know. Try eating more peanut butter.
Thank you so much. I will try.
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I guess people forget what it's like to be 18. It's hard to venture out and do things independently sometimes. Especially when it's something as hard as seeking help for an ED. I know this, I lived this. Please don't keep it to yourself. Keeping it a secret makes it easier for it to control and consume you. Tell some people that you trust that will help you get help. You do need professional help because breaking those habits and thought patterns is really hard and you need someone outside of yourself to help pull you out and give you a different perspective - a new way of thinking. You can beat this, I did it! Best of luck to you!
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LadyAbsynthe wrote: »It isn't easy to get professional help, but you really should. Have you told your parents the truth? If you tell them what you just wrote, I think it might be difficult for them to be in denial. If it's financially difficult, you could look around for OA meetings in your area? I tried that a couple of times but transport didn't work out for me so I can't vouch for it either way, but they were very welcoming to me as an anoretic/bulimic so I didn't feel very out of place. I understand your struggle and I hope it gets better
good luck!
Thank you. I will try doing your advice.0 -
I struggled with bulimia at a time when I was very isolated both physically and emotionally. I thought I could "fix" it myself but I was very wrong. I messed up my health a lot by not getting help early on. The sooner you reach out for help, the better. If your parents don't think it's serious, know that there are people out there who will. There are professionals who will listen to you and help you. Being 18 is hard enough; you don't need to deal with bulimia by yourself.0
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You really should get professional help but i fully understand how daunting that can be. Can you start by talking to a friend or family member - someone you can trust? I used to suffer from EDNOS and my break through moment was when i confided in my friend. We talked for hours and she was the best support i could ever have asked for. We worked out a plan for going forward and she keeps me accountable even to this day. If ever i feel my restrictive thoughts coming back i tell her and we talk it through. Sharing with someone really helped me. But we are all different and you may not feel that will help you.
Just dont feel you are alone in this.0 -
I'm in the same situation. PM me if you want to talk about it x0
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I guess people forget what it's like to be 18. It's hard to venture out and do things independently sometimes. Especially when it's something as hard as seeking help for an ED. I know this, I lived this. Please don't keep it to yourself. Keeping it a secret makes it easier for it to control and consume you. Tell some people that you trust that will help you get help. You do need professional help because breaking those habits and thought patterns is really hard and you need someone outside of yourself to help pull you out and give you a different perspective - a new way of thinking. You can beat this, I did it! Best of luck to you!
Absolutely this, please try to read the above post often. You can do it.0 -
I guess people forget what it's like to be 18. It's hard to venture out and do things independently sometimes. Especially when it's something as hard as seeking help for an ED. I know this, I lived this. Please don't keep it to yourself. Keeping it a secret makes it easier for it to control and consume you. Tell some people that you trust that will help you get help. You do need professional help because breaking those habits and thought patterns is really hard and you need someone outside of yourself to help pull you out and give you a different perspective - a new way of thinking. You can beat this, I did it! Best of luck to you!
Absolutely this, please try to read the above post often. You can do it.
Thank you for your concern about this. Really appreciate it!0 -
+1 for professional help. You've been given resources in this thread that can at least get you started.
Recovery is tough, and you have to be willing to fight for yourself. Take the 1st steps. You're worth it.0 -
chloealaine23 wrote: »I am bulimic for the past two years. I am not overweight or underweight as well. I want to maintain my current weight right now so i do some exercise once a week like muai thai. But everytime i eat something, i always feel guilty so when i feel like i overate, i'd keep eating everything and i won't stop until i finish it then i'd purge everything as well right after. It became my daily routine now and it is getting really worse. I don't wanna get fat and struggling to lose weight because of an upcoming event. I tried to be vegan but tempted to eat meat so i purge when i eat meat as well. I always crave sweets and starve myself but ending up binging and purging. I need help. Please.
