I hate being like this
britishbeau
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I hate being over weight. i hate my body, i hate what i eat. but why cant i change it? why cant i not have that kitkat, why cant i leave the chocolate raisins alone? why cant i resist the cakes my dad brings home? i hate myself after eating it.
and i know i can eat these things as long as they fit into my calorie goals, but they never do fit, its hard enough planning 3 meals that fit, let alone room for snacks.
and i dont want to eat them any way. i eat too much sugar, it makes me lathargic, im constantly tired and just lazy and unmotivated to go to the gym. i dont want to drink the coke but i cant seem to stop. i dont want to live my life like this.
and i know i can eat these things as long as they fit into my calorie goals, but they never do fit, its hard enough planning 3 meals that fit, let alone room for snacks.
and i dont want to eat them any way. i eat too much sugar, it makes me lathargic, im constantly tired and just lazy and unmotivated to go to the gym. i dont want to drink the coke but i cant seem to stop. i dont want to live my life like this.
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Maybe you have binge eating disorder, or overeating disorder?
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You need to start with what's going on on the inside. Dis-ordered eating is a lot more complicated than a 'suck it up buttercup' attitude.
Couple of suggestions that may help.....
1. STOP BEATING YOURSELF UP (easier said than done but all you are doing is wasting energy and perpetuating the destructive cycle)
2. Consider talking to a medical professional
3. Consider looking for a support group either IRL or on the internet
4. Look into IIFYM/Flexible dieting. It can be very effective in helping people (I'm one of them) with food issues.
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KisforKrista wrote: »You need to hate it enough to want to stop. Youre not ready to do that yet.
bingo!
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+2 for both kristas posts. I see it as more dysfuntional for someone to write hate in a post multiple times than the overating. Can't, won't shan't are all indications your thinking is not right and some therapy or gudance would help, but you have to get uo and book the appointment if taking control yourself is too much.KisforKrista wrote: »You need to hate it enough to want to stop. Youre not ready to do that yet.
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Fill the fridge with fruit; ditch the sugary snacks.
If you work from home, fit in as many quick walks as you can.......who will know you stepped out for 15 mins to walk a mile??
If you walk more, you will have more calories to fit in those snacks (if you still want them!)
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Sometimes it is a matter of habit, and you need to work on addressing and changing reflexive patterns of behavior. This could be helpful: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/ihad/view/the-power-of-habit-part-1-why-habits-matter-688130
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britishbeau wrote: »its hard enough planning 3 meals that fit, let alone room for snacks.
How many calories do you eat a day and what sort of thing do you normally have for your meals?0 -
I find planning helps me. If I make sure I have loads of chopped carrots, celery, hard boiled eggs etc. in the fridge and then I am more likely to eat them if I think I'm getting hungry. If it wasn't ready prepped then I would probably go for the chocolate bar instead because it's quicker and easier. The other thing that I have at the moment is a goal to work towards. I am going on holiday at the end of August and last time I went abroad I spent the whole time covered up because I felt so horrible. That is not going to happy this time so I am feeling determined! I still slip up (2 takeaways at the weekend plus ALOT of wine this weekend, for example!) but I make sure that I am extra good for the next couple of days and do some brisk walks at lunchtime. All the best x
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I eat about 1300 calories a day and EAT plenty of food. Generally I eat 5 meals a day, each one under 300 calories.
I eat something every two hours, this way I don't get starving hungry and overeat or reach for that bag of cheddar crackers my kids love. It seems like I am constantly eating....but I since eating 5 tiny meals a day that are packed with nutrition......I am on instagram and share them some times...
Here's my plan for today .
Breakfast
Coffee with Half and Half
Banana
Snack 1
Yogurt
Blue Berries
Lunch
Tofurkey Slices
Mango
Carrot Sticks and Peanut butter
Dinner
Mexican Broccoli and Cauliflower Bake -
Vegetarian Tacos Salad - Non Beef Crumbles seasoned with Taco seasoning, HUGE pile of lettuce, tomatoes, salsa, and 3 or 4 tortilla chips
Snack 2
So Delicious Ice Cream Bar (these are my new fav)
Chocolate Protein Drink
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britishbeau wrote: »I hate being over weight. i hate my body, i hate what i eat. but why cant i change it?
