I really struggle on the weekends.

My problem is that I am diligent and spot on with my deficit during the week, and then I obliterate it during the weekend with alcohol and the subsequent food choices.

I "officially" weigh in every Friday. The past few Fridays I have weighed in around 137 (137.4, 137.2, 137.8). Then I go overboard on the weekend and bloat up to 143-144 come Monday. Work hard during the week to get down around 137 again on Friday. Then repeat. And now here I am again on another Monday, angry with myself. I would have been to goal months ago had I stayed consistent.

I know what I'm doing wrong and that I can't expect to reach my goals without putting forth the effort and changing my lifestyle. I'm hoping writing it out will help hold me accountable. And any advice from someone who's been in a similar situation would also be much appreciated. Thanks!

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  • discretekim
    discretekim Posts: 314 Member
    Well I don't try to hard on weekends. But it seems like you are definitely going overboard. Have you thought of trying to eat maintenance on the weekends? That should be attainable. I just don't track enough on the weekends either. Good luck. If you can cut down the weekends even a little your good weeks will make up for it.
  • Naener
    Naener Posts: 167 Member
    im the same, though my weight doesnt fluctuate so hard... maybe .5- 2.5 pounds give or take any events on the weekends haha. i hit the gym 5 days a week and meal prep mid week, but friday night to sunday night its allllll forgotten. :(
  • gothicfires
    gothicfires Posts: 240 Member
    It's great to have friends. I am inspired to work hard by the group of friends that I have. I give them encouragement as much as I can.

    But

    No one can do this for you. None of us can go party with you can keep you from drinking that beer. I can assure you that it is most definitely possible to have fun without it. You have to be the one to decide what you want in about and around your life. Do you want that beer or do you want to loose weight? Do you want the two slices of pizza and nachos or do you want to loose weight? The choice doesn't go away just because the 5pm alarm rings and you get off work.

    There is no getting off of life and unfortunately the only one that can hold you accountable for how you want to live it is you.
  • Somebody_Loved
    Somebody_Loved Posts: 498 Member
    Thanks for the responses. I constantly battle wanting to lose weight with wanting to maintain the same lifestyle, which is why I haven't made much progress. I like the idea of eating at maintenance on the weekends, I'll definitely try that.
  • petstorekitty
    petstorekitty Posts: 592 Member
    Heh. I could have written this post. I have similar problems.
    I've gotten better by making a priority to do at least 1 active thing in the weekend. Fun exercise. Making a concious effort to at least make healthier choices on the weekend helps.
    Not so much "dieting" just healthier.

    I think part of the problem might be that sometimes i go overboard on healthy during the week that I freak out after a while. Like OMG Ive eaten veggies all week i need 6 tacos NOW!!! and 2 burgers and 6 beers. Then im sad.

    Im more successful when i think about what i eat (on the weekends) and how i want to feel afterwards, before i do it.

  • Somebody_Loved
    Somebody_Loved Posts: 498 Member
    That's so true. I think a lot of it is the all or nothing mentality that I'm trying to break. I've made a lot of progress with it but by force of habit, the second I'm off work on Friday I go into "all" mode. Thinking about how I want to feel come the end of the weekend is great advice, I'll work on that.
  • SueInAz
    SueInAz Posts: 6,592 Member
    Have you given any thought to eating different calorie allotments on weekdays vs. weekends? Sure, you could just eat at maintenance on the weekend but you could also choose to eat 100 less calories each day on the weekdays, since you have the discipline to meet your goals those days. That would then give you an extra 500 calories for the weekend. You'd still have to maintain a little discipline but it would give you a little more wiggle room for some weekend fun while still working toward the same goal.
  • TeaBea
    TeaBea Posts: 14,517 Member
    SueInAz wrote: »
    Have you given any thought to eating different calorie allotments on weekdays vs. weekends? Sure, you could just eat at maintenance on the weekend but you could also choose to eat 100 less calories each day on the weekdays, since you have the discipline to meet your goals those days. That would then give you an extra 500 calories for the weekend. You'd still have to maintain a little discipline but it would give you a little more wiggle room for some weekend fun while still working toward the same goal.