Chloe, I struggled with bulimia from the time I was about 17 until I was 24. At first, bingeing and purging was occasional, but it progressed rapidly when my mother was diagnosed with cancer when I was 22, and then really got bad when she passed away. Back then, I made deals with myself: if I could stop myself from binging and throwing up, then I could have whatever I wanted at that time. Well, I was able to stop cold turkey, but after I went through a divorce in my early thirties the urges came back.
Instead of giving in to the urges, I immediately called my doctor and he got me into a treatment program right away. I have not engaged in bulimic behavior in about 30 years, and I'm very lucky that I didn't suffer health consequences, but I remember the feelings of self hatred, shame, guilt, and especially how I had no control over my urges.
Group and individual therapy helped me understand how when practicing bulimia I was stuffing feelings I could deal with, then purging to get rid of the feelings, especially a lot of self hatred. With group/individual therapy, I realized the urges came back because I was not dealing with my feelings over my divorce in a healthy way. I am so glad I did not give into the urges, but it was the support and love of other people with similar issues, and the therapists too, that helped me find recovery.
I encourage you to call your doctor immediately and tell him/he what is going on with you and ask for a referral to an eating disorder program. If you continue this behavior you can cause serious damage to your body. You cannot do this alone, you need the help and support of qualified people in real life, not on an internet forum.
I hope some of what I've said will help you.0 -
chloealaine23 wrote: »It's nit easy to get professional help. Especially when your parents doesn't take it seriously and they wont believe that it's a serious disorder
My mom didn't take it seriously either. She told me to immediately make myself stop throwing up. I couldn't stop, and she didn't now what to do. She was in denial and didn't know how to handle it.
I was bulimic even when I moved out on my own.
Your parents are in denial, they don't now how to handle it.
If you are 18 or over, you have to take responsibility for yourself and get yourself help before it's too late.
If you under 18, you should not be on this forum.
You need to immediately call your doctor.0 -
chloealaine23 wrote: »Thank you for your time reading this. Do you think i can still heal myself without professional help?
Absolutely NOT.
I'll say it again: call your doctor immediately and get help before it's too late.0 -
chloealaine23 wrote: »I am bulimic for the past two years. I am not overweight or underweight as well. I want to maintain my current weight right now so i do some exercise once a week like muai thai. But everytime i eat something, i always feel guilty so when i feel like i overate, i'd keep eating everything and i won't stop until i finish it then i'd purge everything as well right after. It became my daily routine now and it is getting really worse. I don't wanna get fat and struggling to lose weight because of an upcoming event. I tried to be vegan but tempted to eat meat so i purge when i eat meat as well. I always crave sweets and starve myself but ending up binging and purging. I need help. Please.
Chloe, I struggled with bulimia from the time I was about 17 until I was 24. At first, bingeing and purging was occasional, but it progressed rapidly when my mother was diagnosed with cancer when I was 22, and then really got bad when she passed away. Back then, I made deals with myself: if I could stop myself from binging and throwing up, then I could have whatever I wanted at that time. Well, I was able to stop cold turkey, but after I went through a divorce in my early thirties the urges came back.
Instead of giving in to the urges, I immediately called my doctor and he got me into a treatment program right away. I have not engaged in bulimic behavior in about 30 years, and I'm very lucky that I didn't suffer health consequences, but I remember the feelings of self hatred, shame, guilt, and especially how I had no control over my urges.
Group and individual therapy helped me understand how when practicing bulimia I was stuffing feelings I could deal with, then purging to get rid of the feelings, especially a lot of self hatred. With group/individual therapy, I realized the urges came back because I was not dealing with my feelings over my divorce in a healthy way. I am so glad I did not give into the urges, but it was the support and love of other people with similar issues, and the therapists too, that helped me find recovery.
I encourage you to call your doctor immediately and tell him/he what is going on with you and ask for a referral to an eating disorder program. If you continue this behavior you can cause serious damage to your body. You cannot do this alone, you need the help and support of qualified people in real life, not on an internet forum.
I hope some of what I've said will help you.