This was the start of my motivation. Well not hating what I eat. OP you're not ready yet.
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smotheredincheese wrote: »britishbeau wrote: »its hard enough planning 3 meals that fit, let alone room for snacks.
How many calories do you eat a day and what sort of thing do you normally have for your meals?
i try to eat 1200 like mfp tells me to, but im just so hungry on that. i usually end up eating 1800-2000. my problem is i hate nearly all veg. and i definately cant eat it cooked, i can eat raw carrot and cucumber, yellow pepper, plum tomatoes at a push but thats about it. i love meats. chicken, turkey, steak, bacon, salmon. i eat alot of pastas, baked potatoes, bread and rice, mostly because theres nothing else in. i also find a battle with my family. last night my bro went to pizza hut and 'out of the kindness of his heart' bought me potatoe wedges that i didnt ask for and then tried to guilt me into eating them. i didnt. its ok for him to eat a whole pizza and dessert though, he just stays skinny even though he eats take out 7-8 times a week atleast.
i try so hard to plan my meals but when i comes to it i just dont want that. or im not full and want more. i crave sweet things alot after ive finished a meal. and i really wish i didnt. and over the past 2 years ive just slowly put on more and more weight.
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You need to give yourself a break.
Maybe you should start with a higher calorie allowance and bring it down over a few weeks or so. If you start eating slightly less you may find that you don't feel as hungry and then it can be an even smaller amount.0 -
I know the feeling. I love to cook healthy myself, but a whole bag of chips or candy can disappear in minutes. Have you tried chocolate covered carrots or cauliflower? Or almond bark? Good luck kido0
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britishbeau wrote: »I hate being over weight. i hate my body, i hate what i eat. but why cant i change it? why cant i not have that kitkat, why cant i leave the chocolate raisins alone? why cant i resist the cakes my dad brings home? i hate myself after eating it.
and i know i can eat these things as long as they fit into my calorie goals, but they never do fit, its hard enough planning 3 meals that fit, let alone room for snacks.
and i dont want to eat them any way. i eat too much sugar, it makes me lathargic, im constantly tired and just lazy and unmotivated to go to the gym. i dont want to drink the coke but i cant seem to stop. i dont want to live my life like this.
Then don't live like that. If you hate it, change it. I'm not trying to be snarky or mean, but ONLY you can do it. YOU have to want it enough to do it.
Stop saying can't and start saying will. If you want to fit snack in, then go for a slower rate of loss so that you won't be miserable. You aren't going to lose all your fat overnight and it might be a good idea to learn how to snack sensibly while you're losing. It might up the chances that you'll be able to maintain the loss once you get to goal.
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britishbeau wrote: »smotheredincheese wrote: »britishbeau wrote: »its hard enough planning 3 meals that fit, let alone room for snacks.
How many calories do you eat a day and what sort of thing do you normally have for your meals?
i try to eat 1200 like mfp tells me to, but im just so hungry on that. i usually end up eating 1800-2000. my problem is i hate nearly all veg. and i definately cant eat it cooked, i can eat raw carrot and cucumber, yellow pepper, plum tomatoes at a push but thats about it. i love meats. chicken, turkey, steak, bacon, salmon. i eat alot of pastas, baked potatoes, bread and rice, mostly because theres nothing else in. i also find a battle with my family. last night my bro went to pizza hut and 'out of the kindness of his heart' bought me potatoe wedges that i didnt ask for and then tried to guilt me into eating them. i didnt. its ok for him to eat a whole pizza and dessert though, he just stays skinny even though he eats take out 7-8 times a week atleast.
i try so hard to plan my meals but when i comes to it i just dont want that. or im not full and want more. i crave sweet things alot after ive finished a meal. and i really wish i didnt. and over the past 2 years ive just slowly put on more and more weight.
Maybe 1200 calories is just too low for you. What did you put in as your activity level? Did you enter that you wanted to lose 2lbs a week?