    This^

    Zig-zag your calories. If you eat small a couple days a week....you can bank those calories for the weekend.
  • Somebody_Loved
    Somebody_Loved Posts: 498 Member
    @SueInAz @TeaBea - Thank you for the advice! I would love to do that and think I would do well with it but I'm currently at 1200 calories a day. I know it's not advisable to go down to 1100 calories a day so would it work the same to get the "extra" 100 calories through working out?
  • RLeighP
    RLeighP Posts: 232 Member
    Everyone slips up. Everyone has a day that they go over. But I try to limit those to maybe once a month. The other weekends, I just try to make the best choices I can in the situation I'm in. Even if that means having a large breakfast with my family and then working out extra and eating light the rest of the day. If going out and drinking is as important to you as the weight loss, you'll find ways to work around it.
  • pmm3437
    pmm3437 Posts: 529 Member
    I find I eat more on the weekends too. Its the lighter level of activity, coupled with the ease of access to the fridge.

    Alcohol, like anything else, gives you options. If you still want to drink socially on the weekends, look into reducing intake ( 1 less per occassion ), or switch to a lower cal option ( neat, etc instead of with fruit juice or full cal soda .. )

    Switch your grocery shopping / errands to Sat or Sun afternoon, to get out of the house and away from your calorie stockpile.

    Generally speaking, going below 1200 cals short term is fine ( day or 2 at a time ), but not for extended periods. Your cal and macro counts are much more important averaged over a period of time, than day to day.

    Just for clarification, that 1200 floor is gross calories, to support metabolism, not net. If you want to add some more exercise to arrive at a net below that, its generally safe to do so, assuming your getting proper nutrition ( macro and micro nutrients .. ).
  • SueInAz
    SueInAz Posts: 6,592 Member
    edited June 2015
    pmm3437 wrote: »
    Generally speaking, going below 1200 cals short term is fine ( day or 2 at a time ), but not for extended periods. Your cal and macro counts are much more important averaged over a period of time, than day to day.

    Just for clarification, that 1200 floor is gross calories, to support metabolism, not net. If you want to add some more exercise to arrive at a net below that, its generally safe to do so, assuming your getting proper nutrition ( macro and micro nutrients .. ).

    Agreed. The general reason for the 1200 calories has to do more with nutrition rather than the caloric content. If you're still averaging 1200 per day for the course of a week, and getting proper nutrition every day, it shouldn't be a problem.

    It might be worth taking a look at that 1200 and the reason you're eating that little, though. Unless you're a very small person, 1200 calories as an MFP goal is usually a good indicator that you're being too aggressive with your per week loss goal.
  • coreyreichle
    coreyreichle Posts: 1,031 Member
    What do you drink? Sugary mixed drinks? Try to find no-sugar mixers (ie, Diet Coke and Rum). Drink beer? Switch to Tequila (Lowest calorie count per shot), and mix with a diet mixer.
  • Somebody_Loved
    Somebody_Loved Posts: 498 Member
    Thanks for the clarification. I am 5'6", CW is 137.8 and GW of 125. My weekly goal is to lose 1 pound per week. I can change it to .5/week and see if that does anything to my daily calorie goal.

    As for drinks, I usually drink light beer or wine.
  • SueInAz
    SueInAz Posts: 6,592 Member
    edited June 2015
    Thanks for the clarification. I am 5'6", CW is 137.8 and GW of 125. My weekly goal is to lose 1 pound per week. I can change it to .5/week and see if that does anything to my daily calorie goal.

    As for drinks, I usually drink light beer or wine.

    Yes, so close to goal .5 pound per week is probably a better rate. You could certainly stick to your 1200 during the week and then give yourself the extra calories on the weekends. You'll get more calories to add to the weekend without the guilt.