That was really nice of you to share. Good on you.0 -
The best thing to do, if your parents are useless, is to seek some help from someone at school. If there is a psychologist, ask to see them. If there isn't, find a teacher who seems normal, reasonable and nice and tell them your problem and ask them if they could help you find someone who could help you.
Her parents are in denial. That does not make them useless, it makes them scared and hiding behind that denial.Church. If you go, you may already know someone there you can ask. Priests and rabbis are trained to act as counselors. Some are better than others, lol, but it's not an unfamiliar place for them, helping people with problems. That's what they do! Some churches these days have Free Medical Care day where doctors and nurses volunteer their time. I bet there is someone in your church who would volunteer to help you.
They are not trained in dealing with eating disorders. Anyone with bulimia needs qualified personnel trained in eating disorders, not religious counseling.Until then, I don't know. Try eating more peanut butter.
Why are you telling a bulimic to try eating more peanut butter. Why would you even say such a thing?0 -
If her parents are unable to help, whether they're in denial or don't care or are too drunk or what ER their problem may be, they're useless to her. Your assumption that they're in denial isn't the gospel truth. It might be and it might not be the case. But the reason behind the uselessness is not this girl's problem.The best thing to do, if your parents are useless, is to seek some help from someone at school. If there is a psychologist, ask to see them. If there isn't, find a teacher who seems normal, reasonable and nice and tell them your problem and ask them if they could help you find someone who could help you.
Her parents are in denial. That does not make them useless, it makes them scared and hiding behind that denial.Church. If you go, you may already know someone there you can ask. Priests and rabbis are trained to act as counselors. Some are better than others, lol, but it's not an unfamiliar place for them, helping people with problems. That's what they do! Some churches these days have Free Medical Care day where doctors and nurses volunteer their time. I bet there is someone in your church who would volunteer to help you.
They are not trained in dealing with eating disorders. Anyone with bulimia needs qualified personnel trained in eating disorders, not religious counseling.Until then, I don't know. Try eating more peanut butter.
Why are you telling a bulimic to try eating more peanut butter. Why would you even say such a thing?
Priests and rabbis know what they're trained to do and what they need to find other help for. They CAN find her the help she needs. That's what they do. Sometimes they find it in their congregation and sometimes they find it elsewhere, but they find it.
The PB thing was a joke, hence the wink. It's harder to bring up, as you must know. I assume she got that.
I'm sorry you don't like what I posted. Best I can do. I think it's all good advice.
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If her parents are unable to help, whether they're in denial or don't care or are too drunk or what ER their problem may be, they're useless to her. Your assumption that they're in denial isn't the gospel truth. It might be and it might not be the case. But the reason behind the uselessness is not this girl's problem.The best thing to do, if your parents are useless, is to seek some help from someone at school. If there is a psychologist, ask to see them. If there isn't, find a teacher who seems normal, reasonable and nice and tell them your problem and ask them if they could help you find someone who could help you.
Her parents are in denial. That does not make them useless, it makes them scared and hiding behind that denial.Church. If you go, you may already know someone there you can ask. Priests and rabbis are trained to act as counselors. Some are better than others, lol, but it's not an unfamiliar place for them, helping people with problems. That's what they do! Some churches these days have Free Medical Care day where doctors and nurses volunteer their time. I bet there is someone in your church who would volunteer to help you.
They are not trained in dealing with eating disorders. Anyone with bulimia needs qualified personnel trained in eating disorders, not religious counseling.Until then, I don't know. Try eating more peanut butter.
Why are you telling a bulimic to try eating more peanut butter. Why would you even say such a thing?
Priests and rabbis know what they're trained to do and what they need to find other help for. They CAN find her the help she needs. That's what they do. Sometimes they find it in their congregation and sometimes they find it elsewhere, but they find it.
The PB thing was a joke, hence the wink. It's harder to bring up, as you must know. I assume she got that.
I'm sorry you don't like what I posted. Best I can do. I think it's all good advice.
Fair enough on directing the OP to others who might be able t help. However, your joke about the peanut butter is not funny at all. Believe me, I vomited peanut butter just fine.
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