What are your stats? (age, height, weight, summary of daily activities and workouts?)0 -
britishbeau wrote: »
For me the easiest approach was to simply stop snacking for a while. Plan filling, satisfying meals that have enough protein and fat and lots of volume, and if you feel like eating remind yourself that it's not the long until your next meal, and make sure it's something you can look forward to.
My exception to the no snacking, at first, was raw veggies, and I only resorted to them for a short time and then stopped thinking about eating so often. I wanted to break the habit of thinking I needed to be eating whenever I was simply bored or wanted a break from work (my office has tons of snacks around, way more than I have at home, so it's a similar situation).
My sister doesn't cut out snacking but when she's home all day she puts some berries on the counter so when she thinks about snacking that's what she eats.
I also agree with those suggesting that maybe 1200 is too aggressive for you. Maybe try 1600 and see if you can stick to that more easily. Sticking to a deficit over time is more important than having a really aggressive deficit. (And going to low can be bad for you and self-defeating for some people.)0 -
I can really see the sadness and frustration in your post. There is a lot going on at an emotional level for you. I think it would help to talk to someone about it.
Many of us never had good role models for loving and accepting ourselves. It isn't uncommon for us to look to food, alcohol or drugs to sooth ourselves. Interesting that when we make friends with ourselves and learn to sooth ourselves in healthy ways...weight loss is back in our control.
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I agree with the scarily named @I_Will_End_You (I'd be scared not to. lol) Maybe 1200 is too low for you. It's really hard to go from 2000 calories a day to 1200. What if you just choose a lower amount to lose per week while you are figuring things out? I'm short and at 1.5lbs loss a week (more because I'm crap when it comes to actually measuring a portion of anything) My food diary is open if you want to see what I ate yesterday at 1200 calories (although it might have actually been a little more). Don't forget too that you can eat back exercise calories.
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1200 is definitely too low. You don't sound like you have a binge eating problem. It sounds like you're just hungry because you're not eating enough, and inexperienced in planning meals for satiety. So that leaves you vulnerable to foods that are high-flavor and accessible.
Lemurcat12 offered great advice.
For me, it helped in the beginning to just not have those easy triggers in the house. Later, I would have them, but in single servings outside of the house.
How tall are you and how much were you eating before MFP? You could just track you intake without changing anything for a week, and subtract 300 from that for your intake target, and do 200-300 calories' worth of exercise.0 -
Also people are going to say its all up to you, and it is, but you can also talk to your dad and brother and ask for their support. Ie "thank you for thinking of me, but I would really appreciate it you could help me reach my goals by not buying me cake or fries for a while, until I get a handle on this"
By the way, for me, I had to go through a no triggers in the house period so that willpower didn't even have to come up. I still don't buy stuff that leads to too much (chhips for me). After a period of retraining my taste buds , though, I wanted that stuff less. So that might be worth trying.0 -
When you get that urge to snack, drink ice cold water.the most common mistake is.hunger for thirst. Also.whilst working from home instEad of hitting the fridge hit the floor do some push ups or sit ups just as.many.as you can for a minute. If you really are tired of being sick and.tired, your the only.person.who can take that.first step. I promise you won't.Look back once you get started!!0
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1. I want chocolate covered raisins now.
2. You are on here, so that is a start. I suggest looking at the success stories. I love to go to those for inspiration.
3. If it were easy, everyone would be fit and at a perfect weight. Stop being so hard on yourself. You will get there.0 -
britishbeau wrote: »
Also, consider working from a coffee shop or library or shared workspace. (Is eating part of some kind of procrastination thing? Try to think of some other ways to break up your workflow. Go for a 10 minute walk outside, for eg)0 -
Totally know how you feel. Struggling myself. Water, celery, carrots and the like do not squash that craving! Give yourself a break (no pun intended - honest). I do think that taking that 15 min walk round the block is the key. I never feel hungrey when I have finished exercise. It may not fat burn but all the time you are out walking you are not fridge raiding! The key thing is that don't give up giving up those naughty foods.0
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