    One trick that helps me on the weekends, or whenever I'm out drinking: alternate with water. Either have a water and your drink at all times or order a drink then get a water and repeat. You'll not only take in less calories and spend less money but you'll stay more hydrated and you'll feel better the next morning.
  • ashdawg8790
    ashdawg8790 Posts: 819 Member
    Just a thought, but any chance you could change your official weigh-in day? It sounds like you know you're going to have a few days buffer after a weekend, so you can work off what you've done, making you feel a little more comfortable doing it. What about trading your weigh-in day to Monday or Tuesday? It'll up your accountability a bit for your choices... Also, try tracking your calories as a weekly goal... and try pre-logging if you can for those outings... Know you're going to your favorite bar for beers and nachos? Try logging those portions and plan the rest of your day around it... or lower the amounts you eat/drink there to fit a little better within your day (and then stick with them!)... It ends up being a whole lot of trial and error to figure out what works best FOR YOU. Good luck!! :)
  • Somebody_Loved
    Somebody_Loved Posts: 498 Member
    Thanks again, everyone, for your help!

    @SueInAz - I've heard a lot of people alternate with water while they're out, I'll definitely give that a go this weekend.

    @ashdawg8790 - I tried to switch my weigh in day in the past to help hold me accountable but it didn't work for me. I still went out and ended up dreading getting on the scale Monday morning. I love the idea of pre-logging before and planning my day around it, thanks for the suggestion.
  • sopoeticqueen
    sopoeticqueen Posts: 3 Member
    @some_loved I think maybe for a bout 6 months you should do whatever you're doing during the week and the only have one cheat weekend a month for 6 months and see what happens that way you can gauge your progress and choose the times you cheat more selectively as apposed to every week end but you can also still have you're fun also changing to wine or making sure you don't do very sweet drinks if you go more than once a month and already planning something not so fattening to eat after you have fun i.e. egg whites and turkey meat from ihop which is always open maybe safer!
  • Somebody_Loved
    Somebody_Loved Posts: 498 Member
    I don't consider the weekends "cheat" days, they just happen to be days that I have plans with friends and are more social. I don't want to cut them out while I'm losing weight as I plan to continue to go out while maintaining my weight. Instead, I want to learn how to go out on the weekends in moderation.

    I definitely agree about being more selective for when I go out, though. I have a tendency to go out on Friday and Saturday for the sheer fact that it's the weekend. I can definitely get better about that.
  • marynificent
    marynificent Posts: 110 Member
    omg i do this too. the only way i've ever beat it is to eliminate alcohol completely, but who wants to do that!
  • Somebody_Loved
    Somebody_Loved Posts: 498 Member
    @marynificent - I know! I've thought about that, too, but it just feeds into my "all or nothing" mentality and I'm really trying to learn how to moderate. I know I'm never going to give it up completely so I need to learn how to enjoy it while still working towards my goal. Very tricky.
  • sissypriss22
    sissypriss22 Posts: 21 Member
    What has helped me is knowing I have a "cheat day" but knowing I still have to log in my calories makes me a little more picky with what I eat...another thing I tell myself is a moment of self gratification worth days of guilt? Think about it good luck
  • ellesMFP93
    ellesMFP93 Posts: 43 Member
    I find that I lose more weight over the weekend. The reason being that I have more time in the morning to make myself a big breakfast and don't need to eat as much for the rest of the day. I eat high fat, low carb so my breakfast weekend breakfast would usually be scrambled eggs with full fat cheese and bacon. Then I only need a light snack for lunch and a small dinner. Low carb isn't for everyone and you don't even necessarily need to cut carbs but eating more fats and proteins will generally keep you full for a longer period of time.

    When I drink, I have a vodka shot with water and lime as the mixer. Keeps you hydrated so your hangover isn't so bad and it tastes just like lime infused water.

    Good luck x
  • cschu544
    cschu544 Posts: 320 Member
    Heh. I could have written this post. I have similar problems.
    I've gotten better by making a priority to do at least 1 active thing in the weekend. Fun exercise. Making a concious effort to at least make healthier choices on the weekend helps.
    Not so much "dieting" just healthier.

    I think part of the problem might be that sometimes i go overboard on healthy during the week that I freak out after a while. Like OMG Ive eaten veggies all week i need 6 tacos NOW!!! and 2 burgers and 6 beers. Then im sad.

    Im more successful when i think about what i eat (on the weekends) and how i want to feel afterwards, before i do it.

    This is exactly me. I do double work outs during the week because I teach zumba so my body is used to the high calorie burn that it stopped being an effective tool for weight loss. So after class I have to go to the gym. Ever since I started doing this I've seen results. I do the same thing on the weekends but I've been eating more healthy (like instead of eating this bacon pizza I ordered this white pizza with spinach and tomatos instead) so I still have a burn on saturday and Sunday but I don't think it registers for my body anymore. So it's like just talking a walk now. I try to get outside and go hiking or take the dog out or go swimming. Every little choice you make will help you. You don't have to deny yourself a rest day but just be careful. I love beer too... believe me. But now instead of 4 blue moons I'll do two light beers. Not as delicious but I saves me hundreds of calories. It's just small things that you might be able to tweak. Just remind yourself on the weekend how good you were feeling Wednesday when you're scale lost another lb.

    I totally get it though. It's not easy when everyone has cheese fries and you have a salad. I'm constantly working on saying no to bad foods. MUCH easier said than done.
  • williamwj2014
    williamwj2014 Posts: 750 Member
    I'm sorry..if you can't hang out with friends without it involving drinking, you're always going to fall into this trap. I have a hard time being sympathetic to your situation because for one, in order to achieve what you want, you must be willing to sacrifice. You don't have to be with your friends every weekend if its going to cause you to fail..seriously. You're doing it to yourself.
  • persephonic
    persephonic Posts: 7 Member
    Alternate in a glass of water or soda water and ice between each alcoholic drink - 50% calories saved right there!
  • Somebody_Loved
    Somebody_Loved Posts: 498 Member
    @williamwj2014 - I take full responsibility for my slow progress and was not looking for sympathy. I understand what I'm doing wrong and that I need to make sacrifices to reach my goal (as stated in my OP). I was more looking for advice and suggestions from others who have found ways to manage a good balance in these types of situations.
  • alexjost520
    alexjost520 Posts: 4 Member
    Holy *kitten* I totally get this! In fact you kind of pulled me out of my depression tonight, sometimes it's nice to know people are exactly like you!
  • OmarGallegos20255
    OmarGallegos20255 Posts: 16 Member
    I do the same thing on Friday and Saturday I tend to go to the bar then occasionally eat fast food after but I feel so bad the next day I literally work my butt off to burn off at least half of the calories I ate
  • UMDavies
    UMDavies Posts: 87 Member
    I had exactly the same problem! I was living with eight housemates, all of us 22-23 years old, and all of us working 9-5 during the week. Needless to say, on the weekends we tended to go a bit overboard and treat ourselves. What I found worked for me was scheduling exercise in for reasonably early (like, before lunch... not too early!) on Saturday and Sunday mornings. I'd go to a spin class on Saturday at 11am, and then all of us would go walking in the park near us on Sunday before lunch. This made me more conscious of what/how much I was drinking on the Friday and Saturday nights as I knew I had to be up early, as well as helping to burn off the alcohol calories. And it gets you out of the house so you're not tempted to just sit around eating junk all day! We also started going to spin on Friday evenings after work, to kind of 'bank' a few exercise calories before the night out.

    Of course, the ideal thing would be to tone it down to only drinking one night per weekend (or even every other weekend) and not getting takeaway afterwards/eating hangover snacks the next day. But it's easier said than done!